The Backbone of My Friendships

Trust me when I tell you most of the youth today don’t know the meaning of friendship. How can you wake up and classify everyone as your friend. Incase you didn’t know, we have something called an acquaintance. Then there’s also something called friendship. As an adult , you should be able to differentiate your friends from your acquaintances.

Personally, I have so many acquaintances but a few friends. For me to call you my friend, that would mean that I’ve come to know you inside out , I’m able to relate with you on a personal level and finally, I have been able to build some level of trust for you. I know that I can discuss a very important issue with my friends and they won’t go out to tell anyone about it.

My friends know I’m a no nonsense person and I wouldn’t lie to you just to make you happy. I see black and I say it’s black. Most people like to polish stuff just to make people like them. I believe a true friend is one who is always brutally honest with you no matter what. As my friend, I expect that you tell me the truth even if it’s going to hurt my feeling because I would also do same if the tables should turn.

Friendship is a very big word if you ask me. But today, we have just taken it so lightly. For most people, they only call you their friend because you go out to parties or clubbing with them, spray money around and come back home to gossip about others. As they say, your friend group defines who you are and that’s why I am very selective with who I befriend.

I’m a very ambitious person and so I wouldn’t befriend people who don’t even know what they want in life. Your friends are supposed to push you up to where ever you want to reach and vice versa. If my friend can’t have a positive impact in my life and I can’t also do same for them, then we are better off being strangers.

One thing I hate in my life so much is people who try to play the victim. I met one lady at an event last year and we started talking. She was a very nice person and I knew she liked my vibe because we could talk the whole day. Then, one particular day we were discussing something and she told me her take on the topic. I also gave my take on the issue and all of a sudden she ghosted me only to come back a week later to tell me she felt attacked. And I’m like really? So now someone is not allowed to have their own opinion anymore because you think otherwise. I thought we could become friends later in the future but right at that instant, I knew it wasn’t going to work out so I dumped her in the acquaintance basket.

A friend should be someone you can go to on both your good and bad days. A friend should be someone you can trust and feel comfortable around. A friend should be there for you, correct you when you’re wrong and also expect the same for you. Finally, a friend should be able to be your safe space.

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