Love Shouldn't Hurt: Building Healthy Relationships

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You’d agree with me if I said this generation of ours doesn’t really know the meaning of love. For some ladies, it’s all about which guy takes them to the nicest locations to eat and also get nice pictures to post and give their friends fake ‘pressure’. For some guys, it’s about the lady who can cook, wash and do the duties of a wife.

We most at times forget that there’s more to love than we think is. I’d like to believe that most people’s definition of love reflects how they grew up and how they have been shown love growing up. For example, let’s assume while growing up your parents always gave you sweets as a way of apologizing or just to get you to forget about what they’ve done to offend you instead of actually talking about. As you grow up, you’d also start giving people thinks they like when you offend them thinking that it’s just going to take the pain and hurt you’ve caused them away.

All these eventually play a role is the youth of today finding it difficult to have positive relationships. It’s more than obvious that most of us don’t even know what love feels like anymore because we are so used to toxic relationships to the extent that when we meet someone who treats us right, we think they’re stupid or boring. Everyone deserves a positive relationship , if you can’t find one it’s okay to be single.

I’m still trying to understand how people think being single is a bad thing. Our brother @yahuzah is single and he’s not dead.😂😂 Anyways, my point is sometimes we need to even give ourselves a break from relationships. You can’t be jumping from one toxic relationship to another. At least give yourself some time to heal and move on before you hop into an another relationship. That way, you’d be able to give your partner your all and not feel bad for your relationship being one sided.

Love is a beautiful thing and we all deserve to experience it with the right people. It’s not all rosy, but at least you deserve to have peace at the end of the day. No one wants to be in a relationship where they constantly feel threatened or belittled. You need to run as far and fast as you can if you find yourself in such a situation. Let’s say no to toxic and manipulative relationships.

This is my entry to day 1 of the #mayinleo prompts. You can read more about it here


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😂😂 what did Yahuza do to deserve this good example? Where did he sleep?😂

Like you rightly said, it’s best to stay single than go hoping from one toxic relationship to another

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Yahuza decided to be single cos he’s scared of broken heart.😂😂

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I think people jump into relationships because of the pressures they face from peers which shouldn't be the case. People have to realize there's more to life than unfruitful relationships and the earlier they do so, the better

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What’s worse than being in a relationship you don’t want. You only get pressured if you allow yourself to be pressured. It’s that simple.

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The rate f toxic relationship nowadays is alarming and you mentioned the reason in your post, most people date for selfish reasons, the ladies for materialistic stuff and the men for sex, i had to type it since you want to confuse people with wife duty lol

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Haha, I’m not confusing anyone oo. Everyone knows what they want. Some relationships are more like a transactional something these days.😂

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Exactly, what I used to tell people around me who are in a mess called a relationship. Is it not better to live than leave?

May God give them listening ears🙏

Thanks for this sincere writeup🤗

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They said love is blind. When it clears from their eyes they will leave.😂😂

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Sadly, love is losing its actual representation it makes it difficult to know what love is. Selfish interest has led most to fake love and end up in toxic relationships.

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Most people love the fake love. It’s even scary these days. Do we really know what love is anymore?

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If there’s one thing in this a lot that I’ve been through, it’s that, being unable to be yourself around your partner is a huge red flag, being belittled or trying to lower yourself to please their ego will just make things worse.

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I always say, if they can’t upgrade to meet your standards they’re not ready to be with you cos if roles were reversed, they wouldn’t even take a second look at you.

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