How Lonely Does It Get? [#LOH CONTEST 123]

Hello ladies!
It’s another week with some interesting topics for discussion. It brings me so much joy to be able to take part in this contest and share my thoughts. I would like to send a special thanks to @merit.ahama for selecting these wonderful topics.

These topics are a few of the issues todays people always dread to talk about. I’m glad someone finally did.
Allow me share my thoughts with you all on the first topic :

1️⃣ Why are there so many people who are lonely? Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections?

First off, what is the state of loneliness?

Loneliness is a state of mind linked to wanting human contact but feeling alone. People can be alone and not feel lonely, or they can have contact with people and still experience feelings of isolation.
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As human, we are meant to get lonely once in a while. It is a part of us but, when it becomes excessive then it becomes a problem.

What causes loneliness?

Loneliness comes in different forms with many factors triggering it. Some people get lonely for no reason which can lead to depression while others get lonely due to situations they’re going through.

One can get lonely from living alone.
Living alone has its advantages and disadvantages. As a living example, I have experienced loneliness at some point. Sometimes we tend to be indoors for so long we forget there’s a world out there waiting for us. Living alone can trigger loneliness , most especially when you’re idle.

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People are lonely because they’re unable to let some things go. We should understand that not everyone is like the way we are and in one way or another, people are going to cross our boundaries or get on our nerves. I’m not saying we should let everything slide but there are instances where we hold grudges for things which ends up ruining our relationship with people. Maybe if we learnt to forgive and not take everything to heart, people would want to be around more. No one wants to be around someone who you have to say sorry to for a joke you make.

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Higher expectations from others is a major cause of loneliness. Most people fail to accept the fact that life is to be lived without expectations from others. Some people do stuff for others because they expect them to return the favor and when that doesn’t happen they tend to overthink it which leads to a whole lot of issues and loneliness in the end.

Waiting on others to make us feel better about ourselves can also lead to loneliness. Have you ever been in a situation where you need someone around you before you can feel good about yourself? That’s low self esteem. Most people face this problem and with this issue you tend to always want to be around others. A little time alone can make your mind wander to a whole lot of places which can lead to loneliness.

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Financial issues and divorce can also cause loneliness.
Majority of the world’s population is lonely due to divorce or financial issues. We can deny it as much as we want but we know it’s true.
In all we do, we should try to settle down with the right partner. Look out for all red flags to prevent divorce in the near future.
Some issues related to our finances can be resolved if we had a proper approach to manage our finances.

Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections.

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The rate of depressed people in the world is a story for another day. But ,it is one reason why people cannot make real connections with others.
Most of us have trust issues because we have had our trust broken by people we trusted.
It’s very difficult to find someone you can connect with in today’s world because most people are scared. We want to have those connections with people we think can understand us deeply but what is stopping us? Trust!
To me, it all balls down to trust. Do you trust the person enough to open up to them? Give it some thought and you’ll realize how easy it is to have a real connection with someone but then your insecurities are in the way.

These are my thoughts on this weeks topic. I hope you enjoyed reading. Thank you.