Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship. A big deal?

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Jealous lovers are the most dangerous but lovely people in love on the face of the earth. These sets of people are special breeds of humans with active emotions. These people do not want to share whom they love with other people no matter the situation. However, in the real sense, no one would like to share his/her lover with someone else. They believe that their show of love is in their jealousy. Love is one of the greatest things on the earth. All the attributes of love are in humans, and they express them toward another. the human form of jealousy is that they are guilty of forcing themselves on their lover. Most times when the odds are against them, they are ready to fight in such a relationship to win and occupy the place l alone. Love cannot be explained with the human language, it is a gift given to creatures to make lives worth living. Imagine a society without love and affection, imagine how chaotic and problematic it could be. Love is what keeps the world going and the moment love is absent in the hearts of men, the world eventually becomes a hostile place to live in.
To a greater extent, jealous lovers are mostly losers in every relationship. This is so because people take them for granted and think that they are putting or forcing themselves on the person they claim to love. Jealous lovers are two different sets of people; we have the ones that love with the whole of their hearts, in fact, with everything they have at their disposal. This set of people does not double date. Their focus is on the person they are currently in love with. And peradventure the relationship ends, they can have nothing to do with the person, relationship-wise. Moreover, Whenever, they suspect their partner of having a deal with someone else, they become so jealous and bitter because they will not be able to cheat also. These are the unfortunate set of lovers in most relationships.

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Other sets of jealous lovers are the one who fantasizes about their lover but has the tendency to have another lover elsewhere and at the same time do not want to lose any of them. However, priority might be placed on one of the partners but at the same time does not want to lose any of them. These are the most confused set of people in a relationship. They hardly tell what they want in a relationship. If allowed to choose who they want to be with, they will be found wanting. These sets of lovers are very dangerous and they are like witchcraft. These people can do anything within their purview to keep their lover. Most times, they go to the extent of fighting whom they suspect is having a deal with their lover. They are also dangerous because they would not want to be treated the same way they are treating other people. The proverb of do unto others what you would love them to do to you does not apply to them. They might cheat, but cannot stand others cheating on them. They would want to dictate another person’s whereabouts but would not want to be accountable to another. They will require transparency from others yet they are not transparent. Breaking free from this kind of lover is not always easy. Most times, this kind of relationship ends in regret and loss. And no matter what, domestic violence becomes inevitable in such a relationship.
Most times, what keeps this relationship going is that one partner has decided to become a fool and consume whatever is thrown at him or her so that peace can reign, therefore, whenever a once peaceful relationship starts becoming problematic and incessantly chaotic, know that one partner has decided to stop playing a fool.

Jealousy can be a sign of genuine love and at the same time, a sign of a mental problem depending on who is the actor. Whenever you become so obsessed with a person that his or her dealing with another person has made you uncomfortable, it is high time, you checkmate yourself because you can be pushed to react to things unnecessarily thereby putting yourself in trouble and the other person.