This question of @Ladiesofhive is coming up at a very right time for me.
1️⃣ Single Mothers!
You don't have to be a single mother to share your thoughts on this, as we all must have seen or been close to one, if not been one. They are mothers too, but how different? Do you have any advice for them to keep pushing?

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First of all, I must say that I am not a Single Mother and God has been very kind to me to give the best family I could ever ask for in form of my Husband and Son. In my Son's growing up also I have received good amount of help and support from my husband and my mother-in-law. But no matter what as a Mother I do have my challenges and ways to deal with them. Being a Mother is tough you need to keep balancing all the time. My Son is 26 and everyone says that now you must be done with your responsibilities and free. That's not the case. A Mother can never get free from her responsibilities towards their children. Every phase of their life will bring some thing new and a Mother will have to keep dealing with it.

Though I am not as much involved in his life at this stage but time and again I have to when it is needed. Children at this age are just starting to make their lives in their relationships and in their career and they need a handholding or guidance. It is the time when they can get easily carried away with all the life around them and someone has to be there who can guide them. Trust me at that age they think they are ruling the world and they do not want to listen to anyone and it's only a Mother who can influence them to a large extent. A Mother will always wish good for their children and they will guide them with utmost sincerity with no intentions of getting anything out of it.

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At the age that my Son is, soon he will be married and he will have his own family but that does not again mean that I will be completely free, because there will be responsibilities of taking care of Grand Children then. Well, all of these ways of life are different in different parts of the world. In India we still live in joint families with parents and children all living together and taking care of each other. Though nowadays this culture is changing, but my family would like to be together all under one roof.

A Mother can only best understand her child. She will understand his/her strengths and weaknesses and will always be a guiding force for them. When my Son was very small at 3 years of his age, he had issues with his speech. Everyone would force him to speak and think that he is a dumb child. But I knew he had issues and he was not doing it purposely and he needed lot of help to overcome. When he is in pain, I can feel his pain and I want to stand beside him to share that pain. Everyone around will try to bring out some logic in it but as mother I will look at the situation with empathy and compassion.

So many challenges as a Mother a female goes through right from the time a child is born and she needs to stay strong and put up with all of it. But as important it is to dedicate yourself to your children it is also important to not ignore your own-self and your own feelings as well. May be till their age of 4 to 5 you may not be able to do that but once they are above that age, it is important to tell them that even you need some time for yourself and they need to be on their own for a while. I would do that; I would leave my Son with my Mother-in-law and take some time off and space out for my own things.

I don't think so it is so easy to define a role of a mother, it is about anything and everything that goes on with your child at any age. The only difference is when they are young it is physical work and when they grow up it is more about mental work and sometimes physical also. And no matter what she has to always stand strong in front of her child.

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