Life changes as the flow of time changes. No one stays forever, just like the age of a person and because of it; The understanding of life changes. Growing old changes the way we think about life. No more playing games because battling to survive has now become an individual responsibility. Hence, getting married is just an option, it’s not an obligation that someone should be desperate to be. Remember that it’s not about what people think but it’s about the decision you should make if you want to.

“Wait, a short story or maybe just a tale of me when I was not married. I think a couple of times when my girlfriend asked me to get married. I said a lot of excuses to avoid the topic of getting married. It was rude of me and maybe selfish as well. I couldn’t help it, I was not ready to be married yet. Actually, I would never be because the life of no responsibility is so amazing.

You see a bird flying in the sky right? Just imagine how beautiful is life when you can do everything what you wanted. Whenever you’d go, just tell your parents they’ll just let you be. No one will wait for you and no one can tell you what to do. See, a single life is amazing right? That’s why, it’s hard for me to enter in the married life.

I kept ignoring her dream to settle down because I didn’t want to escape in a life where I didn’t need to hustle my life. However, I realized that I loved her, not just an ordinary one. A love that might see myself in the mud crawling if she’d ever leave me. So yeah, it was the love alone that finally I decided to be in married. Not being afraid of what happen because it’s more terrifying if she could think of leaving me instead.”

Being married doesn’t mean you’re a cool person. For me, it’s just the emotions that what someone has felt inside. Also, don’t misunderstand things of being married. Just because you are chain already in papers and blessings you will be confident that you will stay forever. There’s no perfect relationship, so is the perfect marriage. There are times that decisions making will not be agreed with the two of you. Harsh conversations, nagging, and sometimes turninig back to one another. It’s normal, both of you has an ego that sometimes overwhelmed the emotions.

Time will come there will be a big fight but it will only happen when both of you wanted it that way. If there are misunderstandings, explain your reasons and talk it over. I’m sure the love for both you will be in between of your reasonings and will help you to understand one another. Stop pressuring oneself not to end the fighting for a night because when it’s a big one, it needs more time. I’m telling the both of you that it’s okay but just don’t forget that during those times, think of cooling your head and think of how to make up one another. Don’t ask help for a family or friends because at the end of the day, you as a couple will be the one to reunite again.

Don’t embarassed yourself more by telling people about your partners’ flaws, mistakes or about bad things about him/her. You’re his/her partner, obviously it’s only you could understand. Also, always be afraid of God so there’s always a fear to do mistakes or bad deeds in your marriage. There is no perfect marriage indeed, but there is a beautiful marriage and that should be the one be work on.

Congratulations, both….

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ABOUT ME

Paul was born in Macrohon, Southern Leyte but currently living in Cahayag, San Francisco Southern Leyte. He graduated the course of a BS Mar-E or Bachelor of Science in Marine Engineering in 2019. Although writing is his passion so instead of sailing he decided on writing.

He writes occasionally about random stuff he would see in the outside world. He loves to express what he feels through writing because he's not good at speaking personally.

He also writes fictional stories and emotions because he thinks life matters. He is hoping that his words could reach someone who might be feeling down.

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