To Forgive And Let Go, Is Not Always easy.
Forgiveness isn't a choice, it is something that you must do weather you like it or not, though it is very hard to do it but we have to.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean you are doing the person a favour, it is yourself that you are releasing from bondage. Unforgivable is bondage, your caging yourself and stopping yourself from deriving joy or peace of mind.... Infact it is burden.
Just like my very self which i will use an example.... I used to hold grudges, I don't really know why, but i know that malice, grudges and unforgiveness were holding me captive.... Very little misunderstanding with someone, i will get upset and the next time i will be like i will never forgive for what you did to me then i will carry like that expecting the person to apologize to me first, so anytime i sees the person, i am always angry and bittered that the person is just acting normal as if nothing happened...
The truth of the matter is that the person isn't really affected by anything, it is me that is bearing the pains. Also, once I don't forgive the person, i always expect the person to forgive me first, because the person offended me first...... For real though, forgiveness is not about who forgives who first or who apologies first, its all about freedom.
When i came to realize that forgiveness is wide, i had to study it because i know what i was going through because i refused to forgive... I know the good friends i loosed because my pride won't let me go to the person and ask for forgiveness, i end up waiting for them, they won't come, and then i loose then..
Sometimes, i will be like i have forgiven, the person but I don't feel like talking to the person it showing means that you haven't forgiven the person fully because If you forgive someone, you will have every reason to talk to the person....
And yes, i feel forgiveness is the most hardest thing to do because i have experienced it.. letting go of the things people did or say to you isn't easy.. letting go of that hurt is hard, it takes grace to help the person.
I also discovered that even the holy book has cautioned us to forgive those who hurt us so that our heavenly father will also forgive us too.
So, why the grudges, why the hatred, why everything.
After some few findings and research on unforgiveness and forgiveness, i decided to try and forgive people who deserves my forgive.... I should not held back whatever that happened because it just ends it making me the prisoner and the loser too and i know how all of that can hurt someone.
So, let's try to forgive someone today.
Thank you so very much @hiveghana for this beautiful topic, it was a nice time pening things down...
Goodnight and have a lovely night
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Yes it is true,it is not always easy to forgive especially when it hurts badly
But we have to try to set ourselves free
I agree, holding grudges makes one miserable and we will find out that forgiveness helps us more because it can be very freeing and make us feel so relieved.
Fact ooo
Is more difficult when we look back and realize that the offender is someone we have done a whole lot for, but in all it's very important to forgive and let go.
Its more painful when it's those set of people.... But anyhow, we have to forgive