Creating A Positive Parenting Experience: My Visions For Child Raising.

To think that this has always been my thoughts everyday, i have always been thinking of how to be the perfect mother to my children. I have grow to see a lot of people train their children and i don't want to be one

I know that parenting isn't an easy one, but trust me, i won't make mistakes my parents did...
I grew up in a home that my parents are always very very extremely busy.... I know they're hustling for us, but omor... It was too much.
We joined the school bus in my nursery school, so... As kids then, we will leave the house by 6am so that the school bus will pick everyone on time and return back to school. My parents will go to work at 8am and return late and by then, they will be very tired and we might have slept by then too...

So, we didn't always have time to talk or gist with them.... Even if we had issues, we kept them to ourselves... But still... They're the best parents so far.... Just that I wished we used to talk.
Secondly, they're somethings i am always so Afraid of telling my parents because they will end up shouting and screaming at you.....
That was how strict and overprotective my parents were... We don't go for an events even if it is organized by the church. We don't do a lot of things....most especially because of my dad....

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We were always so afraid of my dad... That sometimes, if we want to do something, we will always be aware of this consciousness that if my parents found out, we are finished.... And i am happy for how they trained us because i know what my life would have been by now.... I know the kind of places and things i would have been.

But then, i feel there are still better ways to train children that they won't slip off from your hands.
I have planned my whole life how i am going to live my life as a mother.
I want to be accessible,... I want my children to be able to have this conversation with their mom, knowing too well their mom won't blast them.... I don't want my children to be afraid of me for whatsoever....

You can't walk up to my mom and tell them you have a male friend, or a male friend is calling you...
A friend i don't mean boyfriend.... That will be the end of you going out for that year..

I have my children to build confidence in their mom, even if their dad isn't too available.... If they children go wrong or misbehave, of course.... It's the mom they will blame.... I don't want my children to see other people as the gist and secrets partner.
Let them build that trust in me, let them keep secrets and know it is safe with me.... Let my boys approach me and tell me that i am in love with this girl let my girls tell me, mum, i have a big crush on this guy i don't want them to hide and do something wrong or funny..

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If and when I raise children, I don't want to one day compare them to anyone
I want my children to know that everyone is unique in their own way... Everyone can't be the same... This act of comparison has really caused troubles in a lot of how... Like,... How many head does she have... Is she not better than you blablabla.... Give it time please.

If and when I raise children, I want to love all of them equally and unconditionally
I have experienced a situation were i felt my parents loved my siblings more... But growing up... I realized the loved all of us... I don't a situation were my children will feel that space and feel left out too.

If and when I raise children, I'll never stop looking for ways to have fun with them and always keep them happy and bonding
It's my desire to see my children happy... Their happiness is my happiness... I will always make sure they don't feel bored while They are at home.. if not they will find other people fun and always want to be around them..

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If and when I raised children, I'll never forget that patient and understanding is important
You can agree with me that child are very annoying... But you have to give it time, you have to understand that they are just kids they are growing.. i will be patient with them.

Finally
If and when I raised children, I'll never be too strict or too overprotective
I want my children to be free, but that doesn't mean that i will spare the rod... I will definitely use the rod when necessary... I want them to be simple... I don't want them to do the things they wish when they are outside because they are afraid of doing it inside so that mama won't talk.... No... I will always treat them right...

Thank you so much @hivenaija it was a pleasure doing this and i feel so blessed writing this here..
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