The antidote to disappointment is "Equanimity+Mindful Moments"

No one can hurt you without your consent. -Eleanor Roosevelt

Augmenting imagination will only produce a virtual reality in your life. Disappointment is just a byproduct of such imagination.

A perfect world populated with only trustworthy persons does not exist. Perfection is a false consciousness and a protracted imagination of human beings.

We always happen to say "I am disappointed" and suddenly impose that accountability on others as our perceived notion of evaluation of a situation tells us to do so. We have never asked this question to ourselves: "Why am I getting disappointed time and again?".

Disappointment is surely a necessary evil in our society. Disappointment is powerful enough to punctuate the illusion, augmented imagination, and false consciousness.

You are satisfied only until you are not disappointed. So, your satisfaction has not tasted the test of disappointment. The ache it produces is ascribed to our unfulfilled aspirations.

At any given time, we have set some rewards, both tangible and intangible, for us. Any outcome in life is a function of [time, space, and circumstances]. When you anticipate reward only in your life(tangible & intangible), then disappointment will not only persist but will be more recurring. Disappointment is a counterweight to your expectations.

Humans a re free to imagine, and Humans are free to see the possibilities. Good that possibility regulates human capacity. But then there is a problem. When we accommodate winning, rewarding, hope, etc., only in life, then we are bound to meet with despair.

That is where philosophy and the realization of life could come to rescue. When we say Sunrise, we make Sunset implicit in it. We can not envision this solar system with Day only. So good/bad, day/night, reward/loss, etc., are complementary pairs. One is implicit in another. So, the answer is that we need to embrace the other half of this complementary pair. That is acceptance. But acceptance must emanate from a sense of realization. That way you will be more resilient.

In Buddhism, it is clearly coded that it is the expectation that leads to disappointment. However, it was strongly recommended not to suppress the expectation outrightly, but rather to become an observer, be mindful, and see through it. It teaches us to develop equanimity.

The best antidote to disappointment is to live in the present, live in NOW. Only NOW exists.

The real problem is that humans struggle to build a continuum from expectations to disappointment. They are opposite, but they also constitute a complementary pair.

We should allow people around us to disappoint us. That will punctuate our illusion of a perfect world. When jerked into the reality of a real world(not an ideal world of imagination & illusion) it shakes the belief system in the first place, enrich you with experience of disappointment; then if you have the courage to activate the faculty of acceptance, surely you transform this vulnerability and disappointment into something more creative.

Many artists, writers, and lovers have undergone this test of life, and they have been disappointed many times. Perhaps they are the most vulnerable lot in this world to get disappointed every now and then. But then again, they are the ones most creative in this world.

The one who is most vulnerable to disappointment has the highest potential for regeneration and recreation. That's a fact.

Let's transform the melancholy of life into affirmation.

Let's transmute disappointment into creativity.

Do read the book Mindful Moments written by Sir Eric Vance Walton. You will get a new perspective on disappointment.

Thank you.
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This article has been published in response to the Weekly Prompt by @scifimultiverse