How did I Let Go of Some Stuff?
Oops! It was not really something big though but they were one of the things that had sentimental value and therefore dear to me.
For more than a month now, I haven't posted anything. However, I tried to continue to upvote and comment on some posts. I got so busy with our transfer of residence and though not directly involved in transporting the items, it is the unpacking and organizing that made it tedious. You'll have to think where to put them considering there are no cabinets yet plus the fact that the size of the building was smaller than the old one. It was not only a transfer of residence but also the transfer of office, supplies, and equipment. The big and bulky items were transferred early February but we did not immediately moved into the new place. Towards the end of June, the remaining things including us finally moved into the new place. Since we're not "throw-away" persons, we kept old stuff like containers, tools, utensils, clothes, baking and cooking stuff, plants, etc., we carry with us lots of stuff.
Background
My parents are now in the world of spirits and since I am single and PWD, I stay with my nephew and his family. My nephew's wife works in a charity organization and one of her privileges is free use of its housing facilities while she is connected with the organization. A housing facility was constructed and because it was done already, it was time to transfer. Since the new house was quite smaller than our previous residence, my nephew's wife said that we needed to lessen our things because the house cannot contain all of them. We have to declutter and choose only those that would be retained, dispose of, give away, or sell that are no longer used.
People differ in giving value to different things. Though not materialistic but then I must say, I am fond of keeping things and taking care of them thinking that someday when we need them, we don't have to buy again, especially if the items are of good quality. Take, for example, letting go of these plates which my parents bought approximately when I was yet in elementary and a few of them even dated back to the time when my Mom bought her parents when she was still single.
Practical Mindset
Much as I liked to keep the old plates, here's what I fed my mind with.
In this age and time when people have smaller space for a dwelling place, it is always practical to buy and keep things that you can always use. You cannot just buy and buy except of course if you are going to give them away when you don't need them. Since it is also hard and expensive to hire a house helper, we do household chores ourselves, like doing the dishes. For now, we are using Corelle because they are lightweight, unlike the ceramic ones that were heavy and difficult to wash. If we are thinking about having gatherings with family and friends, we don't use regular plates but disposable ones instead. For bigger and more formal gatherings or parties, people can opt for catering services. Gone are the days when you have to do everything from cooking to serving like in the provinces. With this mindset, I decided to let go and sell them at a price not really appropriate for them but I intentionally sold them at a low price to have them sold fast. Indeed, someone committed to buying them and told me to reserve them for her.
Bidding Goodbye to the Plates
To make everything ready for pick-up, I washed and wiped them. While washing, I began to have second thoughts about whether I should push through in selling them or not. In my mind, I thought about my situation. The house was not mine and so I cannot keep or retain all my stuff. I also thought about the buyer whom I had been committed to. While taking photos, I thought of finding a plate holder but though small for its size, I still tried to place the plate on it and took a photo for the last time.
I then placed them in a box ready for pick up. I thought that was the last time I took a close look and got hold of them.
The Unreliable Buyer
I was so trusting, and being glad that someone committed to buying them, I told the potential buyers after her including two of my friends that they were already sold out. I did not pressure the buyer to get them right away because I think I was just patient. The day came when she messaged me that they were going to get it in the afternoon. She asked me for my contact number. I waited until night but no one came. I messaged her the following day and she explained that the person whom she asked to pick them up said that our location was far. I sensed that it was only an alibi. I told her I did not entertain other potential buyers after her. She told me she would try grab or maxim delivery. As of this date, she did not reply my message anymore nor "seen" them. The plates are unsold yet but I'm ready to let go of them.
The Takeaway
From this experience I have learned that in some aspects of life, nothing is sure yet until it's done. People can fool you, minds can change and circumstances can keep things from happening.
What do you think Hive Friends? Do you agree or disagree? Feel free to share your thoughts.
Thanks for reading. Until next time.
Take care!
lytha
Those plates are lovely and I know it took you a while to let them go, but you made the right decision. On the other hand, the buyer ... totally unacceptable. She could have messaged you to let you know, but it wasn't important to her. People are like that these days, which is not good at all.
Yes, at least she could have told me the truth when she explained why the items were not picked up that afternoon. Sometimes people are self-centered.
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So sad to hear that sis. Dami tlaga yan joy2 buyer tawag ng ibang online sellers sa mga ganyang tao..Praying na may bibiling iba na mas higit sa kanya.Gid bless sis!
Hopefully Sis. Baka hindi niya naisip na posibleng gawin din sa kanya sa ibang tao yun.
Joy miner diay sis. Hehe mahalin ra nia na sis. Back home in my home province, we also have plates like that. The heavy ones. 😁 Owned by my late mother and aunt. They are still intact but we seldom use it.
Mga karaang plato nga tungod sa kabug-at dili ka ganahan mogamit na noon, hehe.
hahaha
Yes, we are sometimes attached to good old memories and that's the hardest part of letting things go. I am sure you'll make it though. Good luck!
That's true and this experience was the starting point and it taught me how to let go of some other stuff too.
Dai punta ka sa gc may request ako ...thanks
Yes po, I saw it a while ago, but done na po yata. pwede pa ba?
It is unfortunate to let go of things that have an emotional attachment to us but just think that is also a way of creating a vacuum to receive better things/
This is also true Sis. Thinking of it this way can help me realize that better things can come. Thanks for this thought.
Haays totoo yan, there's a lot of bogus buyer online kairita silaa
Hindi siguro nila naisip na meron din yan consequence but wala naman tayong magagawa if ganyan sila eh.
tama, may masamang balik naman yon sa kanila eh haaays