Weekend sharing: Moments and Feelings of Loss. / WEEK 139

Despite everything I have been able to see in the world at 30 years of age, I believe that the losses have not been that great in general terms. I have known people who have been surrounded by continuous losses (relatives who leave even monthly), but not in my case. About 9 years ago, my maternal grandmother died of a heart attack. Our maternal family tendency binds us to die that way, I remember not wanting to go to the wake ceremony and only attending the funeral for fear of not being filled with regret later. That was the last sight of a being who gave me a lot of love and affection, in addition to instilling in me a deep love for cooking. My way of coping with that loss was to see her there in the urn and tie to me all the pleasant memories that I lived with her. I cried a lot for quite a long time. But I was also consoled with the idea that my grandmother was going to rest, because in recent months she had been in rather poor health and to complete the picture, a depression led to the heart attack. However, I may be able to write thousands of words on coping with the loss of a family member, but we never escape grief. It takes a different assimilation and acceptance process for each one and even so it leaves an invisible wound that never closes.

On the other hand, there are losses of people but they remain alive. That is, we lose the presence of certain people in our lives and therefore cause pain, sadness and often confusion. When a person leaves my life I just give thanks to the universe, even if it hurts. It may seem pretty "hard", but I think it's the best we can do. A person that we keep obligated in our lives, only brings bitterness, discomfort and prolonged pain. Because if you want to keep it, it's because you want it, but you're ignoring that estar (in the real sense of estar) is a decision of two. It is better to spend a single blow of pain, heal wounds and close cycles to continue with life.

Finally, material losses. Of this type I consider that I have not had older ones. Some time ago my husband and I were victims of a scam, which left me quite upset at the time, but nevertheless I decide to ignore it and let things take their course. I have always thought that life returns what you give, I asked God a lot and put my trust in hope. Because at that time we were really going through complex problems since we had to pay for the house that is now our home. But after a month of what happened, we received a very good sum of money for an investment we had made in 2018, allowing us to pay off the pending. It was certainly a blessing.

I think that sometimes you first go through losses or bad times, so that when the good things in life come you can fully appreciate him. Sometimes we take things for granted when we have everything within our reach, and forget that we are lucky to have what we have.