Cheat and confession... WEEK 164

Good evening hivers, today I find myself participating again in the wonderful challenge that our friend @galenkp proposes to us every weekend. Among all the topics there were three that were quite similar, since they were related to infidelity, I had the experience of having gone through this circumstance, I will share with you my personal opinion from my point of view.

Cheat and confession (one)
Your partner has an affair but eventually confesses to you and wants to work it out with you. What do you do and why?

Confessing that one has committed infidelity is an act that implies a lot of courage, since with this confession the relationship can be definitively broken, for this reason I highly value people who have the courage to confess infidelity, because many times Confessing the truth results in losing everything, since you will be judged.

I consider myself a person with an open mind, I understand that we are human beings, that making mistakes is part of life and forgiving is also part of life. Here the most important point is the trajectory of your partner, if he has shown throughout the relationship to be a faithful person. Based on his behavior it is viable and we may give another chance.

In my personal experience, when my partner confessed to me that he had been unfaithful, I made several decisions about it. The first condition was that he must answer all my questions and he must obey my conditions. The first thing I wanted to know was to tell me about infidelity in great detail, perhaps many people think that it is better not to know so as not to suffer more, but I consider that it is necessary to hit bottom and from that open wound we can heal, knowing the truth of raw form, is the only way to live the duel.

There is an important condition that I asked to take care of my health, for 1 year I had sexual relations with condoms since I did not know if the person I had been with was healthy, I think that sometimes we give free rein to passion and forget that our health can be at risk for a passionate moment.

I think that love and forgiveness go hand in hand, as long as the same pattern of conduct is not repeated. Sometimes the person appreciates the second chance and never commits infidelity again, but there are other people who think that time acts as a healing pill and that it completely erases memories and they commit infidelity again, thinking that they will be forgiven again. This was my personal experience and that was the straw that broke the cup, I lost the ability to forgive once again.

The healing process takes a long time, it is easy to forgive, but the feelings of sadness linger and it is difficult to blindly trust again, when the wound closes completely and you are convinced that your partner is a faithful person and you discover that he is not. , then there is no going back, it is when we reach a point of no return and that is when the cycle must be closed completely.

If one day I have a partner again who confesses that he was unfaithful to me, I would give it another chance, I consider that a bad experience should not change our way of thinking and acting, despite my bad experience I continue to be an open-minded person and that bets on love, as we are human beings we make mistakes, it is allowed and it is not bad, because perhaps in the future it will be me who commits infidelity and I would love to be given another chance.