Toxic Relationship Experience
Greetings people!
Relationship toxicity is one thing I always frown at, no matter its form, be it physical, mental, or emotional. I always wonder how people stay and survive in such environment. I'm the type that disappears at any slight symptom against my peace; I don't take peace of mind for granted...not to talk of ladies that stay in relationships and receive blows like a karate movie. Just why??? Are you not loved at home to clinge on such a man that's treating you like trash? The thought alone makes me sick.🤢
A toxic relationship is not just based on physics troubles; it also goes down to emotional taunting. Any relationship that compromises your peace is toxic, and if care is not taken, this peace fight will lead to depression. There are no two ways about it!
I haven't been in any toxic relationships, and I don't think I would ever be in one. Anytime I notice such, I quickly ghost.
I've seen a lot of toxic relationships, and I'm going to share this particular one.
While serving in Imo State, I had a neighbour named Patrick (not his real name). He smartly deceived a lady among us, and the lady totally fell in love with him. To be honest, their outside love life was worth emulating because they intimidated us, the singles with lovey-dovey vibes everywhere and every now and then. But little did we know that the inside was sour.
On one Wednesday evening, when I returned from midweek church, I entered my house and began to hear someone sobbing in Patrick's house. I came out of my room, knocked at Patrick's door, and the lady answered in a sobbing tone.
"Kingsley, Patrick has locked the door outside," she told me from inside.
She opened the window's curtains, and I was surprised at the marks on her face. Patrick gave her a 'good' beating and locked her inside.
Mehn!, I got flared up on why Patrick would do something like that to a lady, but I just need to calm down to approach Patrick when he comes.
When Patrick returned, I called him and we took a stroll to have a talk, and after much talk, he painted the situation as "she was wrong", and I didn't pick sides; instead, I begged him to make peace with her and never do that again, and he agreed. (I was a kind of leader to them, so they listen when I talk.)
They made peace that night, and their lovey-dovey lifestyle continued, but the same thing happened the next three days, and I had to tell the lady to leave the relationship. She agreed, but guess what? The love was thick and blind, and she couldn't leave Patrick.
Oh yes, she comes to me always to tell me this and that about their relationship, and according to her, she's been receiving beatings on a weekly basis since the beginning of their relationship. She said Patrick has access to her social media accounts and checks whom she converses with on a daily basis with the instruction "do not delete any message". She also told me that what caused the beating on the previous Wednesday was because Patrick found a large volume of airtime on her phone, which she admitted was sent to her by a guy friend.
I gave her the simple advice to leave the relationship, but she wouldn't hear it.
When we finished service and parted ways, they were still dating, and Patrick was heavily treating her as a thrash. Patrick was tired, but this lady was adamant.
The worst thing at my end was that she always called at a lengthy basis, to report to me what's happening, which I got tired of and blocked her from calling me. How can I waste my precious time giving advice to someone who's in love and stupid? I just had to stop it.
Before I blocked her, she reported to me that she was pregnant, and Patrick denied it. Rubbish!!!
The last time I spoke with Patrick, he told me that the pregnancy was aborted, and he said a lot of trash about the lady.
It's not because I'm a guy that makes me not blame Michael. The person I blame is the lady. How can someone be so foolish? Is this how people are blinded by this thing called love???
How to handle toxic relationships
I'm not a preacher of peace!
The only way to handle toxic relationships is to leave them. Period!
There's nothing like fighting for my space; what if you lose your life fighting for it? Another person will occupy that space.
Thank you for reading 🥰
Exactly.
Everything should have a limit and balance.
Know when something doesn't worth it any longer.
Honestly! That girl no try!
For real! I was surprised at the blinded love on her.
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Funny enough,
Each time I advices her to put a pause, she'd agree and gives me assurance of leaving the relationship but I don't just know how, she'd find herself back. That must be love potion at work!😥
😂😂😂
I think she's just seeking love in the wrong place
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home sometimes is the worse source of toxic relationships
Yeah, very true 👌
Ah! This is really bad na! We women and loyalty! It's not always easy to just leave though, but at some point, it is absolutely necessary and the only option.
Patrick should be arrested, he's a beast of a man!
You've done well for your mental health by dissociating yourself from such people.
All we can do is to give advise and we cannot do anything again if they won't listen. At least when time comes, she can't blame you anymore because you already gave the advise she need.
Yeah, and I'll be very good if they for once heed to the these advices.
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