Catching up on social life with what I have

Greetings!

I don't know about the situation in your part of the world, but in mine, certain types of dresses are designated for specific outings, especially for dates. Anytime a person wears something that doesn't fit the occasion, they tend to appear awkward not only before others but also in their own eyes.

What do I mean?

Well, I’m the type of person who doesn’t have much in the way of fancy wear. I have more corporate clothing due to the kind of work I did earlier and my current role in church.

Since I don’t go out often apart from attending church, where I must wear very formal attire due to my position, and going to parties (mostly weddings and burial ceremonies), where I prefer donning native wear because that’s what's typically worn for such events, I find it hard to get along with fancy outfits like others do. For me, it would be a waste of resources because I seldom go out to clubs or on dates. Just like I once wrote about my shoe—‘the everlasting shoe’—a leather shoe with a cork sole, that’s the kind of shoes I have, rather than ‘bling-bling’ sneakers.

So that’s it—my wardrobe, which is proudly sponsored by minimalist living, has a big influence on my social life. Of course, you can’t overlook fashion when it comes to hanging out with friends. I wouldn’t want to appear in my suit and jacket, looking like a CEO, while mingling with friends who are dressed in their casual, stylish outfits.

However, I do have an advantage with my type of clothing, especially for wedding events, because I usually stand out in my native attire. But for normal hangouts and get-togethers, I’m often out of place.

Recently, I was persuaded to go on a date, and I wore one of my simplest outfits—a jersey, of which I have three. I can only imagine how it’s going to be if the dates exceed three times. Lol.

Additionally, living a social life, especially as a guy, is very expensive. I think it’s less expensive for ladies.🫣 Apart from making sure that my attire is appropriate for the event, there’s so much spending attached to it, and it puts me off. Most people here don’t fancy going out for a walk or playing games for a get-together or a date—it must be something party-like or a visit to an eatery. A guy wouldn’t realize when he’s spent almost everything in his bank account. Going out is so damn expensive!

I have a lounge close to my house, and many times, friends try to drag me out to go and chill there. But when I consider the high cost of things there, I just stay home. It’s funny how something I could buy for ₦500 is sold for ₦1,000 in those places, and yet people still patronize them without a second thought. Haaaa! That's the money that can provide a pot of soup for me.

Thanks for reading.

This is my entry to #kiss prompt

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