WHAT REALLY IS LOVE?

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Some years back, (To be more specific) from 2015 down the years if I were to be asked what really is love, I wouldn't have an answer. I was talking with a very good friend of mine in 2017, alongside a group of other friends when I heard something I had never heard in my life, at that point also, I was asking myself the question "what really is love". My friend marvelous said LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, IT'S AN ATTITUDE. IT'S NOT AN ACT, BUT IT HAS AN ACT. And this answer solved the whole mystery of love for me.

WHAT REALLY IS LOVE?

Between 2013 - 2016, I had the opportunity of experiencing true love in all simplicity and honesty, with no strings attached and void of any hidden motive whatsoever. But then I didn't know what love was, so I never valued it. When I decided to value it, I lost it because I had thrown it away for a long. (Guess you can't eat your cake and have it right).

I was privileged to have always enjoyed unconditional love from my parents, so I thought that was how the world was. When I met a girl (Mabel), who knew how to love and was ready to show me that love with everything she had. Although we were quite young, and I was really stupid, it wasn't an excuse for her. She didn't need words to express her love for me, her every thought toward me was expressed in her actions. But then I wasn't ready to love her in the first place, all I wanted to do was have fun and she knew. But just as an attribute of love is patience, she patiently waited for me for almost three years and was even ready to wait more, until I threw her love back in her face by ending everything.

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It was at that moment I realized something was missing, after several attempts trying to fill it back, I discovered true love was irreplaceable and once lost can never be gotten back. Since then I decided I will teach my heart to love the way I was loved even after knowing that the world doesn't deserve love because, at the end of the day, it wouldn't be love if it was deserving right.

My mum was another person who showed me, love, one may see it as it's her responsibility, but the truth is; loving is never a responsibility, it's a choice. She often told me then that I didn't know how to show love, and that I never always cared. (Even after I made the decision to start loving) but just as my friend said; love is an attitude, the more I started learning how to show love, the more it was being reflected in my attitude. Over time I got it right; Learning how to love the right way especially was the deal for me.

Today, I wouldn't say I've gotten it all figured out, but to a very large extent, love changed me and made me a better person. Although I have seen it's almost impossible to find true love, but I always remember that for a fact I'm a definition of true love. I remember being with a couple of friends some days back, and one of them tired her shoelace in a very funny way that got people laughing (me including)
But even as I laughed at her, I bent down to help her tie it well cuz I noticed she couldn't bend that period. (didn't ask why, suspected she was having cramps) Everyone looked at me immediately after I did that, and the laugh sized. Her expression showed she was speechless knowing I wasn't expecting anything from her, not even a thank you, and I playfully said something to bring us back into laughing mode.

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A week ago also I got a distress call from a guy friend of mine, his voice wasn't sounding too well and I had a business meeting to catch up with. But then he's my friend, I don't know if he will do the same for me considering what I had to lose, but I went to meet him up and ensured he was doing fine which meant I lost the business I was going for. He doesn't know to date what the time with him cost me, (he doesn't have to know) but to me, it was all worth it as long as he's doing well.

Love indeed is an attitude that I have learned to show over time, with countless scenarios of how I have had the opportunity of showing it, many such times the love was abused, but it doesn't still stop me from showing it over and over again.

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