TRYING LOVE AGAIN
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If you have ever been in love or are currently in love, or feel you know what it means to love, then read this to the end. Else you can stop right here and ask yourself a question; what have I been doing with my life all this time?
If you thought I was going to drive you away, sorry to disappoint you. At this point, I feel prompted to go through with the weekly weekend engagement prompt; For men. You can check it out here
I wasn't hoping on finding love again until later this year after my last relationship ended in 2016, but then love came knocking at the door, and I responded. At least now I'm going into it with an open eye lol, that means through the experiences I have gained over time, I have a better knowledge of what it means to love, and also to be loved. I wouldn't say I've known entirely everything, but at least I know enough to want to learn more so giving love a try becomes a living practical and no longer an old memory.
Right now if I'm, to be honest, I'm scared to my bones with a lot of what-ifs in my head. And part of the reason why is so is that I know and understand I have to love an imperfect person. Not that I'm expecting her to be perfect, I can't just help it that although I love her, I'm not blinded to her imperfections.
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Yesterday she came visiting and she showed me a video of her dancing; she made that video specifically for me to watch and delete it afterward,(so you can begin to imagine the kind of dance lol) but then I wasn't really impressed, not because I didn't like the effort she made or because I didn't like that the dance was for me alone, but rather because that's not just my style. You can only impress me with an act of service. She's a dancer, and loves to dance, dancing makes her happy, I would rather have her do something more meaningful with that talent than do it just for me to see.
Through that and the time we spent together yesterday, I also got to find out she didn't have a specific dream she hoped on fulfilling talkless of a plan to fulfill it. Looking at how our differences come into play, if I turn a blind eye to this, we will end up disagreeing on a lot of things. Now, these faults don't make me love her less than I already do, (which I made her understand) instead my love for her drives me to want to help her build her dreams, and possibly make them come through. But then all this comes with a catch of fear. Is it all worth it in the end?
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Well I hate to give opinions on things like this first of all , your dreams don't align you might as well allow your heart to enjoy the moment but in the end it starts to go sour , because love is supposed to be about a lot more than just feelings.and when the ideal need to support and align dreams and goals ain't showing up you might as well not throw out to much feelings in the end it just might not work out. You might as well start by asking her direct questions what are your dreams and goals for the next five years you can as well start from there by scrutinizing what you think are right and wrong in her goals , tell her she might as well for love start to align to your vision
Yes, we have already had that discussion. She gave signs of wanting to change, which I really appreciate. Thanks for stopping by.
Lol bro don't think much. If love comes kocking at the door, accept and enjoy it.
Your love language is probably at service. You will be happy when someone do a great effort for you, this is just my guess.
Having differences is good as long as it won't make damage in the relationship. It will be a challenge to both of you when to enjoy each other wants. For example, she loves dancing and you don't. She can help you love dancing too by teaching you how to dance.
I like the way you said that you will help her build her dreams.
Yes, I'm given to learning. Just as long she's ready to also make this necessary improvement in her life.
It's not an easy situation, but which relationship is easy? Love is about making compromises, just make sure it's an equal amount. You'll figure it out.
I really appreciate the advice, thanks for stopping by.