How I Would React If I Found Out I Was Adopted.

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Finding out my current parents aren’t my biological parents would be a tough revelation, but I don’t think i would be completely devastated or sad.

The reason is that I’ve never had a real relationship with my current dad. He hasn’t been very present in my life, and on most days, it doesn’t feel like he sees me as his own child. The fact that he even had to do a DNA test to confirm our relationship says it all . Even though the test was positive, his behavior is so distant and difficult that I have often questioned whether he is really my father. So, if I ever found out he wasn’t my biological father, I wouldn’t be surprised—if anything, I would feel so much relief and gratitude for finally having clarity.

However, the thought of my mother not being my biological mother would be really be painful. She’s the one who has carried the weight of parenthood all on her own. She has been there for me every step of the way, and is even funding my education at a private university.

The idea that she isn’t my biological mother would really be a huge shock for me, and I know it would take time to process that.

In that moment, I would need space. I wouldn’t want to be around anyone because I would need time to think, to reflect, and to figure out what all of this means for me. It would be hard to sort through everything at once, and i would need time to process the situation at my own pace.

But at the end of the day, I know it’s not easy to raise a child who isn’t biologically yours, especially on your own, and still provide him with so much love and support. After some time, I would want to talk to my adoptive mother and ask why she adopted me and how it all happened.

If she explained how and where i was adopted and told me that my biological parents are still alive, I’d be grateful to her for giving me a life I wouldn’t trade for anything. Then the next thing I would want is to meet my biological parents and have a conversation with them.

I actually don't even care what their reason for giving me up may be , I will still struggle with their idea and their reasons because, No matter how hard life gets, I feel like giving up a child you carried for nine months without even looking back should be one of the toughest decisions any parent could make.

I will definitely feel alot of anger and frustration but no matter how tough and difficult the situation may be I will still have to find a place in my heart to forgive them and leave the rest to God. Everyone makes tough choices in life and maybe that is just theirs.

In the end, discovering that the woman I have always called my mother isn’t my biological mother wouldn’t even change the fact that she’s my true family. She’s the one who raised me, loved me, and shaped me into who I am today.

For me, family isn’t just about blood—it’s about who was there for you, through thick and thin.

Thanks for reading.

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Wow. I can't imagine how that must feel for you. Minus finding out anything, if my Dad went to get a DNA test for me, I don't think I'll ever recover from it, no matter what the result was. So I don't know you're coping through something like that, but I do wish you all the best, dear. No one should be subjected to an absentee parent.🌺

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Thanks so much for showing you care. It hasn't been easy but I just have to keep on going. This really meant so much to me and I really do appreciate. Thanks once agsin

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