Mothers Impact

Mummy you don't like me again, is only Julius you like.

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Many parents have caused a lot of havoc than good among their children.

What are the reasons that mothers are to blame

Mother are the ones to blame for everything that happens between their children. Mothers are always with their children and can tell many things about each child because no matter how busy a mother is she must have time for her child. This the father can't do because they have no time for that.
Once parents started to show more care and concern for a child than others.
What did you expect from the rest they will feel jealous and rejected by their parent.
This has made many siblings have great bitterness toward each other.

My daughter was 2yrs old when I gave birth to his brother. Being the first child in the father you know how they will be shattered for giving them everything they want and they will get more attention from both parents. After I gave birth to her brother attention was reduced because I had to attend to her brother then something happened one day while I was trying to dress the brother.
She said to me,
"Mummy you did not like me again is only Julius that you like"; immediately I turned my back and I faced her and knelt so that we would be of the same height, to talk to her eyeball toeyeballl. I responded and said to her,
"No I love you as before and every day I will keep loving you but we all need to take care of your brother you know he is still a baby and needs our attention. I told her to go and bring her pants she ran to the room and got her pants, also I said Julius go and bring your pants she was the first to answer me and she said Mummy Julius is a baby he has not started walking so he can't bring his pant, there I made her realize that Julius can't do that because we are around him to show him care and also love him.

After all the explanations and questions I told her that she will have more siblings but she must make sure she takes care of all her siblings and she must love and care for them no matter what comes her way.
Since that day her mentality changed towards her brother and she started to care for him and also play with him when I gave birth to the rest 2 girls she was around 7 years and she always cared for them especially when I gave birth to the last born she will always back her and carried her anywhere she was going.
That was how I was able to quickly erase the negative taught from her mind.

Last year in December a friend of my husband came to our house during the Christmas festive period and we were engaged in a family discussion during our conversation she would always say I love the way your big daughter is catering for her younger ones because I told her that whenever there is a visitor in the house she should control her younger one's not to come and distract me. She was busy doing this because the last born wanted to come and meet me, has been stopping her from coming when she saw the little girl wanted to cry she tried petting her and eventually put her on her back for her to sleep, she slept after some minutes on her sisters back.
The man saw all of this and said

"How I wish I was trained like this to love my sibling and they loving me";

I asked him were you not trained to love yourselves?
He gave a deep breath and said,
My mother showed me more love while my father showed more love to my younger sister we had another brother who lived with my grandmother he would always tell us that we were spoilt brats and that he was more well-trained than us.
It is a pity both parents are no more and the grandma has also passed on.
The man will always say he never loved any of his siblings because his parents didn't create that low bond between them while they were younger. He said their uncles tried to unite them it was a great fight among them that the second boy was rushed to the hospital because the elder brother stoned him with the glass cup of water with him and it wasn't functioning since then, they all decided to live like that.

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