Forgiveness: Is forgiveness possible?

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I think you can forgive but not really forget because as you are seeing that person you remember the incident that happened

I think forgiving does not mean forgetting. If the forgiveness is real and the relationship can go back to normal with any issues then soon the reason forgiveness was needed will be not be at that forefront of your mind.

Although we literally do not forget some offense that is done to us, we can forgive by putting that offense aside and moving on. We believe that it is not a matter of pretending, but of having rid ourselves of holding a grudge in our hearts. We are among those who believe that true forgiveness can be achieved, as it has happened with people in the past, and also in our own lives with close and loved ones.🌸

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Sometimes when we forgive it does not guarantee we getting back to the old ways with our friends.

Happy evening my dear @joydukeson. I think that forgiveness does exist, the question is how big and serious was the problem and what kind of person is the one with whom the problem occurred. If it is a loved one who does not make mistakes all the time, maybe it is easier to forgive and forget. If it is a person who has filled your life with toxicity better let her go, forgive her but stay away. It's really all in the heart of each person. It is something very complex and very personal. You are the one who must make the decision, analyze your feelings, and determine what is right for you. Greetings and blessings. ✨

Good post, blessing <3

Well, I think the best explanation to this is that, first, we are humans. And averagely everyone has a minimum level of wickedness 😅. So we can forgive, forgetting does not mean the incident or the long gone bone of contention will be eliminated from her memory, it is just as simple as not talking about it again since you have said to have forgiven the person who wronged you. It could even be that you would not think about it any longer - this does not mean that thought would not come again but you'd be quick to discard it.
You have quite an intriguing post here @joydukeson

The mind has that gift of reminding you the pain a person made you go through, so it is easy to forgive but very hard to forget.

Is it possible to forgive and forget?

I don't know for others but for me, I don't forget.
I might forgive you but I don't have control over the mind and Brain as to what it wants to remember about you especially when you come close to me, is it my fault that I am remembering the wrong you did to me??

@joydukeson,

Good morning! Thank you for choosing to use my #thoughtfuldailypost TAG! With all the different things going on in the world right now. This is certainly a relevant topic, for all of us to be thinking about... yes? From your post:

I am a Christian and my religion supports forgiveness. As a young child, my mum would tell us her children, to always say "God bless you" to someone who offends us. I had that mentality that forgiving people is a sign that you are a real child of God and will go to heaven.
But as I got older, I wondered if forgiveness was 100 possible.

Growing up, I always remember my grandmother saying the following: "Hate the sin... love the person". I was raised Southern Baptist, but no matter what your religious affiliation, this is something that will probably have many different replies, and answers that will be given. If you look up the definition, from the Greater Good Magazine it's stated:

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.

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Many things can be thought of in different ways... I guess we would need to ask what other's define the word harm as... yes? Regardless... a compelling post, focusing on something that is much needed in our lives. I often say the term, "It is, what it is...". We have a million things to think about each day. If we focus on love, and positive energy. Maybe forgiveness would already be given, and we could focus on more important things...

Thank you again, for using my TAG. I hope you have a wonderful weekend, my friend!

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Now the big question is, did I forgive her truly? Is it even possible to forgive someone and then come back to how you both were before whatever incident that occurred happened? Is it possible to forgive and forget? But if you forgive and don't forget, is that still same as forgiveness?
If forgetting means you have forgiven, then does it mean that humans cannot forgive?

I never thought about it like this, I suppose forgiveness and forgetting are two different things at the end of the day. We can bring ourselves to forgive, but it's very hard to forget.