The Money & Loyalty Lesson
A few days ago, I was reading a post in which a man was discussing how he stopped tipping the people around him and how their attitudes toward him changed. Someone asked him why he was surprised, and I wondered the same thing.
He discussed how his relationship with many people was functional once the money was there to grease their palms, and how he felt so bad that it was almost unrecognizable when he decided to be experimental and remove the money.
Personally, money lessons are a no-brainer; a toddler can easily learn them, and I do not understand how some people can be as old as 40 and still be surprised that most functional loyalty comes at a cost.
However, I believe that the reason most people are always startled is that humans can learn the same thing over and over and still be startled by it. I really believe that there is no need to be emotional about things like loyalty and money.
The argument that women love money is an old one, and I do not believe anyone should be surprised or condemned for liking money, or angry at others for liking money. Everyone has a beast within them, and this beast is born from a desire to thrive beyond reasonable doubt, especially at the expense of everything and everyone.
Human nature is naturally ambiguous,
....and while there is a side of people with inherent goodness, there is also a side of people who are devious and nefarious, and some people spend their entire lives trying to starve this side of themselves, while others simply feed this side of them and it becomes who they are.
The Idea Of Power
For example, power is intoxicating; there are people who are humble and just, but experiencing a little power and affluence makes them crave more, and they have no idea when this consumes them. People are born with blank slates, and their personalities develop over time as a result of their experiences and lives.
For example, someone who wants to provide for their family may become greedy in the process. On the surface, they appear to be good people because we believe their intentions are pure, but we can see that their natural desire to thrive in the face of adversity drives them to develop devious attitudes or scopes.
I do not like to get into the argument that one gender prefers money and the other does not. I believe it is a baseless argument, and I dislike it when people believe that love supersedes human nature. Regardless of the type of love, whether biological or sexual, people are born with innate desires to choose themselves over others, and the concept of love does not change this in any way.
However, some people train themselves to love, which causes them to prioritize others over themselves, while others do so for personal gain. We can not tell what others' intentions are or the true purpose of their actions, so even when money is not a factor, we humans tend to choose what is more beneficial; this is known as survival instinct.
However, the fact that it is in our nature does not make it correct.
I have examined my life extensively, and there are many things I have done that I am not proud of; in fact, it took the intervention of God's grace to recognize this. There are many things I cannot blame others for; sometimes we are living an illusion of life, unaware that we are doing so many things incorrectly, and we encounter a different or spiritual force.
For what it is worth, I do not engage in the "money argument"; there are people who do not draw the line when it comes to money, and I have come to the conclusion that I will never judge or see them differently; my hope is that I will be able to live a life in which at least some people draw the line. Unfortunately, I do not have many of these people, which is a terrible situation. However, I will never question what anyone chooses to be loyal to;
I do not know their stories, but it is time to accept that people are loyal to whatever they want, and you cannot change that.
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It’s normal for people to change when they no longer get things they got from you before
That’s their basic interest so we should be the smart ones by making sure that we don’t give more than what we have
Sometimes we can give more or take more, it just happens and we cannot calculate
Very well put, people will always have their loyalties already firmly in place. Be it money, power, addictions... You aren't going to change them. Most people pass through life oblivious to what's most important until it's too late. Maybe developing health problems is a blessing in disguise, a chance to do what's right while there's still time...?
I think it's just what if is. People are loyal to what's beneficial and we cannot change them otherwise, and the idea that love can change people is not always true. I've had people I've been loyal to, they just did whatever they wanted and it's life, there's no taking grudges at all, sometimes it's just nature I guess
No doubt brother, Money can definitely complicate relationships. true friendship can exist without financial expectations I believe
Definitely can complicate it
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The money argument is tough. I try not to involve money with my friends or family because it can mess up relationships. Maybe it's because of my past experiences, but I generally don't see things going well and I agree that it would be best if we didn't consider money as part of a reason for some relationship unless its a business relationship.
Well I also try not to think about it or indulge myself in it. We cannot change people no matter how hard, and there's no being surprised about the true nature of some people. We're what we are..
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STOPThat is one thing money buys. that's true. Temporary loyalty. At least apparent loyalty. I'd say this is more of relationship based on interest, rather than loyalty.
I only came to understand it now, loyalty goals might only bring disappointment and nothing else, rather interest based relationships at least you know you're not expecting much.