The Immunity From "Needing" Money

Every now and then, people approach me at the bus stop, market, or on the street and ask for money for a variety of reasons. I used to be angry until I found myself in a situation where I had to ask complete strangers on the street for money to buy something. Initially, I was angry because I thought it was annoying for someone who did not have enough to ask another person who did not either.

However, life circumstances dictate that regardless of our financial situation, there are times when we simply need money and do not have it. Some people had luxury and expensive cars; years later, they are struggling to eat; others are currently struggling to eat; and perhaps 5 to 10 years from now, they will be comfortable. Seven years ago, I could barely afford good shoes, a decent haircut, and, most importantly, medical bills.

I was hustling from job to job, and most of the time I would rather walk in the rain than ask someone on the street for a few dollars to take public transportation. Life is difficult; many people are barely getting by. My first job interview, I was seventeen, but I had to dress moderately to stand a chance of being hired; anyone who saw me in those clothes might have assumed I had a good job, unaware that I was actually looking for work.

In reality, people hide their financial problems behind nice clothes and fake smiles. You cannot frown in front of your interviewer; they do not care if your children are starving at home, or if you have an illness that prevents you from working 8 to 10 hours; they simply want to know if you are qualified for the position

Dress The "Job" You Have

Also, you cannot wear tattered clothes in front of your clients, regardless of your financial situation; you must "look" the part. Act accomplished, smile, wear a good cologne, and complete your employers' tasks. So it is a world of complete deception. You have to act the way they want so they can pay the amount you require; after all, whether you are sad or not, going through a divorce or mourning, you must do whatever it takes to eat, which is why survival is cruel.

So, when I see people ask for money, I no longer get angry, except for miscreants under stress who spend every penny they have to smoke and buy tobacco; these people are not trying to survive; they are trying to quench the thirst of their addiction, and giving them money to do so is helping to kill them.

Basically, it is difficult to say no to children asking for money on the street. They are not usually the cause of their situation, and people do not choose to be born; however, some people are responsible for them, and understanding dysfunctionality requires a great deal of effort. Again, life is difficult, and I want to emphasize that.

People have problems but beautiful faces because they cannot afford to constantly project their pain, which can exacerbate their problems.

Sometimes just give it (money) when they approach you, especially if they have had to take everything they can before asking, but only if you have any. Do not ask them why they need it, and do not assume they are too beautiful to need money. We are all clever deceptionists. We sometimes fake the things we want to be; it is not like it is our current situation; it is just a goal we want to achieve.

"Making" Is hard So Is "Giving"

Although, as potential givers, we are all aware that money is difficult to acquire. Many people have given to me in the past, and I am not sure at what cost, but I knew it was difficult. We have lists of the world's wealthiest people because some have cheated others to get where they are.

Life will continue to be unfair because humanity can be cruel or kind, but cruelty is common, so do what you have to do.



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There are always situations where we need some help. Telling the difference between those genuinely in need is sometimes difficult.

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You're right. Sometimes I can't tell as well. It's probably why a lot of people refuse. I've had people who has refused to help in the past, I use to just think it was mainly because they don't have and it probably justifies every other reasons for me.

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Yes @josediccus , specially in this years of extreme popular deceit and uncertainties, we are all looking for a way out. In my case, since a decade ago I learned to feed from beach seawater, which also keeps me away from the medical industry. So I keep learning more about it, in case my friends and family need it to improve their odds in case everything falls apart.

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I don't know how feeding from a sea water works. It means it must really be good to keep you away from the doctors. Like you've said, one way or another, even the people who are helpers needs help too.

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Giving is very good , but these days you can't tell who's genuine and who's not.

Like you said, never judge anyone from their appearance. They might be wearing a nice clothe, but might be broke. I've encountered something like this before, to me it was funny, coz why will you be dressed in a cooperate wear and beg me to buy you groundnut so you could go home and drink Garri.

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Like me, a lot of people don't know anything about me, until I start telling them. Sometimes people think you're too good looking for bad things to happen to.

However people can lie about being needy for nefarious purposes too.

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That's just how life is.
Yeah, that's why it's good to follow your guts, not everyone that comes to you for help should be assisted.

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It's true, appearances can be deceiving. Sometimes those who seem well-off are struggling too. It's tough to know who really needs help these days

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Yes those who also seem to be doing well actually seem to need a lot of help

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Yes you're right on that point in particular..... I've seen so many of such people.. they end up suffering in silence though which is never a good thing

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Cruelty wins most of the time which is sad...

Looking the part is everything in this world. Way back in college I used to sell insurance for awhile, I was clueless at first, but just looking the part made all the difference!

Never give to addicts, it's money that goes to a habit and not well spent. I agree with you there all the way. It's just too bad human kind is far more cruel than kind...
!hiqvote

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There's far more cruelty than kindness and that's why I've decided to be a better person to the best of my ability. It's proof because I've seen a lot more cruelty than kindness.
You used to sell insurance?

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In college briefly, I didn't much care for it though, so I didn't do it for very long

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A way to raise some cash for the short period.. things we do for the hustle

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Also, we should live within our means. I don’t know how this may sound to you but it may not make sense to be wearing dresses of 25k while I’m earning 70k per month or spending a lot.
At the same time, it’s good to give but we have to be calculating about it…

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Yeah, however it makes no sense to give at the expense of one's survival

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Sadly that's the situation we find ourselves today people beg money in the streets some are not intentional while some are lazy 🦥, but the truth is that life is not stagnant it moves and changes our lives for either positive or negative.

7yrs ago I was a big gal who had a good job and made cool cash every month, I am always buying new clothes and shoes, flexing because I had the money but honestly life have turned to the other side I can't remember buying anything new for myself since over a yr now if not food, I hope that one day things will change for good.

Life is unpredictable so give today because you don't know what tomorrow will bring.

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I think at one point in our lives, we might need assistance from others, which might either be financial or material substance. If we understand this, giving won't be a problem. However, it's better to give as our power reach and not to overdo it so far that we won't end up being needy. Also, it is better to assist someone without querying their intention if we don't have anything to support them.

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Yes, it's better not the overdo it. I don't overdo it, I'll also advise others not to. This life is a marathon and sometimes we don't like the things we do to survive.

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Money is a tough topic for a lot of people and I agree that asking/giving is a tough decision. It really depends but I generally don't ask for any. At the same time, I also don't really give it out to strangers much at all either. I guess it's just based on our own outlook of life.

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I do give out when I can, it's not always convenient. However, I've been in that place where I too, have needed that monetary assistance. I think it has to do with how well a country is doing in general. Over here we're it's doing bad.

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You captured well in your post how most of us put on a disguise in life at some point, to integrate well in a collective while hiding what we truly feel or our financial situation. In the western world there is this saying "fake it till you make it". I guess many are forced by circumstances to take this route.

As for giving money to people on the street, I guess it depends on how things work in different parts of the world. The worst is when behind people (or even children) that need and ask for money, there are entire criminal networks that take ALL of their "earnings" at the end of the day. So, if you're giving them money, you're basically funding criminal organizations... Sad, but true!

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In Nigeria here, there are no criminal network that takes money off people. Most people that needs money assistance just wants it on their behalf alone and nothing else though. For me, I mostly don't give unless kids, because of the fact that kids and young teenagers may just need the money for things like family dysfunctionality.

We definitely put on disguises just so that we can continue going daily. We need to look the part to be the part. Sometimes I think it's just frustrating and unrealistic to always be what you're not

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In Nigeria here, there are no criminal network that takes money off people.

Then, giving, when possible, makes sense, if what you give they can use themselves.

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