The Gains Of Building Sturdy, Human & Business Affiliations
I often go through open criticism for choosing longevity in almost every aspect of my life. A lot of people want to live in the moment, build short-term commitments, destroy them and start something different, they want to live and spend at the moment, not bothering about the future.
They say tomorrow isn't certain, so there's no need to plan for it, they have no backup plans, no resilience to build something, and no courage or patience to move from ground zero and slowly climb the ladder of life.
These people are unsteady, they want to be there when it's favorable to them, sometimes, I openly reject such affiliation, business relationships, or friendships this is because I find it difficult to live in the moment.
My biological anatomy, blends With My Financial Beliefs
One of my closest friends in real-time goes way back from when we were doing micro-sourcing gigs online to survive. His mother would cook us meals because we couldn't afford to buy food from restaurants.
I was then when he landed some good paying gigs, and he was there, the first bull run happened to me. We transcended from one financial position to another and what we've remained inelastic He's someone I would build a business with because if such a business thrives or experience a decline, the energy to keep growing the business would remain the same.
Staying Through Thick & Thin
A lot of people don't know that there's nothing as short-term wealth
.......if you keep having short termed people in your cycle, there's a tendency for their commitment would be controlled by the constant change that's bound to happen to you or your finances. Take a look at the hive blockchain, some people live for the bull market, and their commitment or activity is controlled by price.
In the long run, their activity will be detrimental to the chain, since building is not in their contribution, it means they're coming to feast on the result of the loyalty and doggedness of others. If everyone were to cultivate the same practice, there wouldn't be anything left to feast on.
It transcends above hive, it's a human thing in general
The mind is often challenged especially when the conditions become difficult to cope with. People build themselves to withstand hard times. The adaptability to withstand hard times, while relaxing oneself to enjoy the resultant efforts of adapting, building, and growing isn't common with everybody.
I know people who have approached me for some sort of business affiliation in real life, but the first thing I check is their mental capacity. Are they firstly going to show the tendency to be loyal to their pockets, what are the things that tick then, what's their innermost intent, and most importantly, what are their level of commitments going to be like?
Trust Will Always Remain The Real Deal
To be honest, I find it quite amusing when people say they went into partnership with others and were duped, it's the same when I see people build with other people and suddenly were betrayed. In Nigeria for example, people are loyal to what is inherently beneficial to them.
The selfless aim to build others irrespective of their positioning is what some people would never do. It's obvious in their way of life, the way they interact, the goals they have and so many other things. One of the reasons why I choose longevity in almost everything is because the tendency for Change to occur in life is inevitable.
Testing The Inelasticity
Some people tend to act differently when they're equipped with different knowledge of you, these changes in attitude or commitment, incur different behavior, and if people are not Inelastic, it means you cannot build with them.
In reality, we can choose to make that choice. In every aspect of our lives, we'll meet people who would show interest in affiliations, but if we cannot check if their mentality aligns with ours, it becomes a problematic situation.
I'm not afraid to lose affiliations, the major thing I'm happy about is that I'm losing the treachery and disloyalty that comes with it. I've lived most of my life needing people. A time came in my life when everyone gave up on me, and it was only my paternal aunt that was willing to invest in me, I was nearing rock bottom, and I needed that loyalty to uplift me.
Building For The Ashes
Every now and then, I'm always asking myself What if she wasn't there?
Since then, I've been unafraid of loss, because every potential loss, is an opportunity to reevaluate my stance. In life, losing opens a gaining opportunity, unless we're too blind to see it. So I've been entering and leaving some of the real-time and online business affiliations because I just am not short-term-minded.
I'll admit, it's difficult to get people whose goals align. But the reality of the situation is that, when you find these people, building and growing becomes easier. Life is already unsteady and uncertain, it's the main reason why we must try to maintain stability in the aspects of affiliations we create, especially with people and our finances.
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The fact that people can easily change is one of the best reasons why I think it is best to build a long term relationship but then as much as I love to have people by my side for as long as possible, I still learn to manage with or without them because even as loyal as they might be, death is another thing that is inevitable and if we build relationships with putting that in mind, we might be really hurt in the end. I think this is one reason why people tend to cause God, because they loss someone they've built a connection with.
Going for long term is the best but we just have to be careful not to rely on humans for too long because they are humans whether they look like angels or devils, we are all living this world someday and we don't know when. I think this is the only advantage of building short-term relationships and that's why I will say they work hand in hand with each other.
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You're absolutely right. There are uncertainty like death that changes everything. However, I generally think it's become of who I am; the things I represent and what I try to achieve. I crave stability. People who would stay through thick and thin. Irrespective of the fact that I'm not depending on them, we generally underestimate how we need people by overstating the need for independence. I loathe short term building and that's because it's never favoured me all my life. I think change or constant negative change can be detrimental to what we aim to build. Thanks for reading. Your comment was concise and indepth.
I can understand that and I totally agree with you, at some point we all need those that are willing to stay with us at every moment of our lives. I do like to build short term relationships because I'm not sure of who a person is so I love having short term relationship until I get to know if I can build a long-term relationship with them and if that happens it's easy for me to stay with them through thick and thin.
I find it hard to build long term relationships if I want to be sincere but then I do have long term relationships.
You're welcome, thank you more for giving me more reasons to want to build long-term relationships 🤓.
Hahaha I'm just laughing at this your comment. Well you're right. Firstly, we build short before we go ahead to long-term. I think this is understandable because we spend a lot of time wanting to build things that would stand the test of time. This is actually in all ramifications of life. Most of my friends are people I've known since I was 12 or 13, the ones I've met in my early 20s too have turned out well, and there are some I've even established business relationships with and it's been really solid. Forgive me for hammering it. 😂😂😂
I'm happy it made you laugh but it was not funny, that means you will laugh a lot if intentional about a joke 🥴.
Well, you are lucky to have such friends, I can't really say for myself though because I've lost a few of them. And you don't have to ask for forgiveness, I'm happy you hammered on it ☺️.
Lol I meant the way we were going back and forth about the short and long-term thingy, that's what I meant was funny.
Okay 😂
It is indeed a long journey and thinking short term carries long term consequences. One of them being getting nowhere in life. When we can't see beyond our noses, we assume that's what matters and what's in the future is not important. So we try behaving accordingly.
The reality is that the moment is fleeting and before we know it the future stares at us in the face. That's why it's important to plan for the future even though it's not promised, and find people who are weighing the distance and go with them.
You're right, the future might not be guaranteed for us, but surely we might have kids, building can help them set up in life and help them, if not, then our next of kin. I like to build than to get the future and see that I didn't really have anything I've built.
The regret will gnaw at the heart and we wouldn't be able to turn back time to remove that regret. Now is the time to dream big and build....
Exactly, but I think some people will only come to learn how to live with the regret, since they mostly chose the easy way out
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" Since then, I've been unafraid of loss, because every potential loss, is an opportunity to reevaluate my stance"
Well said. I try to relate this to my personal experience. I trade the financial market. In my earlier stage of learning, I found out I was scared of loosing money. Because of that I didn't take opportunities as I should. But once I stopped being afraid of loosing, my trade improved exponentially. Each time I loose a trade I also learnt a lot why I lost that trade, so in a way it was also a win for my future trade, as I tend to limit that same mistake.
The Fear of loosing plays a lot of role, albeit negatively, on how well we grow in certain aspects in our life.
Nice read bro!
That need to sink in for a moment, we are opportune to have a platform like Hive, and instead of building so we can come to it tomorrow for our benefit, some would rather suck up all benefits at a go, so they can go in search for the next host to feast on.
We need that kind of people in our lives they might not be much, one or few of them but when we do have them they are worth treasuring as they are there for who we are and not what they stand to gain.
I personally find building to be the best that suits me, not some quick stuff that will come crumbling from the first wind.
Compliments of the new year Jose and best wishes.
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Sincerely, not everyone wants to build and that's concerning, if people don't put in collective effort, who will then build what they're hoping to enjoy? As humans we can build and expect the dividends to favour us. It's just crazy when some do not want to be useful. if everyone decide to be nonchalant, then the only thing we have is to complain at all time. It's crazy.
Thanks a million bro, may this new year usher us into some very favourable crypto condition.
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It's hard to deal with people and not everyone is the same. I also think sometimes things can change once money is involved and that is why if we had to do something like that, I would have to keep anything business related, purely business related.
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You're right, things can occur differently when money is involved. But I try to tell people not to change with money as there are things that are even more important.
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If we think about on a personal level, do you think people are just not setting any long term goals and therefore automatically have short term thinking?
I always remember that those who fail to plan, plan to fail. Therefore I always make at least a 5 year vision of where I want to be.
I try not to think people have short term thinking, a person might have long-term goals for themselves but fail to build such thinking or relationship with other people. So it might just be people not being selfless enough to build commitments with others I guess.
You're right, I try to build plans of up to five years for myself too..
Brave, mature thoughts here. I often feel like replying everything (its not possible) because they are nicely said. Human connections must be complementary, and finding a right match for a long-term is challenging.
Up to 90% of the young people I met have always believed that it must be now, or nothing. For example, Both from the other chain and Hive, many do not want to continue if the big votes are not coming. Thats just the point. Immediate gain, instant reward, thats what they live for. Fortunately life was not designed to work that way.
True 100%. Just let what is not working go, you will be surprised to discover plenty new opportunities and people that align with our long-term vision.
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It's one of the most difficult things in life because it's hard to know the true intentions of people to some certain extent. Haha I know it's difficult to reply everything. It is okay to just reply some.
I have personally seen a lot of young people act like this. It's even a general thing. I'm 29 already and sometimes, I still take my time to do thing because I believe in the longevity of building things but how many people would want to be patient and believe in the process? Even building a romantic relationship is also as difficult..
I'm grateful for having people as this and I'm even aiming to build more because they're the best in life.
True. Which is why we may need to spend a little more time with people and give oneself the opportunity to discover the other partner before commiting to them in a big way. Sooner or later, people's true personalities will to to surface no matter how hard they try to hide them.
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It's very hard nowadays to get a loyal partner for business deals, and it's all because we only focus on the short term benefits and this is what makes most collaborative projects die at their infant stage.
It's very hard nowadays to get a loyal partner for business deals, and it's all because we only focus on the short term benefits and this is what makes most collaborative projects die at their infant stage.