Moving, Measuring & Weighing How far.
Keeping count, keeping records, and comparing how things used to be to how they are now is one way to determine how far you have come. Growth is constantly measured by comparison, which contradicts the belief that people should never compare.
Unfortunately, this is how things are.
Some people only realize how poor they are when they interact with people who are reasonably wealthy, whereas being among people you are superior to in almost every way makes it difficult to truly weigh yourself in order to determine your true position.
Without the art of comparison, it is difficult to know how far, how badly, or how well certain parameters in our lives have progressed, and this has nothing to do with satisfaction. Everything we do in life is about measurement and growth, regardless of whether we are running a race, a sprint, or a marathon.
Checking things like how much we earned in the past, how much we earn now, and how far our quality of life has improved or deteriorated. People say things like, "Five years ago, I could not afford a proper meal, but now I fly first class." We believe that in a specific time frame, we should have moved from one point to another, and this is not something we learn; it is instinct, and it is imbued in us to be obsessed with the concept of growth.
Everyone wants to grow because it promotes development, human civilization, and other benefits.
Countries like Japan and China are nearly ahead in terms of technological advancement, and while they can easily achieve this feat on their own, I believe that the competitive nature of the world has pushed countries like Japan and China to seek ultimate advancement that will allow them to eliminate the need for world powers such as the United States.
This may have caused world wars in the past, but today, countries simply want to advance in technology so that they are not overly reliant on other countries. The only exception is West Africa, where the leaders only want to line their pockets.
I was reading a post on the chain today, and this guy mentioned people who are used to posting every detail about their fun times on social media in order to make other people feel like they are underachievers or not hardworking enough. There are people who are guilty of this, and their ego simply wants to share the good news of how well things are going for them.
True, some people use social media to make others feel bad about themselves, but these attitudes are not always vindictive and do not reflect the attitude of someone who is simply grateful for the opportunity to progress.
It's also true that people who just want to genuinely talk of their success are making unsuccessful people feel bad, but sometimes that's how the world works. Others' success may make them feel terrible in a genuine way. It is not that they are envious in a malicious way; it is simply the thought of someone doing things you could have done, while you have tried so hard and it does not work.
The concept of having money or being capable as a person is not something that everyone can individually achieve
There are people who are successful, attractive, healthy, wealthy, and popular, and they did not have to work too hard to get there. People have taken risks that have cost them their lives, and others have taken the same risk and everything has turned out far better than they could have imagined.
This phenomenon is poorly understood because it contradicts the principle of causality.
We believe that every human phenomenon has a chain reaction and a ripple effect; however, the fact that this can be unevenly random is why I believe we still do not understand life as well as we think we do. However, there are times when we try to convince ourselves that we do not want to participate in that competition, but the truth is that having the feeling that the world is moving forward without us can make us unhappy about the success of others, and this feeling does not have to be wicked.
As humans, we believe that life should be fair to certain people because they deserve it.
This is reflected in the types of films we produce. We believe that goodness always triumphs over evil. Yes, it is true, but not all the time. This is why the principle of fairness and deservedness is only an ideology that operates within human psychology. The human way of doing things is now the way the universe is designed to operate.
It is why I believe it is healthy to be sad about your life situation; there is nothing to be ashamed of when you are disappointed and unhappy because life is going well for others but not for you; it is instinct, and while you may not need that pain, it is not a flaw.
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It's so true that comparing ourselves to others can sometimes feel uncomfortable, but I think it's natural to want to measure our progress in life. We all have our own journeys and pace, and it's okay to feel a bit behind sometimes.
Yes, it's okay, sometimes some people see it as pure jealousy, but I think it's just our nature. We are not happy when we're not up to par
Yes it's just our nature, we're naturally competitive and compare a lot
But I guess doing it wrongly can be bad too
Yes absolutely brother, it's all about the perspective in which you're comparing. I'm always comparing myself to get motivated but some compare themselves and literally piece themselves with so much sorrow because they don't have what others do
Yea, totally agree with you.. people say "don't compare yourself with someone as it kills your happiness" but the fact is it's only comparison that makes you do impossible things.
Human nature simply can't be satisfied or happy unless they're doing things like or better than people they're around...
You're right. I think people who think comparison is bad are those that are actually seeing it from a different angle. People will never improve unless they think there are people they need to be better than
Thanks for the curation
One thing I have learned in life is that things cannot always be sweet or rosy. People are quick to forget the times when they were spending money heavily and all but when they experience little brokenness, they begin to lament
That’s why I say that so many people don’t count their blessings. They only take note of the bad days. It’s bad
It's not unhealthy to be sad about a situation, because the one thing life is not is fair. Good doesn't always beat evil, and it never will. China and Japan have a culture that demands success and it's engrained into their children. I know a Vietnamese family that came to the US as immigrants and took manual labor jobs. But the children were expected to excel, and today all of them have high paying jobs.
It's sad that west African leaders are more worried about their well being than the people. I've seen the same thing in Central and South America over the years. Human greed is universal.
I guess in the end just don't give up if your unhappy and try to improve your situation. Much easier said than done I know...
You're right about China and Japan, I watched some documentary and their way of life and the way these guys are disciplined about growth, they might just become the biggest world power out there in no time.
guess in the end just don't give up if your unhappy and try to improve your situation. Much easier said than done I know...
Much easier said than done like you've pointed out, but unfortunately it's what it is.. and we must always remind ourselves of that, at all times.
We all compare with others in one shape or form. It's in the human nature. I think some people are better motivated (or demotivated) by seeing improvements in others while others can be self-driven and they don't need additional external motivation, all they need is their desire to push forward.
You're right, it's different for people. However, I feel comparison can spark negative and positive motivation, sometimes it just makes you feel that no matter how hard you try, somebody else already has it naturally better than you.
If it's naturally, then it is likely that person will be lazier because things have come easier in life for them. And at some point, that can be their disadvantage. They might rely on something like "talent" and not progress as steadily as someone who had everything coming much harder in life than them.
If they are way ahead because... well, they are kept there, that's a societal problem that can't be fixed easily, because socialism was tried and also failed.
I don't think anyone should be ashamed of their life. Social media highlights the best and worst of things in people's life. It's a good thing to reflect and see what you can improve in your life so I agree with your outlook.
This is true, no one should be ashamed of their life indeed, however, there are situations in which people feel so. It's probably the reaction of another person towards their life or how people tend to feel pity instead of empathy
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