Money, Means & Status: Gender Misplacement In Most African Societies
In the old Nigerian traditional society, a man's gender is hardly in question and this was because of the limited roles given to women in the society, no franchise, no part in solid decision-making, and most importantly, they were not deemed capable of any substantial money-making potentials.
The wealth of a man was easily measured in his ability for expansion, the number of wives he can feed, and the number of children he can father, simultaneously meant the expansion of his wealth, because he can be able to own more farms, produce more cash crops and generate subsistent income through his ability for expansion.
So the representation of a man's identity is his ability to be an ultimate provider.
Even if modernization has changed this a lot, we can still see that in Nigeria, gender identity lies in the ability of providence. In Africa, some of the intrinsic beliefs about the dominance of a man lie in the core of our history, from religion to default cultural systems.
However, with the advent of westernization and modernity, we've thankfully come to accord women the right they truly deserve, in a balanced society, we've seen women act as the ultimate provider when they've been unfortunate to have a deadbeat fathers to their children. This only way this could happen is because, there's a balance. The ability of a woman to be a provider is no longer in question because society became more balanced overtime.
The value of a woman is now intrinsically endowed and not extrinsically envalued as it used to be.
This means that a woman's choice to envalue herself now lies with her
The barriers to feminine limitation have majorly been broken because of the plenteous opportunity in the world to choose from.
This doesn't mean that male dominance has completely evaporated. In the present Nigerian society, most women still see marriage as the greatest achievement they can ever have, this does two things to them: limits their mental capacity and makes them financially dependent on the most basic things of life.
In Nigeria for example, women haven't still gotten to an obtainable status of equality especially when it comes to things like money and due responsibility which is really saddening.
Although we've seen a certain uprising, women who are feminists and a representative of gender equality, most of the time, these people have an intrinsic belief that men have to worship them and provide for them.
Money is always a deal breaker and this is why most feminists are seen as charlatans. It's believed that they preach equality, yet, they refuse to see themselves choosing to make their own money which automatically accords an individual a symbol of parity.
Financial Value> Gender Argument
In reality, the argument of gender is often misplaced because I feel that irrespective of gender an individual's ability to eschew financial value is what's mostly needed to accord them the right respect they want. In the Nigerian society, some men are mostly not treated as men.
I've seen men who accept to give physical and sexual satisfaction to some women because they need money from these women. Now in such relationships, the idea of proper gender identification is often thrown in the trash and no one complains. So because these women fully perform the role of provider, they get to call the shot at all times, making decisions for the man and expect 100% compliance.
Money is always the defining factor
Women nowadays have been allowed to define themselves as they want to, but in most African societies, they (some women) still set limits, they still define themselves as a tool to be handled, and by the time they're exposed to the idea of gender equality, they finally miss the point that their inability to eschew individual value is why they're not treated appropriately.
This isn't a gender issue anymore. It's for both men and women. We live in a world where people are no longer treated because of their default gender. People are now treated based on the identity they've built for themselves. The world worship means, money and value, a man is mostly a title, and without the means, the chances of him being treated as nothing is what's likely in life.
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In this modern day I think money is the defining factor of everything we do. The roles these days are slightly defined by who has the upper hand in providing the support between the two in a relationship.
As you said, the moment a woman starts providing she wants to be treated the same way the man was treated and more.
She thinks that since she was able to achieve the same feet as a man then she deserves to be worshiped like you said. This means in the back of her head she believes or believed she has not been good enough and since she has done it then she should be worshipped.
For me, I believe in gender equality but then I still think we all have gender based roles.
In reality, the main thing is that women should feel the sense of self reliance oozing inside of them. This is already happening in sophisticated country. I feel that nowadays a woman can define how she wants to be treated. By being sufficient and trying to take on roles will help achieve the goals of equality. It's the same for men. A man who isn't a provider, might not be given their rights or acknowledged.
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Thanks there, appreciate it
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Interesting discuss,
Money is not Gender biased
However like you pointed out, a man's wealth is seen in his providence and when he's unable to perform that role, he is seen as less of a man (I have actually experienced near that) and the woman (if she's able to provide) calls the shot.
Nonetheless, there are few women that do not call the shot despite being the provider and there are women who submit whether the spouse has little or nothing at all.
Thank you for this, money should not be the yardstick to dominance (both for the male and the female), it is a tool to meet an end
I see your discourse, thank you for the comment. Irrespective, I still feel that genderism is not really about discrimination nowadays, it's about if a person whether man or woman can eschew value. When they can they'll be accorded respect. I believe when people empower themselves, they'll be respected.
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Thank you Chief
I agree on money now plays a major determinant factor in identifying gender, it is more about who is making the money and that person or gender in most case call the shots, though this has often been done by the male gender in the past though.
I have seen job advertisements on LinkedIn recently encouraging women applicants which is good in empowering them.
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Exactly, it's more about who's making the money and not really whether one is a female or not. One of the reasons why African men disrespect some women is because they're not valuable and cannot make money for themselves. While this shouldn't be, it's how people as are. But like you've said. It's about who is making the money.
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I think much of it is based on our preconceived concepts that are rooted in the past although modernization is making great strides to change that. The baseline, irrespective of the gender, could be each individual's ability to create and provide value. That way, both parties are able to build equity and the concept of equality isn't given much relevance.
You've summarized my post with this comment. Brilliant. Individuals themselves needs to eschew value because it's the most important metrics which a person, irrespective of gender is being measured by.
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I also think it's not a gender based issue and it should be more about who fits the role better. The more qualified person should take the place and I don't think focusing on which gender someone matters. The financial aspect is a tough thing to talk about and it's hard to really say who is right or wrong. I think both sides should have an equal say in things and times have changed with the increase in technology.
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That's the focal point. I mostly don't think it's about right and wrong. It's about the roles, responsibility and showing value. I think the world is advancing, where people can be what they want to be and this is what eventually matters.
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Interesting post, nowadays money rules the world regardless of gender. Gender roles have been reversed in the case where older rich women take over younger poor guys who remain at their beck and call. I don't know why men had more power when women where the true generators/nurtures of new life. Their wombs are portals where new souls receive a physical presence to come on to earth.
Anyway, it's a material world and am glad women are being empowered in many countries around the world but that patriarchal power remains strong. Women are still paid less than men and equality is yet to be achieved overall. Men still remain physically stronger but women live longer.
Thank you for sharing an eye opening topic to ponder on, enjoy the new week ahead and stay blessed :}
That's the point. Money rules irrespective of gender and to me, this isn't necessarily a bad thing if you ask me. Because the idea of saying a man is worth more is terrible. Women now have more solid opportunity to redefine themselves, this is a really good thing. Anyone who struggles to make a better life for themselves is treated as anything they please. However, some bits of inequality is still there. Thanks for the comment.
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