Money Commitments: Who Are The Biggest Influence?

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I was having a serious conversation with my aunt some days ago, I called it a serious conversation because it was that kind of talk that revolved around the future and commitment.

This conversation has been recurrent for the past five years (I've probably talked about it here) and she is always keen on bringing up the conversation anytime I collected my salary, bought new cloth, or even spent money to buy a piece of gadget.

I think the expenses were a stylish reminder that I had other important commitments that I could probably save that money for. I find it hilarious that people would spot a problem without proffering any legible solution, this is to say that, people would always tell you what to do, but they'll never support you with enough willpower to do so.

The biggest willpower is money

How so?

In other to impose accurate support for a person when they're having commitments that require money. However it's tricky, supports can come in various forms but it's rare and strange to ask people for financial support in a journey that one's supposed to be intentional about.

so I guess, another non-monetary support is essential but at the end of the day, it boils down to the overall readiness of a person to embark on commitments that require actual figures and efforts. The external pressure most times is mere reminders. So in the case of my aunt, she was always asking when I'd consider getting a wife and raising a family.

It didn't end there

I was always laughing it off because I felt she probably underestimates the cost of that particular commitment and the repercussions that comes with it when people fail to be logical rather than sentimental.

However, one queer thing about African parents is their slightly porous ideologies about money. They somehow believe that money is easily made when two people join hands to work for it.

But in a real sense, this is seldom true but not always true. The reason it's not always true.

For example, a joint business partnership can be better than a sole proprietorship and this is because of the collective effort at growth

However, marriage as a joint partnership is the same too, however, the difference is that in marriage, when commitments and duties are not properly designated and there are no clear goals towards savings, it's difficult to solidly say two people might just do better than one when they decide to be responsible for familial duties.

Having money is not the only thing you need to be married, a lot of people use to think that love and money are the most important things, but they're wrong. But people are always carried away by the sentiment of being married to spite or prove a point so much that they forget that they're no longer the sole recipient of whatever consequences their actions might bring.

The influence of money can be perturbing

The reality is that I fear being poor and unable to cater to people I'm supposed to be responsible for, while some people might think this fear is baseless, I think it isn't. One of my cousins is going to be 34 soon and hardly considers being married but people fail to understand that he was raised in a family where people are born and left to fend for themselves.

He was opportune to work with wealthy people, he saw how they lived, the way they spent money, and the decisions they made impacted his life. This is one thing wealthy people do to you. Being exposed to them rubs off on you and the moment you begin to strive to spend like them or match their standard of living, it might be difficult to come back.

But, you cannot underestimate money as a huge factor

At the end of the day, it's important to make informed decisions irrespective of the fact that those decisions might not be the regular thing.

I for one, I'm not a person who's for spending glamorously on a wedding, especially when you're focused on the possibilities of unforeseen circumstances in marriages. Let's face it, money gives love a certain validation and to keep this validation one requires balance which can be achieved by being conscious and consistent towards their finances.

However, I get to rush, and with the haste of my aunt, I think she's probably right in her way. We can never be completely right when it comes to money, so sometimes I let the advice of aged people when it comes to money and commitment keep me up on my feet rather than influence me.

After all, we cannot hold people who influence us accountable because, at the end of the day, we're the central characters in our own stories.

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