Financial Expectations & The Stigma Of Starting From Ground Zero
It's quite normal for people to attach certain expectations when they get to some particular age in their life. This is because we're milestonic by default, every age we get to always has to carry important milestones, if not it's easier to deem oneself a failure because they haven't gotten to that level of achievement. An example of such an age is hitting 30.
Getting to 30 comes with a lot of pressure, people expect themselves to have been married, have comfortable jobs, have some certain millions in their savings, and maybe live the good life already. However, it all boils down to our financial background. Not everyone is lucky in life to be an early bird.
Some people are already rich before 25, they live expensive life and spend the amount of money they want, hence, it's generally unfair to measure everyone by these same standards. The reason is that everyone starts on different foundations. Some people never had the connections or recommendations to make headways in life, they were just ordinary startups that nobody was willing to invest in, and there are people who already had the foundation, the connections, and recommendations to start up.
In most cases, the first kind of people is the true victors, because they started from nowhere. This isn't to undermine the efforts of those who had solid foundations, to begin with, but easy or favorable conditions often create weak people. In this video, I talked about life's truest victors, the ones who started from nowhere but made it to the top.
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Very thoughtful post, those around us most times worsen the matter, when you attend certain age and hadn't achieved some expectations they feel for your age should, they see you as a disappointment but thank God for courage and persistence. Age is not yardstick for wealth. Some get it early some later in life.
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Well this is more rampant in Africa. We place a lot of expectations on ourself and it becomes really difficult to live a life without pressure.
When I found out about the unnecessary pressure, I live my life to the best I'm not owning anyone any explanations though can't lazy about.
That’s one thing about growing up. Growing up comes with a lot of responsibilities, it feels like growing up was a trap cause you realise that it’s your turn to give and not to receive.
That’s when it dawns on you that you can no longer make rush decisions as most of the time those decisions also affect the life of others.
Generally, I think when you finally reach that age decisions you take don’t only affect you but also others so 80% of the time you take certain decisions that don’t benefit you directly.
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Yeah, when we've gotten to certain ages, we can no longer make selfish decisions. Some people find it hard to accept they can no longer live for themselves alone. Prioritizing someone else, is a responsibility that seems rather tasking.
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Growth comes with a lot of pressure and responsibility, for the past two years for the pressure has increased immensely for me and facing so many hard decisions everyday
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I can say the same for me bro.. it's been tough. Growing Older comes with a lot of financial decisions that needs to be made. It's rough being a man already
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It is hard to start the journey and keep at it. I think as you said at the end, you should also try to enjoy it!
Enjoying the process is everything we need to do.
The hardest thing to do is starting anything from this scratch, because we tend to get afraid of what might go wrong afterwards
True, Indeed
Yeah, enjoy your day
I feel like my comment is going to go a bit off topic, but still fits into a certain pov of the topic. Lol
Age 30 is that age where for every decision you make, you examine how that affects you and your finances, what value is adds to you life and what not.
Most people, stop really living life once they hit 30. It turns into more about survival than living and enjoying life at that point. “How much money do I have left of my salary and how does me going out to have fun this weekend affect my salary?” It’s like you really stop living and just become some program that is aimed at surviving. Well, this is the case for most people anyways, not everyone.
The age 30 effect is especially prominent among women and affects their hurry to marry. I get that the biology of women encourages that they marry as they approach 30, but it’s become some much of a standard now that the pressure of family drives many women into marriages they’re not prepared for or are genuinely not happy about.
As for people born with silver spoons, they comfort they grew up in removes the competition factor that selects the fittest and the best of the best. So even if they don’t want it, their silver spoon feeds them regardless and makes them less competitive compared to the rest of the population who grow up fighting their way to the top.
I think the age of 30 and the age of 40 are those years in the life of people that are determinants of so many choices and decisions. I think there is always a discrimination or pressure that comes with being 30 or actually aging and facing responsibilities. I think it is majorly an African thing because I have spoken to most people who are not Africans and they don't even care about aging or having children. This is why I think we are wired differently over here.
As for people who has life easy for them, I think most of them often ends up misusing that privilege of having everything at their disposal. Sometimes I know that people like us who are from humble beginnings wish we can have it all. This is the essence of this video, sometimes, starting with nothing might just be a blessing in disguise
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Yeah it most likely is an African thing. I wouldn’t be surprised. We Africans place a lot of importance on getting married and starting a family. So much such that women who’re married for over a year without kids are emotionally and mentally tortured because of rumors that could circulate around about them. This needs to change. But I figure we’ve said too many “this needs to change”s already because there’s always something with us and how we do things.
Basically, being African comes with some crazy expectations and challenges. I do believe we're slowly changing the mentality and all, but we might not be able to fully do so.
We all have our colorful journey like you mentioned towards the end, there are moments in our journey as we strive toward growth that keeps us going although some moments are not so colorful to encourage perseverance the courage and the will to keep fighting are what keeps us going.
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The end basically justifies the means. I use to tell people that Irrespective of the struggles and strive, attaining the bigger goal is what matters a lot
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