Fighting Instinctive Expressiveness.

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I was reviewing some of my previous social media posts; I will not call them "contents" because they were simply the random thoughts of a guy who needed a place to vent, rant, and occasionally share troubling thoughts. I had an audience who would always listen every now and then, and believe me, the relief that comes from venting gives you extra energy to keep going.

Sometimes it is a bad day at work, a friend who betrayed my trust, a nagging boss, or a disastrous family gathering. I get memories, a sort of reminder on my page to remind me of some of the things I had ranted about, and while I have completely changed and am no longer the person I was seven to ten years ago, I am still grateful for the space and opportunities I had to vent.

Venting can have a healing effect.

Now, I am not talking about the type of vent that requires you to curse or swear at people, but rather the type of vent that allows you to express your own side of the story and where it hurts you the most. I grew up in an environment where discussing your difficulties, conditions, pains, and illnesses were considered baseless complaints.

So it was difficult to talk to people who needed to be addressed properly because we assumed they were older and always correct. This can leave young people feeling like ticking time bombs; they (we) have a lot to say and sometimes need space to express themselves.

For me, there was no one who was fighting the same illness as me, no one who could care and listen, and I could have burst open from the inside out, even if I said crazy things that made no sense to me now as an older person.

I am still grateful for the fact that I had a place that listened and was fulfilling. When young people have no outlet for their concerns, they tend to develop into voids; soulless beings devoid of emotions. Sometimes they fall into the wrong hands, and sometimes they simply grow up to be fragmented.

In life, many people suffer in silence.

Sometimes it is because it does not really matter whether they talk or not, especially if neither will do anything.

The current generation is wired to talk more and listen less. Many people are speaking, and those who are speaking less are drowned out. Unless you are no longer alive, this is when people are more likely to listen to you. Of course, it would have been too late, but that is the way things are. It is a generation that sees flaws without considering the reasons.

Sometimes there is no discourse; people simply want their ideas to triumph over others, and in such a generation, silence can be the only voice you have.

However, there is no point in beating a dead horse.

People cannot change, regardless of how you believe they will. It is possible to become a hidden part of yourself, but no one can change you unless you choose to.

I am currently trying to talk less and say more. Most of my web2 social spaces went unattended for quite some time. Except on X (Twitter), where I check for updates. For someone who has used Facebook extensively in the past, it is now a ghost town and only a fragment of what I once knew.

This is where I started my rant, and I have received a lot of messages from people I used to know.

It was always shameful to discuss our medical conditions. It was a generation where people were really insensitive. However, in this generation, many people are beginning to express their insecurities, illnesses, pain, and concerns. So what I mostly do is respond to the messages of people I used to know, and we talk about what we are going through in life.

Nowadays, it is better to speak less and say more, this is because people only listen to actions

Silence itself is a form of communication. I understand that it may appear crude; sometimes people just want to talk because it brings some form of healing, and perhaps someone else listens, but this is rarely the case anymore. Talking about things that make you unhappy can be soothing at times, but it also has a negative side effect.

Sometimes they just keep the pain inside, making it harder to let go.

In fact, the Bible specifically stated that you should not complain, fight your battles, hold grudges, or harbor malice. I remember having friends with whom I never spoke for years because I held grudges. I am not saying it gets easier with each passing day; after all, we are humans, and sometimes we have to fight our instincts to express our true feelings.

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