Making friends versus keeping friends
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Friendship is a positive relationship that exists between two or more individuals whose values or impacts are appreciated.
Friendship can be between two genders, the same gender, different or the same age bracket, and sometimes between a human and an animal. Some people find it very easy to make friends using the right approach, while others are poor at building friendships. Some people may just get liked by people without going the extra mile. At this juncture, I must state that friendship can be unilateral; however, it is mostly bilateral or double-sided.
There are various factors that influence the number of friends an individual has and can keep. Most importantly, it is the value an individual has to offer. These values can be a result of one’s profession, upbringing, religion, ethnicity, or even views about life.
Some people are equally receptive to strangers, while others may reflect resistance at every approach. Making friends can thus be as simple as it can be difficult. The individual must have the right approach to strangers or people they see value in, and the other person must be willing to be friends with whoever is approaching or made to open arms to accept the friendship offered.
People get attracted to admirable qualities such as an outward appearance, use of language or diction, the art of writing and communication, funny lifestyles, etc. There are people who become friends by coincidence and convenience, such as roommates, classmates, group members, third-party friendships (friends of a friend), and family ties.
Keeping friends can be challenging and demanding. This is readily seen in people who tend to have or make plenty of friends. There is a chance that communication breaks down and, consequently, friendship gets diminished. It is, however, not impossible to maintain friendships despite the lack of quality communication.
As much as we want to make friends, it is possible to discover that the friends we make are an incognito version of what we actually desire. Such friendships usually die as quickly as they are born.
Keeping friendships can be influenced by the efforts of both parties. Usually, when the friendship is one-sided, there is a high tendency for its premature termination.
At some points, it would be good to show appreciation to friends either physically or verbally. This simple act of appreciation really helps to fan the fire of friendship.
Distance is an important factor in friendship. The farther the distance, the lesser the chances that such a friendship will enjoy constant communication; hence, it has a high chance of being dissolved easily. Every relationship requires good communication to survive, and once that is compromised, there is a significant chance that the value of such a friendship will diminish.
As much as it is good to make friends, we must ask ourselves why we are entering into that relationship. These reasons would influence whether the friendship would be kept or would die a quick or natural death.
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Well, friendship is one of the most common relationship among humans and bedrock of most relationship.
The reason behind why some people feel reluctant about making friends might not necessary be lack of communication skills or associative attributes and appearances, some people are just too paranoid to let others get close due to lack of trust as a result of past experiences.
Well, part of the reason that kills friendship it is the reason it begins in the first place, what I meant is that, every friendship starts because of a particular reason and the moment that reasons fades so does the feeling of friendship fades also.
Secondly humans enjoy symbiotic relationships, a relationship of give and take, the moment one of the side feels like the other side is being parasitic, such person start keeping its distance.
Friendship is an amazing relationship which could lead to a lot of emerging and unknown opportunities.
Thanks for sharing, it is an amazing and enlightening post you have shared.
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Indeed we must keep reminding ourselves what brought us together in the first place
Who that finds good friend found a good thing because in this era that we are it is very hard to find someone who truly love you as a friend
It is either they want something from you or they are gaining something from you then they will tag themselves as your friends
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Exactly I fear this kind of friendship and once you get bitten its hard to try getting close to other people.
When I saw the title, one thing came to my mind...
Both are equally difficult.
Friendship isn't something that can just be jumped into especially if it's one that will last for a long period of time and just like you've named some factors that influences the making or breaking of a friendship.
Overall its not easy, we can only try friendships out and hope that the stick through thick and thin.
You're right, most people mistake acquaintance with friendship.
True friends take a lot of efforts to build.
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I suck at keeping friends.
Am not so good at following up and checking on people.
Maybe that's why my circle is small, but sometimes we are afraid of something and that will not have us making friends or wanting to go close.
Well, it's better to have a small circle of true friends than have plenty of acquaintances
Friendship is one unique character we all possess. As far as I understand, it's easy to make friends but difficult to keep them because of our differences in attitude. You nailed the points. Nice write up.
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