Happy Dreems

I had almost completed something I was going to post instead when I casually decided to pause a bit and check around Hive. Then I saw entries in the same theme and I gasped and ran to put this together. It may be a bit rough but it is with the best of my intentions.

I have answered this question before, sometime in the past as a prompt reply. But I decided to do it again because it was fun, for one, plus it’s been six months if not more since I made that post and I’d like to think that I’ve changed since that time or maybe not something as drastic as change, but at least I have a different view to this particular day now.

That being said, I’ll say first and foremost that I want my dream wedding to be Happy. I don’t think it’s possible not to have the usual bridal nerves and jitters. But I honestly, with all my heart, want it to go well. Nothing short of happiness all through. For myself and my husband-to-be. For my family and my friends that would be in attendance. I think the guest list is lessening as the months go by. It may be all in my head and it’s not to say that I do not appreciate fancy, talk-of-the-town weddings for whoever likes that kind of thing, but I just feel that it’s going to be something small, where the vastness of the room and the unknowing eyes and hearts of three hundred people aren't taking away the intimacy of the whole event.

I want my dream wedding to be what I want. I’m not sure if that makes sense. But I want to be on good terms with the person I’ll be wedded to. I know it sounds crazy and you’d be like, why would you even be getting married to someone you aren’t on good terms with? I would have said so myself if I hadn’t witnessed a wedding earlier this year.

It was the wedding of a relative. I’d come pretty early to show my solidarity and assist in whatever way I could. She didn’t look nervous. I mean if she did, I certainly didn’t notice. And I guess it would have been good if she even looked nervous. But she was too calm. The kind of calm that borders on nonchalance. I didn’t want to read meaning to it because in my wildest dreams(aside from books), I didn’t think I’d ever see a bride who was nonchalant about her wedding.

But then she made a statement, and I was determined to understand what was going on. Just before the wedding started, she said, “Alright. Now you guys are done, can we just get this wedding with? I just want to come back and sleep.” I’m not sure if anyone was shocked. They all seemed to find it extremely amusing, judging by the way they giggled and told her to stop cracking jokes. I didn’t think, however, it was a joke. I didn’t think any truly happy bride would make that kind of joke in the first place.

But then my suspicions were confirmed when the wedding commenced and her eyes were glazed over in boredom for the entirety of the event. The unperturbed look when the groom looked at her, the silent messages she seemed to send to no one in particular but was evident on her face, that the very last place she wanted to be was there. It was kind of sad and even though I never found out why, it is the basis from which I say how I want my dream wedding to be.

I do not want to marry, in the eventuality that I do, for any reason other than the fact that I’m in love and I want to spend the rest of my life with this person. I don’t want to be anything short of, in bliss. I want to have the bridal jitters. The good kind. Like, I can’t believe my fortune of getting married to the love of my life. I don’t want to be sad, or even worse, nonchalant. Happiness. Joy. Peace. Bliss. For me and him. That’s all. That’s what I think characterizes a dream wedding and that’s what I want.

I’m not sure if I said it exactly how I feel but if I haven’t, we’ll just have to wait till the opportunity presents itself again. Lol.

Jhymi🖤

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