Take a distance and wait ...

Yesterday a friend told me that his partner had been unfaithful and asked me, Janitze have they been unfaithful to you? And I replied: Of course, on several occasions... And he answers me: but who can be unfaithful to you if you are beautiful and an endless number of things.. and I told him: well, infidelity doesn't depend on who you are or how many qualities you have, it really depends on the other person and the qualities they lack.

I think he understood that he wasn't the one who lost..., he rather win.

I also suggested, if this is your case...

Don't do anything! Stay still or be still there. Yes, in many cases, the best solution is to do nothing and wait.

Why? Because sometimes, taking distance is necessary. In fact, understanding that you can't fix everything right away is a profoundly intelligent act.

In life, we often face situations that overwhelm us and make us feel powerless. We want to solve everything right away, but what happens when we can't? How to handle that desire to control the uncontrollable?
It is essential to explore the importance of taking a step back, of observing without acting immediately. This simple gesture can change your perspective and offer you clarity in times of confusion.

What can I gain from that? Manage stress better, improve your relationships and make better decisions.

Watch out! Taking a distance is not giving up, it is an intelligent strategy that allows us to recharge our energies and see things from a new perspective. Do you realize that?

Hatred generates a lot of cortisol, stress, adrenaline, anxiety, raises our blood pressure, causes us insomnia, obsession, frustration, etc. After this we end up suffering, it's ourselves.

The process of forgiveness takes time and dedication.

It's hard for me to forgive, to let go, to let go, to learn that life is not only what I want but how it is, period.

Actually, it's not that I forgive by telling him or deciding and that's it, not like that, at least for me, one has to make the decision to "start a forgiveness process" that may take time, but we have to do it that way so as not to suffer from resentment.

Because resentment hurts us more than the one we hate or for whom we feel anger, for example infidelity and disloyalty.

Resentment is like if I take the poison myself, and I start waiting for the other one to die 🫣

I like people who make the decision, after an infidelity, to be alone, immensely calm, without showing bitterness and without resentment.

Love has to do with giving, but it also has to do with receiving, because a love that is not reciprocal, does not serve, a love that is not reciprocal, is not...period.

Janitze. 🌹