The other side of Birthday Celebrations.
Let’s talk about birthday celebrations.
We all love to celebrate our birthdays, we love the special treatment and the massive love we receive on our birthdays but beneath those smiling faces a lot of people (celebrants) are under pressure.
Some people are pressured by their friends, relatives, and loved ones to do something grand, something exciting to make a statement and not to have a boring birthday celebration.
To start with, who made the rules that everyone must throw a big party on their birthday? Have group dinners, or even do photoshoots just before their birthdays? Who made the rules that before my birthday I have to send some of my pictures and videos to my friends so they can post them on my birthday? Who made the rules that I must celebrate my birthday in a grand style and who also made the rules that I must announce my birthday, who???
Some people decide to do certain things to mark their birthdays and boom! it automatically becomes a trend and a rule that we all have to follow and if you are not able to follow it you are termed an “old school”, you are also termed as being a boring person.
This kind of attitude people have towards birthdays is really annoying, I choose not to celebrate my birthday like everyone else, my choice, let me be, do not compare me to others, and most definitely do not put me under any form of PRESSURE!! Do not!! As we all are not the same so are our pockets, priorities, and values.
Now there’s another set of people that I have a problem with and they are the set of people who use their birthdays as an avenue to extort money from their friends and also to organize fundraising for their damn selves!
You make ridiculous wishlists and expect your hustling friends to fulfill them for you and when they don’t, you get mad, you break years of good friendship just because your friend couldn’t get you a gift, you don’t just stop there as you disregard the lovely wishes and prayers!! Really disgusting!
People need to do better, people need to cut their friends some slack. Birthday gifts are given freely and with love from well-wishers not from cajoling or putting people under unnecessary pressure because they are your friends.
Accept any gift given to you with love and excitement and if they are unable to get you a gift on your birthday do not label them as bad people, do not see them differently, or break your relationship with them because you don’t know what they are going through.
Someone sits down for some minutes or even hours to come up with a beautiful birthday message and sends it to you, you totally ignore the message, and the next thing that comes out from you is “Where is my gift?”, “Should I drop my account number?” Really? No acknowledgment or appreciation whatsoever from you.
Not for a minute did you appreciate the thoughtful message sent to you, your only interest is in what you want to gain. I ask again were birthday celebrations meant for fundraising? I honestly don’t understand why and how people put their friends under unnecessary pressure just to be happy on their big day.
If you fall under the category of people who get upset and burn bridges because your friends don’t give you birthday gifts please stop it as you’d be losing good people before you realize it.
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Omo see better girl friend material here o
Omo na e b say your boyfriend no go dey stress for your birthday o
Sha, all those birthday something, na for who get power, me wey dey even forget my birthday sometimes sef until when e don pass I go con remember, hehe
You actually made very serious points here, people have to learn well
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Must your comments be always funny?😂😂
Thank you so much dearie😃
Very well said! You see that feeling of entitlement, some people swallowed one full bottle because why must everybody you know gift you on your birthday. Gosh, it's so annoying.
I'm just like you, I don't really care about birthdays. Just the thought of my friends calling and singing for me is more than enough😂
One big bottle for that matter😂😂
Yeah me too, it’s more than enough, I feel very special on that day to even feel bad that no one sent a gift.
It's funny if one expects his/her friends to give him presents on his/her birthday. Another funny thing is when people borrow money just to celebrate lavishly. It's unwise if I may say so :)
I honestly can't understand why and how they do that, crazy things are truly happening!
Yes, it's crazy indeed :)
Oh for sure people are really annoying when it comes to these things. There’s no reason it should be expensive to attend a birthday of someone who’s an adult. Adult birthdays are more about being with family and friends and eating food, not the damn gifts.
I totally agree with you, imagine if a lot of people see it this way too, it would save us a lot of stress!