The Healing process…
Being sensitive can be a good thing and also a bad thing. You can be overly sensitive to other people's feelings and nobody gives a hoot about your feelings. You can read people’s emotions and facial expressions heck! You can even read the room and know how to thread cautiously but when the tables are turned people say things without putting your feelings into consideration and that hurts, it hurts like crazy.
Over the years I came to realize that I always find it difficult to let go of certain pains and these pains are usually caused by the ones I love dearly, I could care less about what an acquaintance or a random person says or does to me but you see the ones I hold dear? I just don’t know how to get rid of the pain easily.
I forgive people but I somehow see myself reliving the experiences whenever I see them or have any trigger.
I make excuses for people, and I even cut them some slack when necessary. Whenever I see them do things to me that I can never do to them, it messes with my brain. Since I am an overthinker, I dissect their actions and overanalyze everything and I think that’s why the pain lingers in my heart because I think about it one too many times.
Whenever such things spring up I'd speak up, and I'd try to address the issue but to me, this was just for formality's sake and to debunk any narrative, simply put it was for peace to reign between me and the other party but not for MY PEACE OF MIND.
I would go home, play, and replay everything in my head and since the pain lingers I withdraw from the person, we are not necessarily enemies but we might not be as close as we were before.
Was this withdrawal mechanism helping me? Hell No! I was ruining beautiful relationships for things that I would have addressed properly, I was burning bridges because of little misunderstandings that I would have addressed. I was worried about allowing peace to reign between me and the other party to the detriment of my peace of mind.
How it’s going….
After living with so much pent-up emotions, I knew the ache in my heart was not going to do me any good, I knew the constant triggers I had were only going to consume me and that was when I decided to prioritize Closures.
I began to have proper conversations with people, pouring my heart and explicitly explaining how I felt about what they did to me. I do not care if you become defensive or aggressive I am putting my peace of mind first before anything and you can do whatever you want to do with the information I give to you.
I have been learning to have closures with people and so far it's been helping me, it's been helping me to get rid of a lot of the pains I have bottled up over time, and it has helped me to let go of so many things and my heart has been super light.
Has the journey been a pleasant one? Yes and No. Yes because it has saved me from a lot of mental torture and my head has been a little calmer.
No, because a lot of persons may term my being explicitly expressive as overreacting, and they can become excessively defensive.
Letting go of all the pains via the closures I have had with people over time has done more good to my mental health than anything and I love how and where this is taking me to.
My life is transforming every day I am not holding onto unnecessary arguments, hurtful words, and misunderstandings and I am learning to forgive wholly and heal simultaneously. Of a truth it’s been one hell of a ride but one that I wish to continue regardless. I know I am not there yet but I’m happy for the baby steps I take everyday because I know they’d become giant strides one day😃
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For that relationship not to hold is something you should be happy about, though it is painful, I can relate to this matter that it's painful. You don't know what God is doing.
Be strong okay.
Ohhh thank you so much Peace😃
Wow, I read this from start to finish without missing any comma, it's really good to seek closure to save yourself from mental torture, at least you will get the peace of mind you deserve.
Great read, nicely written!! Kudos!!
Yeah very very important
Oh thank you so so much Amie😃
It really is a huge game changer when you start prioritizing your peace of mind, and putting your feelings out there, regardless. It might not always get you to the place you want to be, but it's the most you can do (and the most fair, in regard to yourself). Interesting take on the prompt :)
I totally agree with you, it's a huge game changer!
Thank you so much😃
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Thank you!
I am glad you decided to communicate how you feel instead of bottling up your emotions for peace to reign, thereby putting yours at risk.
You are doing well as it is not easy. But it'll surely help you see who is truly for you and who is not. That way, you'll be hurt less, and you'd be able to continue walking those baby steps.
Ohh dearest Balikis thank you so so much, this was heartwarming😊😊
Sensitive people find it hard to get closure because of how deeply they love their dear ones. I know this because I'm in that boat but like you said it is not healthy to hold on to the pains so I try to let go one day at a time.
It might seem hard initially but with time it becomes easy and I'm so glad that I can look at the pains but no longer feel them.
Nice read dear,we all need healing
It feels so nice to know that I am not the only one that feels this way.
Thank you for this beautiful comment dearest Becky🧡🧡
You very welcome
Oh how I relate with this!
I guess we're in the same boat, because I constantly found myself withdrew from people who have hurt me in one or the other. Sometimes I don't even know I'm withdrawing from them until they complain, or worse until I find myself fully out of the circle. I had to change, because it wasn't going well for me socially.
Thanks for sharing
I totally agree, it ruins friendships faster than you can ever imagine. Change is the only constant thing and I am that you had to embrace change.
Thank you dearest Phyna 😃
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There's nothing as precious as our peace of mind, we should consciously maintain and keep it always.
Yes, our peace of mind should always come first before anything else.
I believe that what the people we love do to us hurts much more than what other people do. It's true what you say, sometimes it's easier to let go of what others do to us, but our mind keeps going round and round what our family member did to us. Trying to find an explanation the mind keeps going round and round. And it is exhausting, I know from experience too, my friend. I identified a lot with your post 💟
It's refreshing to know that I am not the only one who thinks and overthinks when hurt, it's nice to see others who can relate to this story of mine. Thank you dearest !Lady😀
I understand you clearly and it can be very difficult to let go of many things when it really hurts us but for the sake of peace of mind, letting go is the only option we've got.
Speaking about it can ease the burden, it can definitely bring a huge relief and you definitely on the path to healing.
I totally agree with you, speaking about it does a lot for us than we can ever imagine or think.
Thanks for reading George😃
It's a great mechanism you've learned to adapt. At least now you're also thinking about yourself.
It sure is and I am happy😊
This was very deep and thoughtful Ib 👏
Thank you Tayo!
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Over-thinking breeds sensitivity because your mind pays attention to every details. Why some might see such things as irrelevant, to you it has more meaning than they could possibly comprehend. Over-thinking is beneficial because you get to analyse situation in ways others can't. Yours is beyond just over-thinking, you care too much in the sense that, you prioritise others feelings over yours and yet they don't appreciate it, that is why it hurts. You feel like despite your sacrifices they seem incapable of reciprocating your affection or show gratitude.
I think you have found the solution that allows you to balance the scale, on one hand you still care about people's feelings, on the other hand you chose to no longer suffer in silence as a result of pain caused by people's nonchalant attitude.
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You see that ability to read other people's emotions? It's somewhat a curse because all the time you are right but then people tend to be manipulative and make it seem like you are crazy. I have since known this and for my peace of mind, I hold on to whatever my hunch says is correct or true. And for me, it's my peace of mind over for peace to reign.
Good thing you've been able to find a way around yours. Congratulations 👏🏿
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Ohhh yes!! that's the spirit baby girl!!
Thank you Bipolar❤
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