Can Women breathe?
I am so worried about how society sees and has been seeing women.
Women are pressured the most in this life, so many “Don’t do this”, and “Don’t do that”, You keep hearing things like “Is this how you will become a mother?” “Is this how you will become a wife?”Etcetera etcetera.
The girl child is raised to be a wife and a mother from a very young age while the boy child is left to play around because in the future he will be taken care of by his “wife”.
People rarely remind them of the type of fathers that they’d become in the future, people rarely rub it in their faces to be responsible husbands from an early age.
If parents spend half the time they spend training their female children in training their male children we would have a lot of kind and responsible men in the society today who would be kind to their wives in return. We would have more intentional men who understand that marriage isn’t only to be taken care of by one person but both parties are involved but no, the girl child is the only center of focus.
Can women be cut some slack? In all honesty, the workload is just too much for them. Society has painted the picture of a perfect woman or wife and in the process, a lot of women have lost themselves.
A lot of women’s dreams are or were altered just because they got married, a lot of women stopped living and enjoying their lives because they got married, is this what marriage is supposed to look like? Is this what being a woman is supposed to be?
This post was fueled by the kind of comments I see married women comment on relationship videos on social media. They keep leaving comments like “I am tired”, “I want to leave”, “my husband is not ready to change” and so many more.
A lot of women are suffering in their marriages and are refusing to leave just because of their children. To some women, their happiness does not matter anymore and I ask, is this supposed to be so?
When these women decide to break free, society labels these women as single mothers, and the first thing people think about them is their inability to fight for their marriages or keep their marriages. People look past them because they are not ready to deal with not just the woman but her three to four kids as well.
The question is how often do you hear about single fathers? The ratio is 2:5.
Men are able to opt and leave a marriage and start all over again with ease, of course, he doesn’t need to carry his four children with him, he is still fit to be in a relationship with another woman and have as many kids as he wants as long as he has the money to take care of his new family.
Society expects so much from a woman that she is forced to make certain decisions.
Firstly it starts with the pressure of getting married, then looking down on her achievements because she doesn’t have a man or refusing to give her a role she deserves because she is not married! How crazier can it get!
For the single ladies, society has made young ladies feel so insecure about their bodies. “Ohh her breast is too small”, “she does not have a big ass or her stomach is too big”, “I like them big blah blah blah.
It doesn’t end there as her financial status is accessed, if she isn’t financially stable she can be called a gold digger and if she is financially stable and independent she is seen as a proud and arrogant woman. I ask again what does society want from women?
For humans who do not have the amount of energy or stamina as compared to their male counterparts, they do so much.
Please let women breathe, let us live our lives without you constantly reminding us of the “what ifs” and the “Don’ts of life”. The world is chaotic as it is already don’t be the reason why we second guess or hate ourselves. Cut us some slacks as we aren’t robots but humans with blood running in our veins🙂
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I even wanted to talk about the travails of women, I'd write an entire book. It's crazy what women are made to go through in the society but I'd like to believe that we finally have a choice. No, we can't change the way society and men, generally, see us.
But we can change the way we see ourselves. We have a choice to choose ourselves and our happiness and to not let what these myopic people say affect us.
It starts with self-love. And when you love your self enough, it radiates towards everything around you.
This is so liberating to read, Hun.🌹
If we see ourselves differently from the way the world sees us we would be unstoppable as society's opinion wouldn't matter anymore.
It was truly liberating to write, thanks for stopping by Jhymi😊
I am in full support and please increase the volume 😁
Lol okay my love I'm doing that now☺️☺️
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Things have to change, especially in places where women are still looked upon as the weaker gender. Just like you said, proper education starts at home. If not, future generations will still carry the same notions.
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Exactly! proper education is the way to go. Thanks for stopping by🙂
My pleasure, dearest :) Have a wonderful day.
Hmmm, this is really thought provoking and a wake up call for parents to train their male children to be responsible men and future husbands.
As for the society putting all blames on the woman when a marriage fails, it's been like that from the old, and women then had to accept it because they didn't have the liberty and voice women of these day have.
The society should really give women a breathing space because the pressure is getting much by the day.
This was well written. Good job.
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Be tempting me to go and cut my hair but I am resisting it 😂
I wish all parents should read this especially the part of training their male child, they should know that not only their girl child needs training but their male too. Earnestly, a lot of marriages are not working today because of lack of training from the parents to the male child.
Chai...this woman wants to start a serious war o.
I sincerely agree with your voice on this! The societal expectations on women is so high.
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All so sad and so true, I remember how I felt unloved when told to go into the kitchen to help out and learn but my brothers weren't told the same thing or something close. I remember wishing I was not born as a girl.
Then we all grow up and I still have to balance work with these men plus chores because I am a woman.
When ladies who have been brainwashed into thinking men should take care of them delve into obscene things, we forget where the problem arose. I needed this provocation. Thanks dear.💕
I have not been quiet about what I deserve by a woman. I push back, I fight back and my voice is always the loudest... It wasn't easy at first but now, everyone around me is adjusting to just let me do life how I please.
First step to becoming relevant is, becoming educated and valuable... Every other thing will fall in place.
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I can appreciate your perspective here but at the same time disagree a little bit! There are biological and physiological differences between men and women - and I know we can certainly do better to make men better husbands and fathers. That’s an important factor in all of this, however it is also important that women do prepare for having children and raising them well. There are plenty of issues in the world for having unprepared parents and even absent fathers entirely. Women do a better job of nurturing the children while men do better at pushing them to do things, so it’s give and take on many fronts!
I think the important thing we have to move away from is bad marriages and making kids part of that, resulting in divorce and single parents. There are so many issues with children without a whole household, it’s unfortunate it happens often for many reasons but it’s something we should strive to reduce as much as possible!