Am I ready to be a responsible parent?

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If you clicked this because of the caption calm down I am not pregnant, I am not on the verge of having an abortion neither is the baby in the picture my daughter😂

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So today was one of those days I had to reflect on my life for a few hours and I had to ask myself some pertinent questions.

For the longest time, I have always ran away from responsibilities, if you ever assign me a leadership role, I’d turn it down or would love to co-lead with someone else. My reason for running away from leadership roles and anything that would make me accountable or responsible for a person or group of people is my fear of screwing things up. I always have this fear, that things would blow up in my face by just making a silly move.

I don’t know why I always feel like I could mess things up any moment I’m put on the spot but that is my reality, and I guess I will have to deal with this feeling of doubt before it actually does ruin me

So today I thought about being a wife and a mother. I guess this is one role I wouldn’t be able to ditch because I have to be responsible and held accountable for the little humans I’d bring to this world as well as my partner.
The big question is would I screw it up? Would I take up the role just fine? I guess I’d have to find out when the time comes.

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I have watched my friends move from single ladies to wives and then mothers, I have watched their way of life change right before my very eyes, and in my humble opinion, they seem to be doing just fine regardless of all the ups and downs. Worthy of note is my friend Amenaa.
I wrote a beautiful letter to my friend a few months ago when she was pregnant, four months later her little princess was brought into this world

I’ve watched her deal with postpartum depression, I’ve watched her pause her business and I’ve watched her struggle and transform in all sides for the sake of her baby.

With every new level, she unlocks I can’t help but question myself, can or will I be strong enough to do all of these without breaking down, hurting my baby, or making my marriage suffer?
I am saying all of these because I am not strong like so many people and my threshold of pain is very very low and I keep wondering how I’d cope when I finally get there.

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A lot of people say and also believe that once you get to that phase of your life you’d do just fine, you’d adapt and love it. I am hoping and praying that this saying is true, that I’ll do just fine when that time comes because using my imaginary binoculars to take a peek into my future all I can say is that there are a lot of things I feel I am not prepared for. But thinking about it, I will just have to wait and see, as they say, experience is the best teacher, I hope my experience is great.

So I’m trying to keep an open mind, I’d try to face whatever comes my way head on, just maybe things might not be as bad as I think, until then fingers crossed😃

I don’t know if I am the only one who feels this way about my future, if you can relate to this or have a similar experience I’d love to read your thoughts in the comment section.

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Oh, dear Ibb, I can't help but laugh at myself reading this because I was once like you, full of fear of not going to be good enough at taking the role of a wife and even more fearful of becoming a mother.

During my pregnancy and when my baby arrived, I felt like a new kind of person, changing every second, It is very Challenging, but it is also the most beautiful aspect of my life.

And who says you are not strong? You are very strong Sis and when the time comes you will do an amazing job, So don't worry too much okay 👍 and until then, continue to enjoy not being a mom❣️❣️❣️😍

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Hmm. Another sweet words from a mother to singles like us 😄😄 I am not strong too but I believe I will be when I become a wife and mother.

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Eheh, see all the strong women I know saying they are not strong 🤣😂 don't worry, you ladies will do great; believe me, I was more fragile than you guys can ever think.
!LUV

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During my pregnancy and when my baby arrived, I felt like a new kind of person, changing every second, It is very Challenging, but it is also the most beautiful aspect of my life.

Oh wow! I guess it hits differently when you see the little human being you were able to bring to this world.

You are very strong Sis and when the time comes you will do an amazing job

Awwww thank you dearest Funshee❤️❤️

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When a mother sees her child, every challenge is worth it🥰

You are welcome 🤗

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Those doubts of whether you are capable to handle this new phase of life is not only with you, but I believe that every woman has that inbuilt strength in them that whenever pregnancy and motherhood come they will be able to handle it.
Get to the bridge first you'll find out a good means of crossing it. 😅

!BBH

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Hahaha 😀 yes oo. When we get to the bridge, we will find ways of crossing it.

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The bridge must be crossed safely whether it likes it or not 🤣
!DOOK

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believe that every woman has that inbuilt strength in them that whenever pregnancy and motherhood come they will be able to handle it.

I pray I get to unlock that strength when the time comes, so help me God😃

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Every level in our life can take inside of them fears. It is a logical reaction. It means face a unknown zone for us but only if we face every level can grow up. Prove yourself, at your own path, of course.

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Thank you so much this was so thoughtful😃

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Hahaha. Whenever I think of becoming a mother someday, fear would have a grip on me especially when I start hearing those challenges being faced by mothers, though they would end up saying it's always a sweet and wonderful journey.

Well, in my tribe, they will say, "When we get to the river, we will know how to cross it" hahaha 😆 when that time comes, we will see the reality and that responsibilities we are running away from would be staring at us because there wouldn't be any choice except you want to give your child out for someone else to care for him or her. Hahaha 😀 I don't want such. God will help us.

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except you want to give your child out for someone else to care for him or her. Hahaha 😀 I don't want such.

Hahahaha Princess that's not even an option ooooo

God will indeed help us my dear, we'd face all the challenges head on without getting frustrated, Amen!😃

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Hahaha 😂, fear fear..CEO of HIVE.. just dey play, lolz
Well well, I perfectly understand you my dear but c'mon, you can do it ...trust me
Infact, you won't even know how you will start doing everything and doing it well. Just like people have been telling you, when you reach that phase, you will cross it and that's true from my experience
I use to have such fear considering my low strength but where I derive strength today handling things to the point that many people admire my resilient, I do not know

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Hahaha 😂, fear fear..CEO of HIVE.. just dey play, lolz

Lemme ooooo

but where I derive strength today handling things to the point that many people admire my resilient, I don't know

I can’t wait to see how everything play out in the future.

Thank you Mama🤗

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Just like we do not know what adulthood holds for us we just can't escape it, so too motherhood will hit soon and just like we've been coping with adulthood, so too you will cope with motherhood. Don't be surprised that you'd be the most amazing and strongest mom ever. When you see your little one, then you'll go all out to keep them safe and happy.

P. S... Is there any wedding bell ringing? I make clothes sha ooo.. 😜

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so too motherhood will hit soon and just like we've been coping with adulthood,

Such a valid point Amie!

P. S... Is there any wedding bell ringing? I make clothes sha ooo.. 😜

Lol when the time is right you’ll hear😂😂

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Saludos cordiales @ibbtammy
Muchas veces nos calificamos y nos concedemos debilidades, sin la experiencia de vivir. Así sembramos al futuro, preocupaciones y ansiedades. Disfrutemos del ahora, fluyamos en él y llegado el momento asumamos la experiencia, muy probablemente seremos los primeros sorprendidos con las respuestas obtenidas.
Te agradecemos tus atentas aportaciones y tu frecuente participación en nuestra comunidad. Nuestra gratitud !LUV
marilour

Saludos cordiales @ibbtammy
Muchas veces nos calificamos y nos concedemos debilidades, sin la experiencia de vivir. Así sembramos al futuro, preocupaciones y ansiedades. Disfrutemos del ahora, fluyamos en él y llegado el momento asumamos la experiencia, muy probablemente seremos los primeros sorprendidos con las respuestas obtenidas.
Te agradecemos tus atentas aportaciones y tu frecuente participación en nuestra comunidad. Nuestra gratitud.
marilour

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There was a time in my life when I dreaded marriage and all that comes with it, till I grew past it. It had its beauty which far surpassed the little ugliness that has been made more pronounced by a world that loves bad tales than good.

Just remember that the beauty far surpasses the little ugliness. You will do great dear, I know it.

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Just remember that the beauty far surpasses the little ugliness. You will do great dear, I know it.

Thank you so much my darling this means a lot to me❤️

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