TRANSFORMING ARGUMENTS INTO OPPORTUNITY

It’s almost impossible to interact with people on a daily basis and not get into an argument with them. People can be unpredictable even to themselves, so having an argument when we interact is something that gets harder to avoid the more we have more knowledge of the people we interact with. The fact that we all came from different backgrounds and experiences often affects the way we think and act depending on the situations we are presented with.

Recently, I had a misunderstanding with a friend and the more I tried or he tried making things better, it seemed like it was only making matters worst but then he kept saying he doesn’t wants to argue with me. Well, I had thought the same way some few days back but then I got to realize that there is no relationship that arguments won’t arise except of course there is no interaction. Or maybe one person already knows the other too well and tries his or her best to always try to be more attentive to details so as to avoid causing unnecessary arguments.

I hate it when I realize I’ve misunderstood someone but too bad sometimes there is almost no turning back, I just have to let go of them or they just have to let go of me because we are both worried that arguments come up quite too often. I don’t like having arguments especially with those who are really close to me so I always try to get things in control as much as I can so I don’t end up losing a friend. Most times it’s pride and ego that gets in the way, I don’t want to be the one who is wrong so I hate admitting that I’m wrong even when I’m wrong.

Getting into argument with someone is not always to the ruin of things, most times it helps you understand a person better, what they like and don’t like and that in turn helps your relationship gets stronger and better. The only problem might be when both parties decides to focus more on the arguments than on their relationship, getting to understand each other better. The thing is, without arguments, it’s almost impossible to know a person better, both of you have to argue about some certain things for you to know some important things about them.

Don’t seek after always having an argument with someone but then if it comes don’t shy away from it because that might just be what you need to know them better. I know we think that when we love someone then every thing should be all nice and rosy but that’s not how it always works, even pure gold has to go through a very hot furnace to come out all shiny and attractive. But then, even as we get involved in these arguments, it is always good to keep an open mind and try to accept when we are wrong.

I’m still working on myself when it comes to having an argument with a friend or a family member and trust me it is not always easy but then it is possible. But if we keep running away from arguments we will never be able to learn how to become better in interacting because we don’t even know the person we are interacting with well enough due to some other avoided arguments.

So what do you think, will you rather avoid an argument or you also agree with me that it is a good way to get to know a person better? Do leave your thoughts below.