THE SPACE BETWEEN
It took me the first 18 years of my life to finally consider dating and at first I dated someone who was not so close at all because he was in school then but we got to see each other when he was on holidays. Well, for some personal reasons I had to call it quits but then it was never because he was far away, in fact that was one reason why I didn’t want that relationship to end but unfortunately it had to.
Being in a relationship for me entails so many things except sex before marriage and that is one reason why I just most times reject most guys that ask me out because I know they are not serious about making me their wife but they just want to be in a relationship for fun. In fact, once I perceive a guy’s interests towards me is mostly because he wants me to go to bed with him, that means that relationship has ended without too much thoughts.
And due to this, I’ve always preferred long distance relationship because I know it is what will help me avoid the temptation of going to bed with any guy just because I’m dating him. I know I’m human and I have emotions, so the more I see the one I love I might easily forget my plans of not sleeping with a guy Because I love him. Even if I’m very sure he is the one I’d be getting married to, it’s only right that all the marriage rites have been done before I can let him have access to my body.
You see, I’ve always had the mind of, what if I sleep with a guy and he ends up not getting married to me, what will that make me? Because I’m definitely going to date another guy which might also not be the last. Well, to some people they call it fun but I know it isn’t fun because it’s only a matter of time before I will realize the damage that can bring to us if we engage in it.
Dating is not a license to sleeping around, for me it is a period of knowing the one you think you might spend the rest of your life with but then when that knowing period becomes too long, eventually the guy or the lady will begin to want more from their partner. And this is one major reasons while I always go for long distance relationship but personally I just prefer to stay single until I know I’m ready to settle down with someone.
This is my response to the Hiveghana weekly topic on ”THE LONG DISTANCE”.
Interesting take on this topic. Not even sure what to reply to this cause love is not my thing. But I do agree with the whole waiting for the right one part, just not sure if that's enough reason to prefer long distance lol. Someone can still travel with fire lol.
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Exactly, those are the ones I avoid at all cost 😂🏃♀️➡️.
Well, I will know to an extent what a guy wants from me so it will be a little bit easier but I also know that some human beings are bad 😂. Some guys can do anything just to sleep with a girl
Hehe, yeah some people are savages Fr. It's all about finding that right person.
That right person is still far so for now relationship is on hold 😌
Yeah that's true. If you go looking for them you'll probably not find them. They usually come into our lives when we're not looking.
That’s just it 😌
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Interesting reading material. What is the most long-distance relationship you have had and how often did you guys meet?
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The longest was about 12 hours journey and he visited when he was in town 🫠.
Was that 12 hours by car? 😄 Incredible you can make that work 👏🏼
Yes by car. Yeah, I’m good at long distance relationships 😌
Seems like any man would be blessed to have you as their wifey 🙌🏼
Aww, thank you 🥹
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Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you so much 🥰
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I believe that I don't need to go for a relationship right now because I have so many important things to do in my life which are more important than a relationship. I won't appreciate myself going for manual dating. I don't need to do what others doing or what is trending. If someone loves me then she will come into my life and I don't want to spend any single moment thinking such kind of things. I leave this thing to the fate😅.
Hahaha, I love this 😂. Well, that’s just it and I think you are on track. When the time is right she will come into your life or you will go into her life, hehe
Relationships are generally the time to familiarize, get to know each other well enough and especially ask the important questions. There are pros and cons to both long and short distanced ones and the intentionality and resolve of the two people involved is important.
Your choice is valid.
#dreemerforlife
Thank you so much for your contribution dear, it’s a pleasure to have you stop by 🥰
I wish I could send the shocking sticker but I will not so I will send this😳😳😳😳
😂😂😂it’s really one of the best mindsets actually…. I have the same mindset too trust me…but I still don’t know like long distance and for some reason, no matter how much I love you, I have some serious control over my desires..it makes me prouddd🥰
Well, it’s a good thing that you have self control but you can never say for the next person and I think that is where the problem is for me and that’s why I just prefer to avoid it as much as possible from the start.
Thank you so much for your contribution dear 🥰
Did someone fall down today?
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I did 🥹🫠. I feel like all my bones are too heavy for my body. I just had a long day
You did?😳😳😳
I felt you had a long day
Looks like the thing would have to be on weekends
Not really though, my timetable is just a bit unstable now but I think it will get better with time.
But I think it’s ideal to pick days and let’s both work towards it 🥹
Alright that’s our mission tomorrow
Alright dear, thank you so much for not giving up on me 🥹
Oh don’t mention
Today again 🤦🏾♀️. When will you be going to bed?
I’m literally in bed, I woke up to drink water
Okay dear 🫠
I love your reason for choosing a long distance relationships, this will help one avoid temptation of sex or other immorality. I also prefer long distance relationships where we only get to see ourselves once in a while and the "awwnn, I miss you so much" thing 🤣🤣 #dreemerforlife
I know right? 😂😂 See finish will not be there for a very long time 😂🏃♀️➡️
Hahaha 😆
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It's admirable how you prioritize commitment and values in relationships, especially avoiding temptations that may compromise your principles. Long distance relationships can indeed provide a buffer against certain pressures.
Thank you so much for your contribution Comfort 🥰
You are welcome
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Relationship entails so much more than people realize but it is very sad what the dating pool has turned into lately. As for me, I think I can do well in a long distance relationship as much as I can with a short one, anyone works.
Well, I feel anyone works too for me but then I prefer long distance relationships because I only know myself (not even 100%). I can’t be too sure of the other person, hehe
Lol, true though.
You get it now 🫠
Okay, I don't really know what to say, coz this topic is very personal. But here's a quick question.
How about you see a guy you really like and you're sure he likes you and he's in the same school as you. Would you refuse to date him coz you don't want to have sex with him?
Im proud of you for keeping yourself for the right one, especially in this time . It's not easy at all❤️❤️
As long as I know I’m not ready to get married, I’d try everything I can to not accept him, if he is willing we can just be friends but if not he can look for someone else except… he agrees with the terms and I know he is not someone that will end up wanting to break boundaries.
Anyways, we mostly attract what we want so I hope that such things stay far from me for now if not I’d break a lot of hearts 😂
It's not as easy as it sounds tho, but I'm sure you'll find someone who will respect your values and stay with you till marriage. It's really a blessing ❤️.
Ahhh, then I'm sure boys will cry a river in that your school oo😂😂. Please take it easy in the breaking of hearts 😂
Yeah it’s not easy but it’s doable and I’m going to try my best or else I suffer for it 🥲.
Yeah, I will try to go easy but I can’t guarantee that 😂
I love that you're determined. May the Lord guide your path.
Please oo 😂😂😂
Amen, that’s my prayer.
Hehe, I’d think about it 🥰