MY BREAKTHROUGH
The cure is in the disease! Just seeing this caption, the first thing that came to my mind was I’m not alone!!! So many times we are so carried away by the problem and that makes us think that the solution is so far fetched so we always try to think outside the box when in reality the solution is right in the box! I’ve been in that kind of situation before so I know what it feels like.
As an individual, I had so many flawed memories of me making a good decision when I focus so much on the problem before me. Growing up I was always easily vexed by anything done to me, I always believed that we all know what is right so we should just do it and all not until I fixed my legs in those shoes. I was so so uncomfortable and it was only then I knew how hard it was to do the right thing sometimes.
I became more understanding towards people that find it hard to do some things the way they should be done because I knew it could be me. At first I thought it was impossible changing my attitude of getting angry all the time and that made just believed that it wasn’t me that was the problem, it has to be people but I was wrong! It took me quite some time to realize that though.
Something happened between a lady and myself and the lady wasn’t so nice because she brought out a part of me that I felt so disgusted to see. For the first time in my life, I insulted someone way older than me, ahh!!! I was shocked and at that moment it was as if my world was paused and I had to just reminisce on what had just happened even while at the heat of a conversation.
I comforted myself by saying it was the lady’s fault because she was the one that pushed me but the truth is I did something wrong. Yes I was angry but then that wasn’t just enough reason for me to insult someone not to mention someone who was old enough to be my mother.
I felt remorseful almost immediately and at that point I knew I had been wasting my time trying to argue with that lady because the argument was something I could have easily avoided but I didn’t. And that made me learn the hard way but I’m glad that I never repeated that act again. I also got to realize that I was the problem most of the time and that has been part of the reason why I decided to work on myself.
I’m still not where I want to be but then I know those who knew me then if they get to see me now they will know that quite a lot of things have changed and most of them are good. That situation is one of those situations that taught me that the cure is in the disease as I was able to examine myself and tell myself the truth which wasn’t so easy for me. The funny part was that others have told me about my attitude but I was just there thinking they were being judgmental but the moment I gave myself a little look inward, the solution was just right there before my very eyes all along.
I learnt and I kept getting better by every passing day because I became more intentional of always looking within than focusing more on what is without. My life now makes more meaning to me because my goal gets clearer the more I know myself. Accepting the truth still hurts every single time but I’m always open to hearing it because in those truths lies my breakthrough.
This is my submission for the Dreem WOTW and it’s a pleasure having you stop by to read through ❤️.
Haha, you are such a nice and kind person to be thinking of these things so deeply and clearly.
As for the age thing... I work in an environment where I sometimes have to be the leader of people or come into opposition of people who are also the same age as my father or much older than me. But it is my job to resist their opinions when they are wrong.
Even my own boss's!
I think that there are stages of "growing up" that happens after we become adults that nobody talks to us about. I see some of those things in adults of a variety of ages that have NOT passed those stages and are stuck in one sort of mindset.
Well, I hope you find peace in the way that you work through this last occurrence, but all I can tell you is that you can be respectful but still choose your own side. You are allowed to do that.
One of my favourite things to tell me recently is that they should learn about themselves. It's an incredibly powerful thing. You tend to realize things you didn't know you could or couldn't do. Credits to you to get self aware enough tobm realize you insulted someone, and the anger thing. It's all a process, and identifying that it's a problem is the first stage of solving it.
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Your girl is loyal sir 🫠. I learnt but it wasn’t easy but it was totally worth it.
Thank you so much for your beautiful comment and your encouragement sir, it’s highly appreciated ❤️
It is the nature of human not to accept their own mistakes. Maybe in instant people can't realize it. I think we we need to know when and where to speak or become quiet. You learned lesson from the first time and it's good for you although I think it wasn't an easy task for you. We should try our best to keep improving ourselves.
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You are right, I struggled to accept the truth about myself but I’m doing it and it has been getting better every day.
Thank you so much for your beautiful comment, it’s encouraging 🫠
Hello there, Hope. Growing up, I constantly battled anger issues. My mom would always tell me to work on myself. She’d say things like; “is this how you’d get angry at your wife?” Then one day, I got angry at my best friend and he was really hurt. Like, really hurt. I could see it in his eyes. From that day, I decided to start working on myself.
Now, it is rare to see me get angry. I just walk out or go offline, whichever the case may be. I have realized that is the best thing to always do.
Some people push us to do crazy things. I’m pretty sure you are not the type of person to insult elderly people. “Just walk away. Just walk away.” This is what is always ringing in my head. I’m really glad you’re working on yourself.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me Fave, really the best way to help is walking away from those who are trying to get on your nerves or if you can just keep quiet and listen so they won’t think you are disrespectful walking out on them.
At least now we have each other 🥰
Now that’s the spirit my !luv, keep pushing!
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Thank you sweetheart 🫂❤️
The fact that you paused right after you did the actions shows that you’re really not that kind of person to be insulting older people.
If not, you wouldn’t have even seen anything wrong with it in the first place. It’s great to know that you saw the wrong in what you did in the first place and then you decided to do something about it.
Yeah it actually took me long to finally start working on myself because I was trying to claim self righteous but I knew at that point that I was wrong.
Thank you so much for stopping by my love 🥰
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Isn’t that sweet
You’re welcome dear🥰
It's always said that the solution to a problem is in the problem not outside it. Scientists who constantly experiment to find cures to diseases take samples from those who have been infected with the disease to experiment. It's good that you are working on your anger trait, that's quite commendable, some people won't. I know you'll keep to it until you finally put it in check.!HUG
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You’re absolutely right ma’am about that analogy 😁. Thank you so much for your best wishes, I hope I get rid of it completely 🫠
We should always learn in all we do to really control our angers which would be of great help to us all.
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Yes dear, we should 🥰
Very amazing 😍
Thank you 😊
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I think being conscious of your actions and accepting your mistakes is a good personality you have. Sometimes, it's difficult to control our emotions and we wouldn't know when we go overboard with our actions because we are humans full of flesh...but great to realize when we react unusual and try to fix it
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That’s right mama. Thank you so much for your beautiful contribution ❤️