Las personas necesitan atención / People need attention
Hello this topic is very delicate for me, because my mother is going through this situation, I know we all have responsibilities but taking care of your elderly is part of what we have as children and I am not only talking about taking care of them, but talking to them, listening to them, sometimes people feel that they are not taken into account that what they say is not important, that hurts more than a chronic illness.
Por esa razón si tú tienes la dicha de disfrutar de tus padres que están en el ocaso de la vida, tomate unos 15 minutos para hablar con ellos para acercarte para hacerlos sentir valiosos, la mayoría de nuestros adultos mayores están tristes o deprimidos, sienten que son un estorbo que no son productivos pero la cosa nones así pero hay que hacerlos saber, por esa razón hay tantos ancianos que sienten una soledad muy grande así estén acompañados.
Cómo profesional de la salud me ha tocado atender a muchos adultos mayores, con infinidad de historias, algunos solo vienen a la clínica a conversar, otros a que les presten atención, otros para aliviar algún dolor pero todos tienen en común que se sienten solos sus hijos trabajan no tienen tiempo para sentarse a conversar por un momento es bastante complicado por que estamos tan ocupados que no miramos que quien está al lado es nuestro padre o nuestra madre.
A veces perdemos a nuestros padres mucho antes de que ellos fallezca, por que nos alejamos de ellos estando con nosotros, son pequeños detalles, como una llamada una visita una salida, un detalle puede hacer la diferencia cuando ya no trabajas, cuando ya no te sientes productivo, buscan algo que los llene y se entretengan, pero no debemos olvidar que ellos dejaron muchos sueños atrás por nosotros, seamos un poco empáticos.
For that reason if you have the joy of enjoying your parents who are in the twilight of life, take about 15 minutes to talk to them to approach them to make them feel valuable, most of our seniors are sad or depressed, they feel they are a nuisance that they are not productive but the thing is not so but you have to let them know, for that reason there are so many seniors who feel a very large loneliness even if they are accompanied.
As a health professional I have seen many older adults, with countless stories, some only come to the clinic to talk, others to receive attention, others to relieve some pain but all have in common that they feel lonely, their children work, they do not have time to sit and talk for a moment, it is quite complicated because we are so busy that we do not see that who is next to us is our father or our mother.
Sometimes we lose our parents long before they pass away, because we get away from them being with us, they are small details, like a call a visit an outing, a detail can make a difference when you no longer work, when you no longer feel productive, they are looking for something to fill them and entertain themselves, but we must not forget that they left many dreams behind for us, let's be a little empathetic.
Ser adulto mayor no es un problema es parte de la vida es una etapa donde vamos en declive pero eso no significa que tengamos que hacerlos a un lado u olvidarse de ellos por que, ya no interesa lo que piensas o lo que dicen, pero ellos son la historia viva de la vida, incluso han vivido tantas cosas que podrían escribir varios libros pero no, son tomados en cuenta los olvidamos, los hacemos a un lado.
Se que tenemos mucho trabajo, obligaciones y compromisos pero debemos hacer un espacio para compartir con ellos por que los hace sentir valioso, por lo menos a mí me encanta hablar con ellos preguntarle sobre su trabajo su hogar son historias muy interesantes, a veces ese escuchar es lo que ellos necesita, que les presten atención, eso es precisamente lo que mi mami necesitaba, que la involucren y eso estoy haciendo.
Mi mamá estaba en Venezuela, con mi hermana, pero ella tiene un trabajo que la absorbe, no le deja tiempo, se iba y mi mamá dormida, llegaba y mi mamá dormida, no tiene tiempo de hablar con ella de ver cómo pasó el día, de lo demas está bien pero no todo es comer es hacer sentir a la otra persona que no está sola, por que eso la hace feliz es parte de lo que tenemos que hacer como hijos, el dinero no lo es todo pero ayuda a que las cosas sean más llevaderas.
Being an older adult is not a problem, it is part of life, it is a stage where we are in decline, but that does not mean that we have to put them aside or forget about them because it does not matter what you think or what they say, but they are the living history of life, they have even lived so many things that they could write several books, but no, they are taken into account, we forget them, we put them aside.
I know we have a lot of work, obligations and commitments but we must make a space to share with them because it makes them feel valuable, at least I love to talk to them, ask them about their work, their home, they are very interesting stories, sometimes that listening is what they need, that they pay attention to them, that is precisely what my mommy needed, that they involve her and that is what I am doing.
My mom was in Venezuela, with my sister, but she has a job that absorbs her, it doesn't leave her time, she would leave and my mom would be asleep, she would arrive and my mom would be asleep, she doesn't have time to talk to her to see how the day went, everything else is fine but not everything is eating, it is making the other person feel that they are not alone, because that makes them happy is part of what we have to do as children, money is not everything but it helps to make things more bearable.
Hay que hacer tiempo para ellos, para hablar, salir por allí a comer, escucharlos, es la parte más importante por que allí es que ellos se alegran se animan por supuesto hay que dejarlos que realicen sus tareas por ellos mismos, ayudar solo cuando ellos lo indiquen por que de resto son verdaderamente unos personajes, han vivido tanto que se sienten que tienen muchas cosas que contar.
Por eso es importante darle su espacio darle su tiempo sé que todos tenemos obligaciones y ocupaciones pero dentro de todas esas agendas full de cosas por hacer debemos anotar en un espacio que debemos charlar hablar conversar hacer un alto para tomar en cuenta a nuestros adultos mayores, fueron quienes nos criaron quienes nos levantaron quiénes no formaron y merece me que por lo menos seamos lo suficientemente educados como para escucharlos entenderlos y abrazarlos.
You have to make time for them, to talk, to go out to eat, to listen to them, it is the most important part because that is where they are happy, they cheer up, of course you have to let them do their tasks by themselves, help only when they indicate it because otherwise they are really characters, they have lived so much that they feel they have many things to tell.
That is why it is important to give them their space, give them their time, I know that we all have obligations and occupations but within all those agendas full of things to do we should write down in a space that we should talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk, they were the ones who raised us who raised us who raised us who raised us who did not form us and it deserves me that at least we should be educated enough to listen to them understand them and embrace them.
Yo por mi parte estoy haciendo mi trabajo atendiendo a mi mamá para que esté tranquila se sienta atendida amada, que no es un estorbo que a pesar de que ya no trabaja porque está jubilada tiene sus aportes porque es una persona inteligente y profesional con mucha experiencia y muchos consejos que dar muchas oraciones también que hacer por cada uno de nosotros Por eso yo estoy haciendo mi trabajo alegrándole los días porque no sé cuánto tiempo más estará conmigo eso dependerá de Dios.
I for my part am doing my job taking care of my mother so that she feels loved and cared for, that she is not a nuisance, that even though she no longer works because she is retired she has her contributions because she is an intelligent and professional person with a lot of experience and a lot of advice to give and a lot of prayers to do for each one of us, so I am doing my job making her days happy because I do not know how much longer she will be with me, that will depend on God.
Helengutier2
VOY POR MÁS
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Editor Gif Art
Traductor Deepl
Bogotá - Colombia