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As little children, it was easier for us to give out trust, we trusted everyone and everything with all of our hearts, why not? We were all so innocent and not aware of how life can get, soon we lose every piece of trust every age we ascend from mummy telling us to go put on our sandals, she will wait for us, but by the time you are back, mummy is gone, you start crying, feeling sad, you trusted her, but she left you behind, the next time she tells you to do the same thing, you refuse because you can't trust to keep her words and that is how little by little you start losing trust in people from such a young age.

It is hard for me to sustain a friend today because of my experience in the past, I limit friendship to superficial levels, and I make sure not to get too attached because when we trust someone so much and they hurt us it is usually more painful than when it was just on the superficial levels. Imagine a friend going behind your back and spreading false rumors about you but in your face, she smiles and comforts you only for you to realize she had been the devil all along, how is it even possible to trust her again, even after she pleaded for forgiveness when she got discovered as the traitor, I can forgive but the brain doesn't forget.

There is a saying that when dining with the devil, use a long spoon, meaning when dealing with people especially those you don't trust, be very cautious so as not to fall victim to their evil agendas.

Distrust among couples

This is an area you have to build your trust whether you like it or not or you will constantly suffer from high bp, I have heard some men say they can't marry a beautiful woman because they won't have rest of mind due to the number of men that will want to flock around her, my hubby use to say this during our early days of courtship, but with time he got overly confident, in his word now, I'm the most trustworthy woman when it comes to being faithful, this confidence, to be frank, gets me upset at times, I know I'm trustworthy, but him not getting jealous of other men like I see most men do to their wives makes me feel the confidence is too much, I trust him too, but a little jealousy is healthy at times, don't mind me, I just feel that way. The great thing is that my marriage has stood the test of time based on trust and is still waxing stronger irrespective of the challenges.

To conclude this post, know that trust lost can never return the same way, it's lost forever, trust is expensive to give out, and when you are handed this, consider it priceless and work towards maintaining it. Also, it is very essential to trust ones spouse, that is why it is advisable to know each other better even down to your deepest secret, if they can deal with it and still want you no matter what, they are dependable then. A marriage that has no foundation of trust is on the verge of collapse as soon as it begins.

Thank you for reading❤❤