A simple I AM SORRY can soften the strongest heart
Why is it so hard to say sorry when it doesn't take anything away from you?
This is a question I have had to ask some people around me, due to their ego or nonchalant attitude to admit that they are sorry even when they are in the wrong. I'm Sorry should not be a difficult word to confess to someone, because it shows you respect and care for the other person's feelings. Like I always say, admitting you are sorry doesn't make you less of a human, rather it shows you are mature enough to take responsibility for your action and the benefits outweigh when you hold on to your ego.
Benefits of saying I'm Sorry
1 it helps both parties heal from hurt and anger
When you hurt someone, you feel troubled if you don't apologize, so saying sorry brings calm and peace to your heart instead of holding onto your ego and anger, just say the simple magical word and you will see the anger fizzling away.
2 It shows you are courageous
Truth be told, it isn't easy to admit you are sorry, you feel vulnerable, but taking the bold step to admitting your wrongdoing means you have the courage and you also care for the other person's feelings.
3 it brings about trust
If you can't admit you are wrong in little things, you can't be trusted in bigger ones, and when you hurt someone, they find it very hard to trust you again because you've hurt their feelings before and didn't care about apologizing.
For me, I admit I'm sorry easily just like the way I forgive easily, but not when I'm not guilty, I find it hard to say sorry for something I am not guilty of, because I feel the other person is trying to gaslight me into taking blames for their action, I will rather prefer you communicate with me and make me understand how I have wronged you, instead of demanding an apology when I haven't seen my fault. When I truly know I'm guilty, I apologize immediately and sincerely too.
In my home, my spouse finds it very hard to say sorry even when I have complained a lot, his sorry is always put into action than voicing out, he will rather help with house chores, buy me things I didn't ask for, and show more care than needed, that I begin to wonder if this type of apology should be termed normal and accepted, although, I would still prefer he says it with his mouth than taking actions.
There was a time he hurt my feeling by deciding on something without informing me first, which made us lose a huge amount of money, I became aware after the did have been done, and he still wanted to use his normal action way of feeling sorry, I stood my ground of him apologizing by voicing it out to show he truly cared about how I felt, when he saw that I was not bulging, he had no other choice than to admit it and has been learning gradually to say the magic word because our kids need to learn this act from us.
A simple I AM SORRY softens even the strongest of heart, learn to say sorry when it's needed, don't stay long to admit you are sorry because it might be too late also be sincere when apologizing, don't act as if you are forced to.
This post is an entry to the hive learners contest, week 53, edition 3.
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A simple sorry softens a strongest heart but many people just want to allow devil take over them. They are always happy hurting people and would never apologize because it is who they are.
You are totally right on this word. It is what I also keep remembering.
Hmm, I wonder how they comfortably live that way of life.
My dad will always say, saying sorry doesn't take away your glory.
Thanks for coming around dear.
LoL 😂 this is fantastic sorry walai
I don't know why men find it difficult to say sorry isn't just a word 🤷
My sister be thankful for the fact that he help you to say sorry and buy you things to say sorry
Some men will never feel remorseful about it they will still expect you to beg them instead
I don't know too O my sister.
Not in my side o, I will change it for him, he will get tired of my trouble 😂😂
Yes is not hard to say, but very difficult at times. I use to be like that before. Not saying sorry, but now I have learnt my lessons.
Thanks for sharing.
Glad you are gradually getting over not saying sorry, sorry helps both heart to be at peace.
Thanks for coming around mama
God bless you dear.
I wonder why saying sorry is such a big thing. It's proper that one apologizes when they're wrong same way we say 'thank you when something is done to/for you.
And then,saying the words is not same as getting gifts.
I wonder too, it's just a word, doesn't make anyone smaller than himself
"I will rather prefer you communicate with me and make me understand how I have wronged you, instead of demanding an apology when I haven't seen my fault. When I truly know I'm guilty, I apologize immediately and sincerely too."
A lot of people don't get this logic and it's been termed as being proud to admit to a fault you have no idea of. This is why effective communication is very important.
You understand exactly what I mean, miscommunication leads to a lot of misunderstanding, they end up tagging you proud for something you are not aware of guilty of.
Thanks for this comment dear, I appreciate you
You're welcome. 😇
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Some persons see it as a sign of weakness or a sign of submission while others see it as a sign of guilt.
If Una no kill us with this topic then we go survive everything else😂😂.
Well, as for the other method of apology, honestly, I don't value it also.
Even if you want to go extra mile for me to forgive you, you should atleast voice it out first.... That is the most important thing.
What happens when you don't have money to buy me gifts then?
Does that mean you will use the family's meal money to buy some things I don't need just to have me forgive you?
Great post dear.... Goodluck
We go kill men with this topic.jut relax and feed Ur ears 🚶🚶🚶😌
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I really do not know why some people find it difficult to say that they are sorry. The word sorry has so much benefits however I agree with your opinion...let the other party show u where u got it wrong before apologizing..that's great too at least so u don't end up doing the same thing.
I also prefer voicing out the word sorry rather than actions like gift buying but some men are just that way including my hubby.. lol
It's just ego dear,
If they don't communicate, how will we understand their point of view, it will further lead to misunderstanding.
Haha, they are almost all the same, they don't know that hearing it from them is the sweetest.
They don't know, I wish they know
Lol
Saying Sorry is the best way to mend a broken relationship and as you have said, there are lots of advantages of saying sorry and I am with you on sorry melting the heart of a strong person, it's just stubbornness lol...
Saying sorry even when you being wronged shows how disciplined and courageous you are that is why saying sorry is important...
Related much of your story. My husband cannot say sorry also every time he made mistakes. So I made sure to teach my children on saying sorry when they hurt someone. And everytime I made mistakes with my kids, I say sorry right away so they will follow.
Saying sorry can lighten the mood also. It softens the heart of an angry person because of being hurt.
I don't know why they are like that, still, we don't have to relent in letting them know it's wrong to hold back saying sorry.
It's a good thing you are being a good example to your children, well done mama.
I appreciate this wonderful comment.
It's because they are not used to say those words. And they just make it up by showing extra care, extra sweet with their actions. Na minsan over na. 😅
Our fathers trained us not to apologise too much to a woman because it shows signs of weakness.
I'm just telling you bro code now, don't decode it, lol.
So men hardly say sorry, we shall channel the sorry into another love language.
But I have changed now,I do say sorry to my wife, whenever I'm wrong.
Peace is better than violence
Thank you.
I am sorry is an emotional statement that hits the marrows of our souls. Staying cool after saying I'm sorry is another virtue we must imbibe to show the sincerity of our apologies
you are right, sometimes there are people in their hearts who want to apologize for the mistakes they have done, but they are not brave enough to express the word sorry, indeed the word sorry is a word that can change even people who are angry for the better, only people who have enough the courage to admit it