Misunderstanding attraction for love.

It is normal for us as humans to misunderstand a lot of things because we don't have in-depth knowledge of some things and when it has to do with misunderstanding feelings, I do say that we aren't patient enough to define our feelings.

Feelings are among the things humans misunderstand and in most cases, we are at fault for not being patient enough to define our feelings. In some cases, it was not a misunderstanding. Some people pretend knowing fully that they are only attracted to something and they disappear once they have achieved what they wanted.

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Every feeling of love is developed from the feeling of attraction, we get attracted first and eventually fall in love for different reasons but a lot of people misunderstand attraction for love which ends up causing a lot of problems in their relationship life.

Attraction is a feeling we must be careful with, there are times it immediately makes us feel like this is all we have desired but when we look deeper, we discover that there is more to what we want than what we are attracted to. We are attracted to physics, material things, wealth, intelligence, body shape, and many other things which are not enough to keep a relationship except the true feeling of love is developed after attraction.

After my first breakup many years ago, I was broken. Imagine planning the future with someone and the person isn't even thinking about tomorrow.

I waited long enough before getting into one and it ended just like every love story I have heard around me. I was heartbroken and I felt like a part of me was missing. The pressure to fill the space was huge and I was at work on a faithful day when I came across this beautiful lady.

She is pretty and her smile stole my heart. She immediately saw through and that day, we had this discussion. Her body was perfectly carved and she was just too perfect to be a human, a lot of thoughts popped into my head while staring at her.

I was attracted to her and I didn't get to know her before asking her out. It didn't take long before I discovered that I was fooled by attraction and not love. At first, I discovered she lied about a lot of things and her habits were opposite mine.

I started detaching myself slowly until we broke up, we barely last 6 months and after checking myself critically, I figured out that I was only attracted to what I saw and there was no sort of love connection from me to her.

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After her, I was patient because I realized many of the broken relationships were built on attraction and not love. Attraction is not a good foundation for a relationship and until we realize that, it will be difficult to find someone we want to spend the rest of our life with.

It took more than a year to find someone who I want to spend the rest of my life with. It all started with attraction and I had to wait for another 8 months to be sure it wasn't just an attraction. With time, I realized we had a lot of things in common and understood each other very well.

At the point when I admitted that it wasn't just an attraction, we were already deeply in love with each other. The relationship shifted from a close distance to a long-distance relationship, it stood the test of various conditions and still survived.

It takes patience for attraction to grow into love and it doesn't apply to intimate relationships only. Even friendship sometimes starts with attraction and we must be patient enough so that we won't misunderstand attraction for love.

Patience can save us from a lot of drama or heartbreaking moments that can come up later.