Inculcating Discipline In A Child; A Compulsory Duty For Parents.
The absence of discipline in a child's upbringing is like leaving a garden to grow without properly caring for it. A lot of things like weeds, pests, and rodents will manifest in the garden and somehow, they will affect the growth of the valuable plants in the garden.
It surprises me when I see parents handle a child's discipline with so much negligence, many have forgotten that it is only when a child is properly trained the parents will have the peace of mind to reap the reward of their labor. I always told people that having a disciplined parent is a blessing but not everyone understands what I mean by that.
Aside from the fact that parents who do not discipline their children do face challenges later in life, the children who are not disciplined also find life challenging. Many of the children that turned out to be a menace in the society today started with the issue of indiscipline, many parents messed up with the foundation of their children and it usually end up with the kids struggling to let go or live with what indiscipline has caused them to become so having disciplinary officers as my parents is a great blessing to me.
Even as an adult, there are things I wouldn't still do because if it leaks out to any of my parents, I should be ready to speak for over an hour on call and this should make it clear that importance of discipline can't be overlooked in the life of every child.
I was either four or five years of age when I first took what doesn't belong to me and if my parents didn't react the right way, I don't know what it might have turned out to be for me today. We returned from our church anniversary on a Sunday and after eating to my satisfaction at church, my mom still gave me some rice, chicken, and limca at home.
My parents are senior workers in the church so their anniversary food was dished separately.
After I finished my meal, Mom asked if I wanted more but I said no because I was full already. I sat down to watch TV when my mom served my dad's food and the big meats in his food caught my attention.
Dad was bathing, mom was busy in the room so I thought of taking one of Dad's meat. I gently walked to the dining table and immediately I picked up the meat, Dad walked in.
I was shocked and when he asked me why I took the meat, I denied taking the piece of meat that was in my hand. To cut the story short, I was punished for lying and stealing.
My dad told me to always remind him of my punishment every morning which was five strokes of cane. I always reminded him but he would pardon me but any day I didn't remind him, he would punish me. That one-time experience made me scared of stealing and it helped me to be contented with whatever I have.
What am I driving at? If my dad had pardoned me that day, I will have had a reason to take what doesn't belong to me again and it will become a habit.
Many parents make the mistake that a child is too young to be disciplined not knowing that it's best to start when they are young before things get worse.
My experience in the first house I rented taught me a lot about disciplining a child no matter how young they are, the level of punishment will definitely be different based on age but you mustn't overlook anything.
One of my landlord's grandchildren was obsessed with stealing and his mother wasn't doing anything about it. Whenever people complained, she always defend the boy and even fight whoever accuses the child.
I got to know that he has been stealing since he was a kid, he will steal fish from people's pots in the kitchen and his mother won't discipline him.
He did it until he was caught in the act but he escaped. We reported him to the mother and she pleaded that we shouldn't involve people after she saw the proof. The boy refused to come home and she refunded the missing moneythe
I don't know what she discussed with him that made the boy return home but he stopped greeting us and his mother didn't rebuke him for that. After I left the house, I heard that he was arrested by the police twice and the mother had to take him away from the environment.
Whenever I think of this boy, I always wondered what I could have become if my parents didn't discipline me the day I stole a piece of meat.
Every parent must value the importance of discipline and make sure it is inculcated in the child's life as he or she grows. Failure to do that would mean that there won't be peace for even the parent at the time when they are supposed to rest.
All forms of discipline which include moral, financial, and other kind of discipline must be taken seriously.
Discipling a child can happen in different forms and the most important this is that it should be done with love. A lot of parents have failed with disciplining their children because they are doing it wrongly which makes the child see wickedness and not discipline.
When you scold a child, the reason why it was done must become an anthem to their ears.
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This!!! I just told @rafzat on her post about training a child in the way he should go, and he won't depart from it when he is old.
Parents can have peace of mind if they train their children well.
Mum and dad did good by you, George. And that boys mum did wrong by him. 🥺
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If many parent think about their old age, they won't hesitate to do the right thing with their child but many make the mistake and start running around when they are suppose to rest.
The woman actually didn't help the boy, I won't be surprise if he becomes a notorious thief someday.
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I totally agree with you George, it's not about beating the child alone, but by making them know the reason they were punished, just like your father did to you.
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Children don't understand a lot of things and that's why some interpret discipline as hatred because their parents aren't doing it the right way.
It is important as a parent to discipline a child with love, let them know why they are been punished and ensure to embrace them after, it makes the lesson you taught them to sink well.
Very well
Well said bro when the parents of a child fails to discipline them it's the same as a garden without a gardener they grow wild wings and become a disgrace to the family and community at large
When a child is not properly disciplined, he or she will definitely bring shame to the family. The good thing is that, it's not just the child problem and the whole family is involved.
Your dad's action was a great one. It was a discipline you couldn't forget in a hurry and I see how it helped while growing up. The mother and her son in your story are getting things wrongly...only if parents should see that discipline doesn't mean that the child isn't loved, but rather shows how much care you have for that child.
Thanks for your participation
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He made sure that reminding him everyday created a permanent fear of stealing again and it really helped me because ever since that day, I usually feel scared to take what doesn't belong to me.
If he had let go that day, it could have lead to something worse for me.
When my big sis was taken at a tender age to live with our grandparents, though grandpa loved her so much and would pamper her with many things, but he never forgets using the rod when he should. He will flog the hell out of her when she brings home what does not belong to her because Baba detests such acts. She grew up to learn and imbibe those acts which have helped her today.
Parents out of negligence fail to discipline their children and overlook many things which affect them as they grow up. Not correcting a child when he is tender from bad acts will grow with him and become a complete menace in society which cannot be changed except if God decides to intervene but things would have gone worse before then.
Had it been your dad did not caution you that day, you could have become something else today. Parents need to notice these little things while they can and while there is time to do the needful.
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I believe that it is possible for us to pamper a child and as well discipline a child. Pampering a child doesn't mean that such child must lack any form of discipline.
I think it is better not to pamper than not disciplining a child because lack of discipline would ruin a child future right from childhood.
Well, balancing both will be better too. Pampering and then using the rod on them when necessary.
It's called correcting with reason. You let the child know exactly why you're disciplining them so they don't make the same mistake again. It's environment like this that would shape that child into being something worthwhile in future. Your dad did really well.
Yeah, that's a good way to explain it. It is important for parents to correct their child with discipline because that way, they can retain the fear of what he or she was corrected for.
Indeed some form of discipline is needed in order to guide children. As you mentioned it comes in different forms and it should be done with love so it is not seen as “wickedness” by the child. Parents need to find the balance as guidance is essential for child care.
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Hello @george-dee. You are correct. It is up to the individuals parents to decide when and how to discipline their children. I feel that if you wait any length of time, the effectiveness isn't the same as tending to the matter immediately.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Take care.
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