Rabbi's Story ||| Neoxian City Prompt
Brought from his mom's previous marriage at the age of two, Rabbi like any Little child was loved so much by her mom, and lucky for him, his stepfather loved him very much as well.
He has three older siblings, two boys and a girl from his stepfather's previous marriage, and later a younger brother from her mom's new marriage.
Being born by a different man, his stepfather makes sure to satisfy his every need. Always pampered and made sure he is happy, according to the stepfather, not taking very good care of him will feel like because Rabbi is not his biological son.
Never discipline him whenever he does something wrong, he will say he is just a kid and will grow and learn with time.
His mom is no different, and as well never let any of his older siblings discipline him as it is supposed to be in African culture. This has brought up arguments in their family many times.
Rabbi will be left alone to do whatever he likes whenever their parents are around but when they are not the older siblings will try to caution him of his bad behaviors as much as they can. This helped Rabbi a little to adjust his behavior at least when his parents are not around. But once they are back he will go back to his old self, very lazy, and will never want to join his siblings doing any farm work or house chores. As he will always make up excuses for one sickness or another. Or blankly refused to join them. And all the parents will say is "Leave him alone when he grows up he will change".
During Ramadan fasting, though he has reached the age of those who can participate in fasting, Rabbi will be too lazy to fast even when his little younger brother Keem will join them in the fasting.
His older siblings grew up to the stage they left for their various colleges and higher institutions, graduated, and started a life of their own.
Rabbi on the other hand was only able to finish his secondary school education, and that was the time his elder siblings were still around. Later on, he joined bad gangs in the neighborhood before his parents would realize it, and he started smoking and drinking alcohol. At the age of seventeen, Rabbi impregnated a lady in their neighborhood and had to stop his higher education dream since his parents can't take care of his new family and at the same time cater to his education.
His life became frustrating, he began to constitute a nuisance in the family and the community.
The stepfather will say, Rabbi, is proving stubborn because I'm not his biological father and always blame his wife for his poor behavior.
The mother will usually visit one prayer house or another praying for Rabbi to start behaving well, looking for who to blame for his son's unusual behavior.
Rabbi on the other hand is mad with the whole family for how his life turned out and has no regard for anyone whatsoever.
Rabbi's older siblings blamed their parents for not disciplining him when he was still very little, for granting him too much freedom to do whatever he liked when he liked and how likes it.
To my dear readers, whose fault it is, that Rabbi's life turned out bad this way?
In my opinion, a child, if not corrected when they do something wrong, will believe they are on the right path and they will continue to grow in such paths until it will be too late to correct them.
As parents, we don't just have authority over our kids for no reason. Our job is to use such authority to guide them and discipline them when necessary with love so that they can develop into a responsible adult.
When you say leave a child, he will learn without actually correcting their mistake. Such a child has a great tendency to become a spoiled brat or even go wayward before you can say, Jack.
A child does not know much of the difference between right and wrong, hence they need to be guided, corrected, and disciplined with love whenever necessary.
I can recall my dad only flogged me with a cane just a few times while I was little but he has a way of making sure I fall in line and behave well. Besides, he only needs to look at me in a certain way for me to adjust my character.
My dad uses a method some will call a rewarding method. When I'm well-behaved, he praises me and buys me extra snacks, biscuits, and pies. And for me to get more goodies I always do my best to behave well. Besides I hate to disappoint my parents very much, I always listen to them. My dad's method is what I plan to use for my kids.
As much as I wish this is a fiction story, it is not. This is a true life story of a family who used to be very close to my extended family. Rabbi was failed by parents who thoughts a child will learn on his own when he grows up.
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Spare the rod and spoil the child!. That's why African parent are a very good breed of parents. Many of them never hesitate to correct you when you're wrong.
In as much as I don't like pointing fingers but in this story,the parents were wrong. Rabbi's siblings tried their best but his parents didn't do the right thing. They were supposed to device means to correct him without making him feel too bad.
I agree with you, elder siblings' authority is limited and when parents are not in support of them disciplining Rabbi there will be so little they can do.
It's rather sad that this is a real life story.
Very sad indeed
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So bad! Leave him, when he grows up, he will change..... how will he change when discipline has not been done or taken place in Rabbi´s life? This is the mistake many parents make and when things go south, the mother especially will start jumping from one prayer house to another seeking for a solution. I don´t think there is any solution anywhere except they do the needful when a child is still very tender and would accept morals and be used to them when he grows up. Children need to be trained and disciplined and parents should not refuse to use the rod on them, if not, they will regret it in the end.
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It is a very sad one for Rabbi, and there are many parents like this in our society. Ogede n baje won ni o pon
And when it's too ripe and spoilt, there is nothing to be done to it. Lol
Exactly!
The parents of Rabbi left the child to his own ways. As you said a child needs to be discipline with love. The method used will vary per household but children needs to be guided indeed.
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Yeah, and this should start when they are still very little and easy to correct.
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Rabbi's parent got it all wrong initially and that single action contributed in ruining his life. Children must be guided accordingly if we really claim to love them otherwise, the end result is always on a bad note
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They did got it wrong with Rabbi. Appropriate discipline from our parents means love as without that the future maybe a disaster.