Seeking for a wife | MCGI Topic Review

In a world that demands control, Brother Eli Soriano offers us a different perspective on identifying a life partner. He asks us to review our approach towards relationships and marriage as well as have faith in God’s time instead of seeking for a spouse.

Brother Eli begins by dispelling believers’ common misconception. People should know what the Bible says about an ideal partner they think. But he says, “Just wait for God’s time and you don’t have to look for a wife or that kind of woman that is described in the scriptures. God will provide.”

To prove this point, Brother Eli cites 1 Corinthians 7 from the bible. He says, “Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife.” This makes us question our motives’ Why are we looking after someone who can be your spouse?’ Do we do it because we cannot fully rely on God’s plan?

Brother Eli then highlights Proverbs 19:14 which says, “House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord.” It strongly divides money/property and wisdom in choosing spouses. Wealth or property may be inherited from parents but a woman who shows prudence comes only from God.

This is even more clearly shown by Brother Eli when he talks about the first marriage in history- Adam and Eve. Look at it, Adam did not ask God for a wife but God himself took the initiative to provide him with a wife.” In fact, when we read Genesis carefully, we do not find Adam requesting for a partner. Instead it was God who realized that Adam needed someone to be with him.

Brother Eli quotes Genesis 2:18 stating; “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him.” This divine step without asking from Adam as an example of how true Proverbs are- a prudential wife comes from the Lord.

What can then be concluded from Brother Eli’s sermon? It is actually an invitation to rely on God’s providence and his time. By avoiding searching for a perfect mate or being pressured into getting into relationships, we can rest assured of our peace since God knows our requirements and aspirations.

However, it does not mean that we should become completely passive or isolate ourselves from social interactions. Rather than desperately seeking to complete myself in another person or cramming myself into someone else, I have to concentrate on developing my own character and deepening my relationship with God. Moving forward in faith so that I might become who He wants me to be also positions me well to recognize and appreciate whoever He brings into my life as my spouse.

Waiting on the timing of God is difficult to do as Brother Eli says in a world where everything must be instant. However, we can surrender our desires to Him and rest in His will. It is during this waiting period that people grow personally, learn about themselves and become more spiritual.

Brother Eli says that we should never forget that Gods time is always the best. He sees into our lives more deeply than we do ourselves and knows who or what we need better than us. Once we stop being obsessed with managing every aspect of our love life, then Gods surprise package will be opened for us.

So if you are single and wondering about your future partner take courage from Brother Eli’s words. Rather than searching, start becoming. Grow into yourself. Develop your relationships with your friends and relatives. Take up things which give you joy, purposeful things that matter most and also increase intimacy with God.

You don’t have to look high and low or settle for less just because you’re scared of being by yourself forever alone, just have faith because if marriage is part of your divine purpose he will bring them at the appointed time.