Replicating Growing Up with My Kids

Train up a child in the way he should grow, and when he is older, he won't depart from it. This is one of the Bible scriptures I have come to love. Growing up as a kid, I have learned so much from my parents, so much I am grateful for, and so much I would like to give back to my children if given the chance.

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While growing up, there was one thing that my parents made sure all their kids learned, and that was contentment and proactiveness. The reason we see young boys going into crime and ladies going into prostitution is because they are not grateful for the little they have and they want more. Many individuals are influenced by the lifestyles of others, which often motivates them to go to great lengths to achieve a similar way of life.

I have come to learn and understand that, in this world, we can't always get what we want because the world was not created for everyone to be balanced. Some people are born to rule while others are born to follow, so wherever I find myself, I am always ready to make the best of it.

The world we live in today is a fast-growing one; some people call it the computer age because of how fast things are developing, which is the truth. If you want to move one step ahead of other people, then you need to be proactive. I remember my dad always saying, "There are thousands of people doing the same thing you do, and the only way to be ahead of them is to be proactive and be the best at what you do."

My dad always believes, "Whatever is worth doing, then it is worth doing well." If this is a local or professional job, you need to be proactive and ready to learn new things related to your job. So if I am going to replicate anything in my future kids, it would be contentment and proactiveness. If I could add one more thing, that would be eating together with my siblings from one plate. It really bound us together while we were growing.

Something I wouldn't want to repeat in my kids lives was the way my dad and mom beat me while I was growing up. I am sure many kids in Nigeria have had their share of this beating and flogging. No doubt, I was a little stubborn, but I believe some words of advice and encouragement would have helped me out a lot. My parents should be grateful to God for the way I turned out to be because I turned out to be a good and loving child who loves his parents.

I wouldn't want my kids to go through the same feeling I felt back then because it was horrible. I wouldn't want to replicate that in their lives. Sometimes I feel like I am hated, but that is not the truth. They love me and want the best for me, but there are other ways to show that.

Well, that's it for me. Thanks for reading my post. This is my entry for the Hivenaija weekly prom. I love you all, and I love my country.

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Bro, I couldn't help but laugh at the beating part. You see the African soil does not allow words of encouragement to work on kids, it is only with the cane that they are straightened out, as a teacher I can testify. But I think doing the beatings in moderation and only when it is overly necessary is key.

Most wayward kids today became that way because they were not spanked even once for their misdeeds. In as much as I love my daughter, I wouldn't want her to feel like life is a merry go round and she can do as she pleases. There is a time to take responsibility.

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hehehe
I get your point. Like I said, I was a little stubborn. okay, add a little to it.
They beat me, ehnnnn😭😭😭
Even at the sins of my younger ones, I still collect beating

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😂😂😂 that's why you are their senior bro. You share the joy and the pain too

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The beating part is a very necessary thing in our African homes, even if ur parent are linear and don’t beat you
There are aunts and uncles who will do that job
It’s a must that seem like punishment then
But it does help you become better person

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Yeah yeah
We can say it help us become a better person
But parent should do things in moderation sha

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A lot of us have had a fair share of African beating. Lol
Our parents thought that was the best way to discipline a child. It was what made my younger sister used to cane and no matter how much you beat her, she won't shed a tiny tear. But that doesn't mean a child won't go astray, except a child who is determined to be the best which I am grateful myself and siblings are today.

Contentment and proactiveness are great skills for someone to possess.

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Yeah
We all had our share of the flogging while growing up
And I was a sweet boy when I was younger o
Anyways
Thanks for the great comment
Now tell me
Who beat my sweet tosin

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Troublesome Fash, why wouldn't you be beaten? Lol.
But then again, I can understand the reason why you say so that you wouldn't treat your kids the same. Sometimes I wondered why I was beaten instead of just being heard out.

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Exactly. Sometimes when I commit a crime by their own different of crime
No one gives me a listening ear to say my part
I just get flogged unnecessarily

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Lol.. we'll certainly do better by our kids.❤️

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