Age gap in relationships: What do you believe should be the ideal age gap. A must watch.

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Hello hivers, it's another weekend and it's time for us to learn and share the knowledge we have with other people. Today I would like to discuss with you all on "Age gap in a relationship"

The concept of an ideal age gap in a relationship can vary widely depending on the cultural, personal, and situational factor. However, we are in the modern times, and there are some general considerations to keep in about getting into a relationship with some age circle.

In today's video, I'll be sharing with you all what i believe should be the age gap amongst people in the dating pool. I don't have all the knowledge in the world which is why i would like you to answer the last question stated in the video. Thanks for watching.


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Age in relationship depends on the person who wants to be in relationship. 😊

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So if a 18 year old wants to date a 30 year old. Its cool?

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It is there decision.😄 As long as it is not you who had those relationship.😁

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Sometimes people tend to generalise a lot of things. Watching your video, I think you made a lot of sense. An age gap of 10years to 20years is too much for people in the dating pool in my opinion. But looking at it again it may really be matters of personal opinion. 😊

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😊I love what you said.
It does matter when its reserve.
If a 30 year old lady starts dating a 18 year old boy or younger. Is it ok because it is personal opinion. Or a lady dating someone her dad age because it is her opinion.

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Other people have their own opinions. But like I said earlier, I feel that the gap is too much. I will not be happy if my 20years old daughter brings home a 40 or 50years old man. God forbid.

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Hmmm
Well, if there is love then that’s all that matters 🌚

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You can say that again 🙄🤔🤫🤭

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Everyone has good answers. I believe knowing what you want and having directions and vision for your relationship is what matters. Even as a lady, older than a guy, once she is mature and can respect him, then, it's good. My dad is 11 yrs older than my mom but that's a long time and can't be compared to now. But I believe true love and having what it takes to care for your partner are what is major in such relationship.

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So in a nutshell you are saying Age doesn't matter in the dating pool in as much the both love each other and can take care of their partner.

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Hmm, this is a very interesting but controversial topic because there will be a lot of opinions drawn from individual preferences.

Everyone has his or her taste in what they want their relationship to be like. I have come across ladies who claim to only prefer older men because they feel that the older man will pamper them while some ladies will never date a man they are older than seemingly because they feel that they won't get along with the guy.

Then we have the set of people who feel that dating a guy who is on par with them age wise will give them an edge and stop disrespect from the guy and vice versa.

Truth be told, the answer is based on individual preference but for the sake of morality and acceptable societal codes, I can say that the correct age gap should be 8 to ten years.

We all know that age is just a number. A relationship can only thrive when there is love, understanding, tolerance, patience and mutual respect between the partners. Age has nothing to do with it.

So the key focus should not be on the age factor alone. Some cultures in the north allow for a man as old as my grandfather to get married to a very young girl. In fact it is seen as a smart decision in those cultures. With this in view, can you fault them?

No, right? Because it is their belief and culture.

So also the best age gap for a relationship depends on individual preference.

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You said it all!

Individual preferences take the front row

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so if you have a bro of 20 that wants to date a lady of 60 years, you can allow it because it is his preference. awwwww.

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Professor Becky
first of all. Thanks for this amazing and educating comment
So, its acceptable for a man of 40 years old court a lady of 18years of age or younger because its their culture?

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Not just because of that bro, if it is what both of them wants.

See bro, I need you to be open minded rather than being judgemental about this and understand that there is no measuring standard of right and wrong in things like this.

Personally, I won't allow such a scenario if it involves any female member of my family but that does not mean that I will go and poke my nose in other people's affairs o.

Where I reside currently, there are such cases and both partners are happy with their choices.

The only time we (observers and onlookers) can have a say is when there is force or abuse attached to the relationship.

Thank God you said it's not marriage but dating. So in view of a dating relationship, the African culture favours a man to be much older than his woman as he feels that he would be respected that way. And the young girl who is supposed to be thinking of her future, will be smiling and calling the older man daddy.

See guy, a lot has changed and a lot is happening. Don't let us stretch this beyond how it is.

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Hmm
Thanks for this contribution
I’m glad you came to this post to share your view in the matter
I love this and I’ve learned greatly from you

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At this point I wish there was a tool on here that allows for the record of Voice notes.

So, for me I think it's a thing of personal preference actually. I have a friend who prefers older men... We are talking about 10 to 15 years older than herself.

And on the other hand there's me, I think the healthy gap would be between 2 to 5 years.

The reason is I feel that's is, when the age gap between you and your lover isn't so wide you are more like friends and you can joke and play with each other. But you see that one that you are older than with over 5 years as a man?

She would probably feel like she's your younger one

And if she's now older than you... Me I can't even do this one sef, she will be like your big sister or sugar mummy.

However, as I said earlier it is very subjective and dependent on individual preferences.

I hope with these few points of mine I've been able to convince and not confuse you that... 😉 You know the rest

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Yes

I truly get your point now after reading this
I would like to add one point. How will the lady feel when the guy is 15 years older if eventually, they get married. How do you think their old age will look like.

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o.o so u 5-6 maybe max 7 years?

I think it really depends but one thing for sure if one person is 18+ and the other is under 18 or whatever the age of consent is that should be a nono in my opinion.

As for age gap, I think it depends. For me, I feel as we grow older it doesn't matter as much like maybe someone 50 with someone 65 actually is fine but if you look at it like 18 and 33 then it most cases people would see it kind of weird like sugardaddy o rsomething. anyways it depends on the person and what they can accept but i think as long as the feeling sare there, it's genuine and not for some omtive like getting inheritance etc then all is good. for me, I think my range i slike -5/6 and +2/3. I don't want the girl to be too much older than me.

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I think I accept with you on this point.
Imagine a much older lady dating a young guy or vise versa, how will their old age look like.
Because, people will always condemn them either behind them or in forth. And I know some family that have a age gap limit.

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oh ya for sure people will but if that's what they want and both parties are adults and ok with it then we shouldnt bother but it's normal there will be people judging but if they can handle it then don't see why they can't be together

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Hmmm
I should call you Solomon cause you’re bumming with wisdom

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nah lol its mostly just things i have thought to myself xD cuz im overthinker

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This particular topic is something that has been discussed by different people, sharing their thoughts and opinions, for me, I feel like age matters, I love my man to be older but then the age gap is what I can't tell, I feel like the age gap doesn't matter but then just be older.

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Yeah, most ladies do love older men and i think there are just few men out there that loves older lady. I don't know about the age gap you set but is it an age gap you tell people and they wouldn't feel weird about it?

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The age difference doesn't matter, it can two even one, I'm okay with it, as long as the man is older I'm fine

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Hmm
I understand your point of view
I love that you contributed well and I can see things in a new way
Thanks so much 🫶🏽

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See as Fash has just made everyone come to write plenty.😂

How much is too much? Baba, just have money. Even Ned Nwoko saf marry at his age.

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hahahahha 😁😁😁

The alien man is at it again.
but
Nhaji
How can you say that. You mean you can marry anyone regardless of the age so long there is money
😲😨😱

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Is that what I said? Stop putting words into my mouth.😂

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Yes na, you said if money is involve you can marry a old man.
See me crying on my chair while typing this.

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😂😂cry harder. Get up and go and find money jorr.

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🤣🤣
And it’s because of you and this money I’m doing all this o

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But I’m not even the one spending your money.😭

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This is an interesting topic with different opinions.

First of all, it's not wrong if a guy dates a younger lady, yeah. It's about the maturity of their mindsets.

It's all about mindset building. I know some people who are married to their partners of the same age, guys younger than their wives with 2 years (oh yes) hahaha, guys older than their wives with 1-5 years and more. They are living happily and supporting each other's dreams.

Everyone has a purpose of going into a relationship and I would suggest 18+ as a starting age if you must. Some people wait until they clock 20 before going into a relationship.

I think 10 years gap should be the limit, especially when the guy doesn't look too old for the lady, I mean some men may be 45 years and look 35 years or 36 years while a lady may be 35 years and would look 25 years. Also, a man of 28 years may look 38 years while a lady of 26 years may look 36 years.

The most important thing is the maturity of their mindsets which will probably lead to a successful relationship.

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Hmm
Well said
At least you said 10years should be the maximum even if they look older or younger
Thanks for stopping by

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Thanks, friend.

I think 10 years gap should be the limit, especially when the guy doesn't look too old for the lady,

Yeah, 10 years but the man should not look too old for the lady.

You're welcome. Have a great day.

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Hello @fashtioluwa interesting proposal for the dissertation, I would tell you that any answer is correct and valid, because it is very own and personal, subjective of your interior, of your decisions, of your tastes. There are no authors, with this I want to say that here the important thing is the one who makes the decision, it is his life and not the life of others !LUV

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I love that everyone contributed and I love that I also learned. I understand your point too and I think maturity matters but I also believe everyone has an age gap limit in their mind, if you think well about it, what year do you think should be the maximum between a couple

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