The act of discipline from a prospective mother

It kind of get toxic when it has to do with how a child should be discipline because first you don't want to over pamper them so they don't get used to the bad habits and secondly you either don't want to inflect too much punishment on them.

As a female and second child of my mom with four other siblings behind, I think it is safe to say I know and can tell about mother's and their discipline actions. As a child, while growing up my parent have different methods when it comes to discipline us and most at times it is even the least expected crime they punish us for. I remember my mom or dad would ask us to pick pin (punishment) another day they would use cane on us while the next time mom delay serving us lunch if it was to be in the afternoon and morning breakfast would be delayed and so on. For sure they never let us get used to one type of punishment so we were usually very scared when we commit an offense cause we don't know what awaits us.

While growing up, we used to have this stubborn boy in our neibourhood that loves causing nuisance. Today if his not looking for neighbor A child trouble it would be neighbor B and because of that his parent loves beating him a lot. To them, using cane was the best option that it got used to the child. Whenever we threatened to go report him to his mom he always replies with; is it not just cane they will use to punish me and that's all which implies that his used to been lashed.

To me I never see frequent use of cane on a child as the best way to discipline he or she so I have learned to discipline my younger ones with the method my parents used for me when growing up. To discipline a child is not wrong at all but how you do it matters a lot. Whenever my younger ones offend me I just look at them controlling my anger and try to remember one of those difficult punishment for them to do one that would make them cry without me touching them. I do this a lot of times and I switched to using belt on them when they are proving to be stubborn that way their head will reset. 🤣

But amidst all the punishment and flooding, my best way of making my younger ones and even children around me see the errors they made and for them not to do it again is by talking to them. I find it very appealing sitting a child down and telling them the bad effects their actions can result too and it has worked over the years but still at that I still give them a physical punishment but the most important thing is that there is a balance with all I do with them.

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