No Way Out
No Way Out
My middle childhood was full of drama, those who knew me as a child marvel at how calm and simple I became when I grew.
Those days, I was known to be the chief fighter in our locality. I was just looking out for any opportunity to fight. Not that I was strong, I just wanted to prove that I was not weakling. Apologies then was not a word I know, once you offend me, whether you like it or not we are going to fight.
If you are wondering how I became like that, here is the gist: I knew my area to be on the police blacklist right from when I was a kid to date, if it's fighting, cultism, or rebellion, just count us in.
In fact, there used to be a period when my area organized fighting marches with other areas. If your area seems to feel they are stubborn or attack anyone from our area, there will be a fighting match, it's more like a riot, it has happened many times and trust me it used to be bloody, the youth of my area are just too bad.
As a kid, if someone offends you and you take a flight instead of standing your ground to fight and return home crying, you are finished, your parents will beat the hell out of you and send you back to fight.
Almost everyone believed it was the best way to earn respect. You fight to prove that you are a man or woman. Those who apologize or run are considered weaklings.
I have this neighbor, Joy. She was always feeling too big and classy, probably because she came from the city and knew how to speak English fluently. Back then I was not good at English, I only knew how to speak Hausa(a native language).
Joy was everyone's crush among our peers, I won't lie, I also liked her but she always formed a boss around me. Though I like her, but I hate her too, I just hope you understand.
One of those days, I was weeding our backyard. It was the rainy season, my dad asked me to weed the grasses off. It was in the morning, while I was weeding,
I heard, "Emreal, isn't that our hoe?"
I paused and turned to see who was talking, well, it was joy.
Mtchew, I hissed, "Does this look like your hoe?" I responded, raising the hoe up.
"Let me see it," she said, coming closer.
"If you know what's good for you, don't even come near me, because I am going to beat the hell out of you," I replied.
"What? Are you talking to me? If you know that you are a man, repeat what you just said," she hesitated and responded.
"Yes, joy, I am talking to you if you come near me I'll beat you blue, black," I told her the second time.
Actually, I loved fighting, but I know the kind of people I fight. Joy was bigger than me, and comparing strength, I knew she could beat the hell out of me.
I was only making a mouth because I felt she was a lady, if I kept quiet, it would be as if I was scared of a woman, and a few kids were there witnessing what was transpiring. I mean it won't be nice to hear that the whole Emreal was scared of joy, those guys will mock me till I hate myself.
In my mind, I thought, all the disagreement would lead to agreement in the end because I was raising my voice, I expected that she would be scared.
But the reverse was what happened, Joy started moving faster towards my direction with her face frowning, "Should I fight or take a flight?" I was wondering inside in confusion.
But my lips wouldn't keep mute, I was so scared but that feeling of being a man wouldn't let me stop challenging her. Until she came close and grabbed my collar.
Gosh, that lady was strong, she almost raised me by the shirt, a thought came to apologize and let everything slide but turning my face towards our back door, I saw my father standing with his hand folded and smiling while watching us
You know what that means? If I let joy beat me or even throw me to the ground, I am finished. I would get a kind of beating that would never let me get involved in a fight unless I knew I could conquer.
Immediately I saw him, power just flowed into my body, "stop this, I pushed her hands away, are you trying me?" I asked as I removed my shirt.
"Yes, what will you do," Joy off her shoes and positioned well to throw a punch. I didn't know how it happened but I raised her up and put her to the ground.
Those kids watching us started cheering me, and it hurt the lady, she cried and went home. Those kids thought I was strong, they didn't know I had no option other than to fight, if I begged or returned while crying, I would be in trouble.
When I got home, my dad was just praising me, he said, "That's my son, I was just watching to see if you would run and come to the house or allow her to beat you, only God would have saved you. When you look for trouble, stay there and fight, don't even think of coming home because I will beat you more."
After that day, Joy respected me a lot, whenever she was talking, if I said "You want to try me?" She would apologize and turn it into a play. If only she knew I won by chance that day, LoL. She and I became cool subsequently and she later became my first love while I was in senior secondary school.
😂, you were a stubborn fighter when you were small .
A very stubborn one broh🤣🤣
Oh my God 😀
You definitely won by chance that day and the fear that came over you seeing your dad gave you that courage and power and you won. Hahaha. You could have gotten home to another trouble if you'd run then but I think such situation helps us to be lucky making our opponent feel we have the strength.
Heheh, it was completely by chance ma, if my dad hadn't showed up, joy would have fed me earth🤣🤣
Yea, I know right? Your dad's presence definitely gave you the courage and strength. I am here again through dreemport. I am a #dreemerforlife
That's true, awnnn. Am glad to see you ma
You are welcome.
A typical definition of "we disagree to agree". You fought first, then became lovers after. Must be nice.
Hahahah, sometimes things happen that way🤣 thanks for reading 🥰
A culture of fighting? wow! It would have been a shame if you let a girl beat you though. You fought to maintain your ego, every man fights in one way or the other to keep their ego I guess.
Well, that must have been all memories especially with the fact she ended up as your first lover — would have loved to hear the events that went down in your relationship with her though 😁🤔
Cool one 👍
LoL, that's street life, heheh. A big shame it would have been sir, but I conquered 😂😂
We dated for about 3 years and broke up later, but we are still cool
The values in your culture and community were rough! It must have taught you a lot about how to stand up for yourself and also learn some good self-defense moves. Thank you for sharing your story in The Ink Well and for reading and commenting on the work of other community members.
Hehehe, very rough, though things have reduced now.
We are growing I guess.
Thanks so much for the support 😍
Hahaha, that seems to have been a very interesting childhood :) In my case it was exactly opposite. We did fight but that was the normal fight between kids. However I had to work hard to ensure that my dad never came to know of it. If he ever heard one of his kids was physically fighting he would unleash hell on us. And just one rap from his palm on my thigh was enough to cause me to be in pain for a long time. So if I got hurt fighting I had to hide it from him and from my mom. So I learned early on to avoid fights as much as possible and rather turn it into a verbal debate or argument :)
Cheers from a fellow @dreemerforlife
Wow, your dad was a man of peace. Fighting is not a good thing, I am glad he and mom trained you that way.
Haha, baba fighter
You na Mike the boxer o, hehe
I love the courage to beat joy las las
I can imagine how proud you must have been after the fight, hehe. But no fight again o
LoL, I had no option than to fight joy, if I let her beat me, I would be in a serious trouble at home.
I have stopped that long, long ago, LoL.
Thanks so much for reading
Uwlc sir
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LoL, awnn, am glad I made someone laughed🙃. I would love to have more of that.
Thanks so much for stopping by ma
You are welcome dear 😊
Hi @emreal, an interesting text, it's good that from that experience you got a loving relationship and not a conflictive one.
I'm glad life gave you that positive experience.
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Thanks you🥰
Thank you so much, I really appreciate seeing you around 🥰🥰
I do fear that kind of area ooo. We had an area like that in my hometown. I don't like passing there to avoid troubles. You beat Joy by chance. At times, fear could prevent us from doing some certain things. I believe that you are a gentleman now!
#dreemerforlife
Unfortunately, my area is still like that though it has reduce to some extent. God has helped me sir, I can say I have changed 😂
😂😂😂... It's one of those memorable experiences. You are welcome, bro.
So you were Killiwee Nwachukwu while growing up,? 🙄 I was actually waiting to read that Joy didn't have joy at all and crushed your arrogance but the opposite happened. It was just by a stroke of luck that you won her, not that you had the strength.
#dreemerforlife
LoL, I was a small killiwee😉 but come to think of it, why would a lady beat me sef? It doesn't sound nice at all 😂😂 Let me not brag, I was lucky for luck 😂😂.
Thanks for reading ma 🥰
My! Oh goodness, it's always a funny thing when people believe you to be some way when something happens only by chance. It's like an inside joke!
Hahhahah that's right, if only they knew 😂