A Tale of a Toxic Relationship
I haven't really been in a toxic relationship, but I have a close friend of mine who has. A toxic relationship is definitely not something you would want to engage yourself in, especially as a lady. It's much better to be single than to be in a relationship that takes away your peace. Listening to my friends story taught me this lesson.
She got into a relationship with a guy at a very young age; she was just fifteen. The relationship lasted for about a span of five years. According to her, everything was going smoothly within the first six months of the relationship. During the course of the relationship, she began to experience some funny behaviours from the guy.
He became overly suspicious of her and other boys he saw her talking with. He began to dictate who she was allowed to talk with and who she wasn't allowed to. He also gave her a period of time she was allowed to talk to the people he had permitted her to talk with. He even went as far as telling her to cut off from posting her pictures on social media, saying he wasn't comfortable with people seeing her face all over the social media.
Being a young girl at that time and being afraid of losing him, she kept to all his instructions despite how ridiculous they sounded. Until she came to find out that he was seeing another girl secretly. She told him that she couldn't continue with the relationship anymore. He fell down at her feet and began to cry, promising to change.
She couldn't stand the sight of him crying, and she decided to give him another chance. They got back together, but his attitude even got worse. Everyday, it was one drama or the other. Being in the relationship with him cost her many opportunities and chances of connecting with people that will be of help to her.
There were occasions where he even abused her physically. He will then pacify her by buying her some gifts. Being carried away with the gifts and his well structured apologies, she will still end up forgiving him. But that just kept giving him more leverage to continue in his nasty behaviours.
She got fed up and decided to put an end to the relationship, and this time finally. He still tried to get back with her with countless phone calls and texts asking her to give him another chance. He even pleaded with her close friends to beg her on his behalf, but it was to no avail.
Many people are in this kind of situation. Believe me, it is not worth it. Listening to her story taught me some vital lessons.
• If someone makes you feel less of yourself in a relationship, leave them behind.
• Love is not abusive; love is someone caring for you.
• Love should not make you feel like you're in a cage; it should make you a better person.
• If you're feeling scared with the person with whom you are in a relationship, you are in the wrong relationship.
• A relationship where there's a lack of trust should be avoided.
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Toxic relationship should be avoided at all cost, I for one don't buy the idea of such and I wonder what your friend was thinking to have entered into a relationship at such a young age.
Well, glad she fine in the end.
Thanks for reading through.
Toxic relationships can be such a hell and by all means I advice those close to me to back out from it.