Pat-finding

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Life usually has its own plans for our lives that eventually manifests irrespective of how much we try to avoid it with our plans and strategies. That is what happened to me some years back as I stumbled upon Pat and she became a big part of my life. Pat was a childhood friend since she was about 3 years old and I was 5.

We separated for a long time after her parents took her back to a neighboring state where they stayed. As time went on, I eventually forgot that a person like that ever existed in my life. It was at a time when I was in high school and it seemed all of my friends and peers had girlfriends except me. It got so bad that at some point my sister had to arrange for hers and her friends' school daughters for me to choose from.

But having a girl wasn't the issue, but asking them out was. As much as I was a very shy person, and some would say I was timid, I still had a good arsenal of lines to woo any lady courtesy of my elder brother and my cousin, who were the peak of the town. My biggest issue was the fact that I couldn't use my native language to court any lady, and most of the time when I conversed with them in English, I could not keep it simple.

I was guilty of constantly using not-so-conventional words which usually left my would be friends bedazzled and me embarrassed on their behalf. This was my relationship achilles heels and I decided to make do with my situation and give up on meeting up to my friends' and peers' standards, usually consoling myself with the notion that I've never been a conformist.

Then strode in this petite young lady in a red dress and oversized sunglasses that gave her an air of an overconfident cheerleader. She was a true representation of melanin beauty. Firstly I was infuriated and pissed at the fact that she did not greet me and my guy and we made an agreement that I must tame her wings.

The next day I set my plans in motion and got her contact. We started talking and I immediately knew I had met my match. The energy was electric, the conversation was engrossing with an impeccable vocabulary. The girl I had set out to tame was in turn taming me and stirring emotions that I never knew could be aroused in me.

She was brilliant, clever, smart, charming and challenging. She kept me up on my toes and engaged me in ways I never knew a lady could dare before. She became my go-to person, my confidante and my best friend. At some point my friend got jealous and thought I had lost the way of our agreement, but it did not matter anymore because I had found my missing piece.

We became a team, a pact, and a couple. She was my best bet at a relationship at last. Then came the dreaded time that we never thought would come. I traveled out of the state after my high school and she got admission into college. We tried to keep in touch and eventually, the distance took its toll. One day she called to let me know that she's going to move on. It hurt like a sting from a bee, but I understood her point and I let go.

Years later, we ran into each other again after I had returned home and she came to my town for vacation. Surprisingly, we hit off again like we were never separated. The conversations were organic and she still radiated the same energy as before. Her voice would usually cackle through the air when she laugh, reawakening memories in the process.

It seemed nothing had really changed and we could still talk about everything, including our different journeys through life and how it brought us back together. But this time around, we knew life would happen again and we made an agreement never to lose contact with each other again. It was a pact that we were determined to be faithful to.

And just as e expected, life happened again and she got a job outside the state. At the beginning, we talked everyday, never missing any information about each other's day. But again the distance is taking its toll and the calls are becoming fewer and far in between. It might not be what we envisaged, but one thing is sure, we will not lose contact again.

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